Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
There is a saying that if you want to have a happy marriage, you must not only find a good husband, but also find a good mother-in-law.
In real life, discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law abounds, which makes many women afraid of it. I always worry that if I meet a bad mother-in-law, I will not have a good time in the future.
So, what kind of mother-in-law can be considered a good mother-in-law?
Generally speaking, most of the really good mothers-in-law have the following qualities, and they are blessed for a lifetime.
01
Be reasonable and respectful
The first quality of a good mother-in-law is to be reasonable.
They understand the thoughts and practices of young people and do not interfere too much in the lives of their daughters-in-law.
Most of such mothers-in-law know right from wrong, and they know it. Each generation has its own way of life and values, and she will respect her daughter-in-law's choice and be willing to listen to her daughter-in-law's ideas.
For example, when a daughter-in-law wants to develop at work and does not plan to have children for the time being, a reasonable mother-in-law will understand and support her, rather than blindly urging her.
They know in their hearts that everyone has their own life to live, and forcibly interfering will only be counterproductive.
This respect is not only reflected in the respect for the daughter-in-law's personal choice, but also in the respect for the daughter-in-law's family.
A good mother-in-law will respect her daughter-in-law's parents, respect her daughter-in-law's growth environment, and will not point fingers at will because of her high seniority.
As Confucius said, "Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you." ”
A good mother-in-law will lead by example and use her actions to make her daughter-in-law feel truly respected and understood.
02
Loving, tolerant, and good at listening
Good mothers-in-law usually have a loving heart, and they are full of tolerance and kindness to their daughters-in-law.
When a daughter-in-law encounters difficulties or setbacks, a good mother-in-law will give her encouragement and support, rather than sneering on the sidelines.
In daily life, a good mother-in-law will care about her daughter-in-law's body and tell her to pay attention to rest and diet.
When her daughter-in-law encounters problems at work, she will listen patiently and use her experience to help her daughter-in-law as much as possible. This kind of meticulous care will make the daughter-in-law feel warm.
A good mother-in-law, she will also tolerate her daughter-in-law's small shortcomings and mistakes.
They understand that no one is perfect, and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. In the face of their daughters-in-law's shortcomings, they will accept them with a tolerant attitude, rather than blindly blaming.
Rabindranath Tagore once said, "Love is another name for understanding." "Good mothers-in-law use their love to understand their daughters-in-law, tolerate their daughters-in-law, and strive to manage a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
03
Industrious and capable, willing to share
A good mother-in-law is usually a hardworking and capable "representative".
They not only keep their lives in order, but also happy to help their daughters-in-law share the burden.
She will take the initiative to stand up when her daughter-in-law needs help. Whether it's taking care of the children or doing housework, she is willing to do her part without complaint.
Especially when the daughter-in-law is busy with work or unwell, a good mother-in-law will take the initiative to take on the housework so that the daughter-in-law can recuperate with peace of mind.
In addition, a good mother-in-law will also use her own practical actions to educate her children, and will not be too partial and conniving with her children.
As the ancients said, "Home and everything prospers." The diligence and sharing of a good mother-in-law has become a "stabilizer" for the family.
Meeting a good mother-in-law is a blessing in a woman's life.
A good mother-in-law's reasonableness, love and tolerance, as well as her diligence and ability, are the "source" of family happiness. They use their wisdom and love to create a warm and harmonious atmosphere for the family.
As daughters-in-law, we should cherish this rare blessing and work with our mother-in-law to maintain family happiness.
In the end, may we all meet a good mother-in-law, and our lives will be sunny from now on.