Recently, an incident in Xinyuan, Xinjiang, has attracted widespread attention and heated discussions.
The father of the bride-to-be was very emotional and said: The man cheated first, the fault was the first, and he also froze my daughter's bank card! Not only did it hurt my daughter's feelings, but he also had to return the bride price!
It is embarrassing to understand the ins and outs of this incident.
In 2016, the woman and Da Fei met and fell in love and lived together while working outside. On February 8, 2022, the parties returned to the woman's home to hold an engagement ceremony. According to local customs, Da Fei's father Wang Gang gave the woman a bride price of 48,000 yuan and gold and silver jewelry worth 7,033.5 yuan. However, later the woman found out that Da Fei was cheating, and the marriage ended.
What's even more puzzling is that
The court finally ordered the woman to return the bride price 38523.4
$5. After the judgment came into effect, because the woman failed to return the bride price in time,
The woman's father was both indignant and helpless at such a result. The man cheats before marriage, which is a betrayal of the relationship and causes great harm to the woman. And they still have the face to ask for the return of the bride price, which is really unacceptable.
Didn't they think about their own faults? The woman's father's question was legitimate, and his anger was understandable.
This is unacceptable. The court finally decided that the woman and her father should return part of the bride price, which also sparked heated discussions among netizens. has condemned immorality, is a scumbag!
Some netizens believe that the woman had agreed to get married to Da Fei at the engagement ceremony, and later the marriage fell through because of Da Fei's cheating, and the woman should return the bride price.
Some netizens also believe that Da Fei cheated before marriage, and it was his fault that led to the failure of the marriage, and the woman should not return the bride price.
Some netizens believe that the court's judgment is reasonable, taking into account the common life experience of both parties and the influence of the woman, it is more fair to return 70% of the bride price.
Some netizens also questioned: Is such a verdict really reasonable? The man's cheating behavior is the direct cause of the breakdown of the marriage contract, which not only hurts the feelings of Yanzi and his family, but also makes people question the fairness of the law.
The incident has also led to in-depth reflection on the custom of bride price. The bride price has a certain meaning in traditional Chinese culture, but in modern society, it has sometimes become a source of conflict and dispute.
When the relationship breaks down, the bride price often becomes the focus of disputes between the two parties, and even makes the original lovers turn against each other. Should this custom be revisited and returned to its true expression of blessing and heart, rather than becoming a tool for competing interests?
In addition, this incident reminds us to value loyalty and responsibility in relationships. Love is based on mutual respect, trust, and loyalty, and once one partner betrays the other, it will not only bring harm to the other party, but also destroy the feelings between each other.
Da Fei's cheating behavior not only hurt the woman, but also made people see that he was irresponsible in his relationship and did things that hurt others.
For the woman and her father, the dispute was undoubtedly a disaster. They not only have to bear losses from all sides, but also have to face the pressure of public opinion and psychological pain. They should be given more understanding and sympathy, rather than standing on the moral high ground to blame them.
At the same time, it is also hoped that the relevant departments can pay more attention to human feelings and morality when dealing with similar disputes, fully consider the actual situation of both parties, and make more fair and reasonable judgments.
Finally, I hope that the woman and her father can come out of the shadows as soon as possible and start a new life. At the same time, I also hope that similar tragedies will not happen again, so that every relationship can have a happy ending.
What are your thoughts on this? Welcome to the discussion.