As we get older, the circle of life seems to be slowly solidified, but WeChat, a magical social tool, always allows us to keep in touch with old friends, colleagues, and even former lovers.
However, when people reach middle age, the way some friends of the opposite sex chat on WeChat begins to change, which may hide a signal that the relationship is no longer simple.
After people reach middle age, friends of the opposite sex begin to chat like this on WeChat, and the relationship is no longer simple.
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The WeChat prompt tone in the middle of the night, is it friendship or ambiguity?
I remember when I was a child, in the dead of night, the chirping of crickets and the occasional barking of dogs came from the window. Now, in the dead of night, the flashing WeChat prompt sound on the mobile phone screen has become a new "nocturne".
For middle-aged people, busy work and family life make it difficult for them to find opportunities to chat with friends of the opposite sex during the day, so the dead of night becomes the prime time for them to communicate.
However, you need to be wary when friends of the opposite sex start contacting you frequently in the middle of the night to talk about trivial matters or share some late-night thoughts.
Because people are the most likely to make wrong decisions in the middle of the night, not to mention that the relationship between men and women is already fragile, and you are always in contact late at night, the relationship will slowly become not pure.
And this way of chatting can easily give people a sense of dependence and illusion, making the other party think that the relationship between each other has surpassed that of ordinary friends. And once this dependency is formed, it is difficult to return to the simple friendship of the past.
Therefore, the friendship between the opposite sex must understand the sense of boundaries, which is respect and the bottom line.
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Spit on your partner, is it seeking comfort or looking for a replacement?
Middle-aged married life is often full of challenges and contradictions. When we have problems in our marriage, it is natural to confide in our friends.
However, you need to be careful when friends of the opposite sex start to complain to you about the emotional conflicts with your partner.
On the one hand, this kind of complaining may be that the other person is seeking your comfort and support. But on the other hand, it could also be that the other person is looking for an emotional alternative.
He or she may feel that his or her married life has lost its passion and novelty, and he or she begins to look for this feeling in other people of the opposite sex. And once this alternative relationship is formed, it is difficult to return to the pure friendship of the past.
And this kind of thing, as an outsider, you can't really understand it, at most, you can analyze and think from your own point of view, and you can't solve any substantive problems for the other party, but in the end, it will affect your own married life.
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Ambiguous jokes, is it to adjust the atmosphere or imply something?
In WeChat chats, we often use some jokes to adjust the atmosphere. However, when the banter between friends of the opposite sex starts to get ambiguous, you need to be careful.
If you blindly tease the other party and say some ambiguous jokes, maybe you are just talking, but maybe the other party will take it seriously, this is the so-called speaker is unintentional, and the listener is intentional.
And this kind of ambiguous joke is easy to mislead people and will make the other person feel that you have special feelings for him or her.
And once this misunderstanding is formed, it will have a serious impact on the relationship between the two parties. You may start expecting the other person's response and attention, and the other person may also feel stressed about your expectations.
Eventually, this kind of ambiguous joke can make your relationship awkward and complicated, and it can also make your relationship develop into an affair.
Therefore, when getting along with the opposite sex, you must not touch the line of defense and break the balance, otherwise the relationship between the two people will change, and you may never return to the good old times at the beginning.
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In this life, when interacting with people, it is important to know how to measure things, and the relationship between the opposite sex should be even more so.
At any time, we should not behave in our dealings with the opposite sex, because once we destroy the harmony between each other, we will not be able to go back to the beginning.
In short, when we reach middle age, our relationships with friends of the opposite sex become more delicate and complex. On WeChat, a social platform, we need to be more careful about how and what we chat with friends of the opposite sex.
Only in this way can we maintain our simple friendship with each other and make this friendship a precious treasure in our lives.