We often say that being dependent on old age is the happiness of a person in his old age.
So, what exactly is the "dependence" in our old age? The answer in everyone's heart should be different.
A friend expressed his thoughts, he said: When I am old, it will be enough to have tea and discuss Taoism with three or five confidants, and spend a leisurely old age together.
In his heart, as long as he still has a few friends to stay by his side in his later years, his old age will definitely not be so bleak. However, I feel that the real "old age" is bleak, not because of no friends, but because of these three points
01
Didn't have a house of their own
"Home" is the harbor of everyone's soul and the witness of the quiet years. However, for those old people who do not have their own houses in their later years, they are like duckweed without roots, adrift in the vast sea of people.
They may live in a cramped apartment, under the roof of a relative, or with their children, but because they don't have a house of their own, they can't find that sense of belonging wherever they are.
If you don't have a house, you don't have a stable place to live, and you don't have a place to put your soul. This kind of wandering life not only makes the elderly feel tired physically, but also puts their minds under great pressure.
Therefore, when people are old, they must have their own nest. Even if it's just a small house, it's enough to shelter yourself from the wind and rain.
With a home, you can have support, confidence, and retreat in your old age.
As the old saying goes: the golden nest and the silver nest are not as good as your own nest.
The house is everyone's biggest retreat, and it is also a necessary guarantee for comfort and comfort for the rest of your life.
02
No wife, alone
In the journey of life, my wife is our closest companion, and we are the confidant who goes through the ups and downs together and shares the joy. However, for those who do not have a wife in their later years, they can only face the hardships and loneliness of life alone.
The days without a wife are silent companionship and endless loneliness. They may be accompanied by children, relatives and friends, but that kind of spiritual fit and tacit understanding is irreplaceable.
Therefore, in their old age, the elderly are more eager to have someone to spend the rest of their lives with, support and care for each other, so that at least there is someone to talk to every day.
As the saying goes, "Young couples are old companions." ”
In old age, children have their own lives, and the one who can really be by our side is the wife.
Because the husband and wife have supported each other through so many years of ups and downs, and they both know each other's preferences and ideas, so in their old age, they have a wife by their side who can cherish and take care of each other, and each other's hearts will be more stable.
03
There is no savings in hand
Although money is not everything, it plays a vital role in later life. Elderly people who do not have savings in their hands often face huge financial pressure and life difficulties.
In old age, we often need to pay for expensive medical bills and nursing care, or deal with some sudden accidents and emergencies, but if you don't have money to spare, you must feel anxious and uneasy.
This kind of financial distress will not only make us feel helpless, but also make us lose the confidence and confidence in life.
Therefore, we must save more money when we are young to cope with various challenges and difficulties in our later life.
I have to say that when you are old and have no money, it will be very painful and unfortunate, and if you rely on your relatives and children to provide help, you are far from being free to have money.
Therefore, having money is always a person's greatest confidence, even if there are no children and filial piety when you are old, you can go to live in a nursing home if you have money in your hands, so at least you will not let yourself live too badly.
04
It is said that whether a person is happy or not is more to look at the scene of old age.
Yes, when people reach their old age, they can still live their own lives and follow their own hearts, which is considered to have lived up to this life.
Therefore, in this life, if you want to live a happy life, you must take precautions, prepare and plan for yourself as early as possible, and strive to accumulate your wealth when you are young, don't sell your old house easily, manage your marriage with your wife, and never abandon each other. In this way, we can live a happy, peaceful, and dignified life in our old age.