Recently, the topic of Miao Miao and Zhang Ziyi's marriage has aroused heated discussions, although both of them are decently married on the surface, but behind the closer examination, there are hidden traumas caused by the patriarchal culture of "patriarchy".
Girls have been neglected since childhood, and when they grow up, they choose to give up on themselves, a pattern that is not uncommon among contemporary actresses. We should deeply reflect on the harm of "preference for sons over girls", and call for attention to the growth of girls, so that every life can be loved and respected.
Miao Miao was sent to learn dance at the age of 10, and when she came home to find that her sister was born, she felt that she was no longer cared for by her parents. This trauma of being "replaced" led to her severe insecurity. Despite her excellent performance, she still considers herself "unworthy" and is easily bullied.
When she became an adult, she did not seek to be motivated, and chose Zheng Kai, a "casual object". After marriage, Zheng Kai gave her a sense of security, but she was still sensitive and fragile, and she could touch the pain with a word.
She was desperate to please her family and took the initiative to let them live with her. We must be concerned that girls are neglected from an early age and can be very traumatic.
Zhang Ziyi is regarded as an ambitious strong woman, but her strength stems from her desire for her parents' attention. She doesn't like to dance, but she practices hard to earn recognition. When I got home, I could only sleep on the sofa, and my brother occupied the room.
She uses methods to hurt her body to get attention, but she never cares about her own feelings. After becoming famous, her brother became an agent to satisfy the desire for "returns". Marrying Wang Feng is her weapon against her parents. Zhang Ziyi's strength is essentially a manifestation of being ignored.
Too many actresses have had the experience of being overlooked, and we have to reflect on the patriarchy in the culture. Girls also need the care and attention of their parents to treat them equally. Pay attention to the growth of girls, and do not let them feel inferior and give up on themselves.
Every girl is a unique individual and deserves to be loved. At the same time, they should also take the initiative to heal their trauma as adults and not repeat the pattern of victimization. In life, we should all take self-love as a foothold and not always have to please others.
Every life is born with the qualification to be loved. May every girl grow up in love and respect, and start their brilliant life.
The harm caused by the preference for sons over women is far-reaching. Ignoring girls can contribute to low self-esteem, self-defeating, and make women vulnerable to control and harm. Women who lack self-confidence will also choose marriages that are not conducive to them.
A patriarchal culture fuels domestic violence and inequality. The preference for sons over women hinders women's self-realization and causes the loss of social talents.
Patriarchal preference must lead to reflection, and we call for: attaching importance to girls' education and eliminating gender discrimination; Families give equal care to girls; creating a gender-friendly environment in society; The media disseminates a positive image.
Women should also take the initiative to love themselves and not despise themselves; Working together to give women equal opportunities for development.
Despite the progress of society, patriarchal ideas are still hidden in all corners of the culture. For example, many parents still prefer their sons; In the workplace, it is difficult for women to be promoted; Media stereotypes persist; Women's political participation is underrated......
Patriarchy not only affects individuals, but also harms social development. We must stay awake and take action to make the status of women truly elevated.
Behind Miao Miao and Zhang Ziyi's marriage, it reflects the harm of patriarchy. This kind of prejudice that has been circulating silently requires us to work together to change.
I hope that more girls can grow up in sunshine and love and start their bright lives. I also wish Miao Miao and Zhang Ziyi that they can heal the pain of the past and live their true selves.