For most people, marriage is both the end and the beginning of love.
Couples in love are looking forward to entering the palace of marriage and hope that their relationship will last for a long time, while married couples hope to keep their original intentions and go through the journey of a lifetime together.
This bothered her a lot.
We've been in love for eight years, and what was once a goddess has now become a babysitter who takes care of the housework.
Ms. Liu and her boyfriend were classmates and friends, and later her boyfriend showed love to Ms. Liu, and the two came together. From their freshman year, they were in love until graduation and have not separated since. This experience makes people feel a youthful love story.
Ms. Liu recalls the first few years and feels very happy. At that time, her boyfriend took the initiative to pursue her, making her feel like a pampered princess. This relationship gave her good memories.
Because of her boyfriend's love for her, Ms. Liu did not return to her hometown according to her parents' arrangement after graduation, but chose to follow her boyfriend to his hometown. This pampering filled her with confidence and hope for the future.
After going to her boyfriend's hometown, Ms. Liu first lived alone in a rented house, and then moved to her boyfriend's house under her boyfriend's soft grinding and hard soaking.
At first, Ms. Liu's life was peaceful and happy. However, the attitude of her boyfriend and his family gradually changed, leaving her uneasy and troubled. This shift has had a negative impact on her life.
When they began to order Ms. Liu to do this, she felt embarrassed to refuse, so she took the initiative and got to work. However, from this moment on, Ms. Liu became the maid of the family.
The hardships of being a family are not only about showcasing your talents in the workplace, but also about having to spare time at home to complete many household chores. For example, Ms. Liu has to go home to cook after work, and she does almost all the housework alone. And her income has become an important subsidy for the family. Every little bit of life needs us to work together to create a better family life.
The two have been in love for eight years, but they have not yet entered the marriage hall. The woman urged her to get married, but the man put forward the condition that the child wanted first. Will the two usher in a small life first, or will the marriage be delayed for a long time?
This lasted for about two to three years, during which Ms. Liu kept urging her boyfriend to get married, eager to move out after the marriage.
My boyfriend always uses sweet words to perfunctory and comfort me, but he refuses to take action. I was disappointed and dissatisfied with the results.
At first, Ms. Liu had high expectations, believing that her boyfriend's "two more years" was really just two years.
But later, Ms. Liu found out that her boyfriend had been cheating on her.
Unfortunately, the relationship she has carried for eight years is too heavy, and she can't bear to let it go easily. She always deludes herself into believing that if she persists a little longer, her life will be better.
Recently, Ms. Liu urged her boyfriend to get married. This time, she wittily gathered her boyfriend's mother for a serious discussion. The three of them sat down and talked seriously about marriage.
The two of you have been together for so long and I feel like you're already part of our family. In my heart, you should have gotten married a long time ago. We hope you will be able to enjoy our family life and make us a family.
Ms. Liu was saddened by her boyfriend's mother's words, because she was not stupid, and she knew that the so-called husband and child's wedding again was just a means of delay.
When she needed her boyfriend's help, he pretended to be in trouble, answered the phone and immediately went out...... This left her feeling disappointed and helpless.
Marriage is an important decision in a woman's life, and sometimes the choice is more important than the giving.
As the saying goes, "The poor must have something to hate." And Ms. Liu's hatefulness is that she is too humble and has not left her boyfriend's house until now.
Ms. Liu's experience does not deserve to be called a naked marriage, because she gave all her feelings alone, and her boyfriend is completely irresponsible. However, Ms. Liu's innocence and selflessness are obvious.
In real life, there are many women who are similar to Ms. Liu, they are all the favored person in the relationship at first, but as time goes by, this love has become sour.
As the saying goes, women are addition in love, and men are subtraction in love. As soon as a man feels that a woman cannot do without him, he will begin to pay less attention to her. This is a universal emotional phenomenon.
Giving up opportunities, going to your boyfriend's hometown, helping with household chores, and subsidizing the household are actions that often make men feel that you can't live without him. These are important factors that make men emotionally dependent. If you want him to cherish you more and be willing to spend his life with you, these actions will undoubtedly deepen the bond between you.
Dear women, please don't throw yourself into love easily. We all know that humans have a selfish nature, and the other person will not respond more because of your efforts. Please be rational and cautious about love.
Then I talked about a friend close to me who has been dating her ex-boyfriend for many years. Before I got married, she had said that the two were planning to get married. But the strange thing is that even though I am married, they are still "preparing".
Eventually, my friend proposed to break up and chose to return to Chongqing to develop.
It is true that marriage is a major event in a woman's life, not only because two people should get married after being together for a long time, nor because they have to be suitable.
On the road of feelings, choice is more important than hard work. If you choose the right person and marriage, then you don't have to pay too much to achieve happiness.
If you choose the wrong partner, then even if you work tirelessly, you will not be able to get his approval and happiness. No one deserves to give up your ego to pander, let alone lose yourself for the sake of others. So when choosing a partner, you must think carefully, try to keep a clear head, and find someone who is really suitable for you to make your life better.
Ladies, please cherish yourself and give yourself full love and care.
Returning to Ms. Liu, it must be admitted that she has many problems. We often say that before you can love someone, you must be prepared to love yourself.
Clearly, Ms. Liu failed to comply.
How to show love for yourself? Judging from Ximei's view, showing love for oneself requires a little "selfishness" appropriately.
In the process of pursuing love, do not completely surround yourself with the other person, you should also have your own independent life and the opportunity to make your own choices. Also, don't overgive, if the other person can't appreciate your efforts, you can let go and leave. Remember, love needs to be managed by both parties, and cherishing yourself is also a sign of responsibility for love.
More importantly, women should learn to save, be financially independent, and plan financially. Don't think that if you are together, each other's property is common, this is a wrong idea. This is especially important because we cannot guarantee future developments. Women need to have their own financial plans in order to achieve financial freedom when they need it.
If it were business as usual, you would enjoy the dull years. But if something unexpected happens, you will find that what is still his is his, and yours is still his.
Finally, I sincerely wish that every woman can find her own happiness, get rid of the envy or jealousy of the happiness of others, and say goodbye to the years that she has escaped because of pain. I hope that everyone can have a happiness of their own and no longer look for it within the walls.