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Parents play a central role in family relationships, and their presence brings siblings closer together. However, when a parent passes away, the home is like a lost pillar, and the relationship between siblings can also change. For those who have lost their parents, returning to their hometown becomes more complicated. You may ask, where should I go back to my hometown when my parents are gone, and can I go to my siblings' home?
My wife's parents are gone. My mother-in-law died early, and my father-in-law left us 4 years ago. After that, the relationship between her siblings changed. She went to her hometown just for the wedding and funeral of her two brothers and the tomb on the Qingming Festival. Her older brothers, after the death of their parents, seem to be more concerned about interests than family ties.
Her father-in-law's inheritance was supposed to have her share, but her two older brothers divided the portion that belonged to her. Even so, my wife didn't say much, she said that these things didn't belong to her in the first place, and my father might have been dizzy and wanted to give her a little.
Many times, her brothers ignore her feelings when dealing with family matters. She went to her niece's wedding, and the gift money was a little less, and her sister-in-law complained to her in public, and when her brother was sick, she took out the borrowed money to help, but was disgusted that the amount was too small.
She has always been particularly tolerant of such family relationships. She understands that with her parents gone, the emotional bond between siblings may weaken. But she didn't give up on expecting them. Even in difficult moments, she is reluctant to clash with them. She went to attend the wedding of her second brother's daughter, and was criticized by her sister-in-law in public, and when she came back, she didn't blame me for letting her go, but sighed: This is the sophistication of human feelings.
On the Qingming Festival, she went to sweep the graves of her parents, but neither of her two brothers greeted her. She stayed at her uncle's house for one night and left in a hurry the next day. She knows that home is no longer the warm place it used to be. Even so, she chose to stay calm.
For those who have lost their parents, where should they go back to their hometown? Can they go to their siblings' homes? The answer may vary from person to person. If the relationship between siblings is still harmonious, you can certainly go to their house. However, if, like my wife, the relationship has become estranged, or even has a conflict of interest, then you need to be cautious when you return to your hometown.
For my wife, her hometown is no longer her home. She chose to accept reality and no longer expect too much from her siblings. She knows that her parents are gone, her home has changed, and family affection may still be there, but it is no longer something she can rely on.
In such cases, you may need to look for other emotional sustenance. Friends, partners, children, and even community can all be new homes. Most importantly, you need to find your own inner peace and strength not to let the actions of others affect your pursuit of life.
Where should I go back to my hometown when my parents are gone? Can I go to my siblings' homes? There is no standard answer to this question. Everyone's family situation is different, and you need to judge it according to your actual situation. In this process, you have to remember: no matter what happens, you have to find your happiness and stick to it.
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