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It's been two years since I retired, but I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to add a baby grandson to me. One day, I overheard my daughter-in-law calling her grandson's name, but she followed her surname, and a wave of anger surged in my heart, and I hurriedly asked my son the reason. He said lightly: "Dad, it's okay, as long as the child is our own, it doesn't really matter what the surname is." ”
When I heard this, I became furious, and thought to myself, how could this be a trivial matter? In the eyes of our generation, a child's surname is related to the family bloodline, so how can I take it lightly? So I immediately gathered the neighbors and asked them to testify and make a will to give all my property to my nephew to inherit. After all, how can my hard-earned money be easily left to someone with a foreign surname?
I think that at the beginning, I was born in the countryside, my family was poor, and I lived a tight life all my life. But I have never been stingy with my son, and I have loved him like my life since I was a child. When he grew up, he was admitted to a good university, and I did not hesitate to give 300,000 yuan to support him when I started my business. When he got married, I paid for all the expenses, including the bride price, the banquet, and the car and house.
After my son got married, I also reached the age of retirement, and I received a pension of more than 5,000 per month, and my life was quite passable. It's just that my wife passed away at an early age, and my son is away all the year round, so I am the only one left in the family. But whenever my daughter-in-law is pregnant, I am full of joy and cook by myself, taking care of everything.
At that time, I also specially found someone to choose a good name for my grandson according to the generation. But who knows, when my daughter-in-law was about to give birth, my son told me that they had another name, and they had to take their daughter-in-law's surname. When I heard this, I really had mixed feelings in my heart, and I asked my son angrily, but he said, "Dad, the surname is really not important, the important thing is that we are a family." ”
How can I accept such an idea? In the eyes of our generation, the family name is the continuation of the bloodline, the glory of the family. If my grandson does not take his father's surname, how will he enter the family tree in the future, and how will he enter the ancestral hall after a hundred years? When I explained these stakes to my son, he still insisted on his opinion.
Seeing that I couldn't convince my son, I had to find a neighbor to testify and make a will. My daughter-in-law was also very angry when she heard this, saying that I treated them as outsiders. I told her that my property could only be left to my own family and not to my surname. She retorted that the child was also my own grandson and asked me why I was doing it. I trembled with anger and told them that if my grandson did not take his father's surname, he would not want to get my property.
And just like that, we fell out over it. The daughter-in-law took her grandson back to her parents' house for confinement, and her son also went with her. During that time, I didn't go to see them, and I was always worried about my grandson's surname.
Now, although my grandson finally took his mother's surname, I gradually let go of the obsession in my heart. After all, family affection is the most important thing. I hope that one day, we will be able to untie this knot calmly, although the child's surname is important, but the harmony and understanding between the family are more precious.
The days after retirement were supposed to be peaceful and comfortable, however, the peace in my life was shattered by an unexpected event. Two years ago, I welcomed my long-awaited grandson, which was supposed to be a great event, but was overshadowed by an unexpected detail.
That day, I overheard my daughter-in-law whispering her grandson's name, but I was surprised to find that the name was the same as my daughter-in-law's surname. The joy in my heart was instantly replaced by doubt and dissatisfaction, and I immediately asked my son about the reason. My son replied to me easily: "Dad, it's not a big deal, the child is ours, and it really doesn't matter what the surname is." ”
I listened to his words, but my heart was turbulent. In the concept of our generation, a child's surname is not just a code name, it carries the glory of the family and the continuation of the bloodline. If my grandson doesn't take his father's surname, it will be a departure from the family tradition, and I can't accept that reality.
So, I decided to take action. I gathered my neighbors to be witnesses, and I made a will to give all my fortune to my nephew. My property can only be left to my own family, and it cannot easily fall into the hands of foreign surnames.
When my daughter-in-law and son heard about my decision, they both showed great dissatisfaction and anger. They couldn't understand my persistence and stubbornness, and thought I was being vexatious. I told them that my decision was not made on the spur of the moment, but on the basis of respect for tradition and family.
However, my persistence did not change their minds. The daughter-in-law took her grandson back to her parents' house, and the son followed. During that time, our relationship became extremely strained, almost to the point where we could not communicate.
Looking back now, I was so stubborn at that time. Although the child's surname is important, family harmony and affection are even more priceless. I hope that with time, we will be able to gradually let go of the mustard in our hearts and regain that intimacy and trust. After all, it is a fact that we are all family, regardless of the last name.
Since the leisure time since retirement, I have been looking forward to enjoying my family. However, the waves of life always arise inadvertently. Two years ago, I was delighted to welcome a new life in my family, my grandson, and what should have been a moment of laughter and joy was complicated by a subtle detail.
That day, I accidentally caught the voice of my daughter-in-law calling her grandson, and unexpectedly found that the little life actually took my daughter-in-law's surname. An indescribable wave of emotion welled up in my heart, mixed with doubt and disappointment. So, I approached my son to find out why. He replied easily: "Dad, the times are different now, the surname is not so important, it is good that the child is ours." ”
I listened to his words, but my heart was mixed. In the hearts of our generation, a surname is not just a simple code name, it carries the glory and heritage of the family. I know that if my grandson doesn't take his father's surname, it will be a shock to the family tradition, and I can't accept such a change.
In order to maintain that persistence in my heart, I decided to take action. I gathered my neighbors and friends to bear witness to it, and I solemnly made a will to hand over all my fortune to my nephew. My property should remain in the family and continue the glory of the bloodline.
When my daughter-in-law and son heard about my decision, they were filled with anger and confusion. They couldn't understand why I was so stubborn and thought I was being vexatious. I tried to explain that my decision was not made on the spur of the moment, but on the basis of respect and adherence to tradition and family.
However, my persistence did not defuse their anger. The daughter-in-law took her grandson back to her parents' house, and the son followed suit. During that time, our relationship became tense and distant, as if separated by an insurmountable chasm.
In retrospect, I may have been too attached to traditional ideas. Although the family name is of great significance to the family, the harmony and affection of the family are irreplaceable treasures. I hope that over time, we will be able to gradually let go of the mustard in our hearts and face each other with a more open and inclusive mind. After all, no matter what our surname is, we are all a family, carrying the hope and future of our family together.
After retiring, I thought I would be able to live a peaceful and comfortable life, but unexpectedly, an unexpected episode caused a lot of waves at home. Two years ago, I was overjoyed to welcome the birth of my grandson, but when I overheard that my grandson's name was actually my daughter-in-law's surname, my joy instantly turned into doubt and disappointment.
I immediately approached my son to find out what he was thinking. But he told me disappretently that times are different now, and the surname is not so important, but the important thing is that the family is happy to be together. His words made me a little difficult to accept, after all, in the concept of our older generation, the surname represents the continuation and inheritance of the family, how can it not be important?
To express my dissatisfaction and persistence, I decided to take action. I gathered my friends and relatives and made a will in front of them to give my entire fortune to my nephew. I believe that my property should be left to the people in the family, not to take a foreign surname.
When my daughter-in-law and son heard about my decision, they were very angry and puzzled. They thought I was being vexatious and didn't understand what I was thinking. I tried to explain my position and ideas, but they didn't seem willing to accept it.
During that time, the atmosphere in our house was extremely tense, almost to the point where we could not communicate. The daughter-in-law took her grandson back to her parents' house, and the son also went to her side. Our relationship became alienated and cold.
In retrospect, I may have been too stubborn and clinging to my own ideas. Although the family name has a certain meaning for the family, the harmony and happiness of the family is the ultimate goal. I hope that as time goes by, we will be able to gradually let go of the mustard in our hearts and regain the warmth and intimacy of that family. After all, regardless of the last name, we are all a family and should understand and tolerate each other.
After I retired, I was looking forward to enjoying my family, but unexpectedly, a small problem with my surname made the family atmosphere tense. Two years ago, I was overjoyed by the arrival of my grandson, but when I accidentally learned that my grandson had taken my daughter-in-law's surname, I couldn't help but feel an inexplicable sense of loss in my heart.
I tried to communicate with my son and understand what he was thinking. He told me lightly that now that society has progressed, the surname is no longer so important, and the important thing is the harmony and happiness of the family. However, for me, an older generation who is deeply influenced by traditional ideas, the surname represents the continuation of the family and the inheritance of the bloodline, how can it be easily put down?
In order to express my position and persistence, I decided to take action. I gathered my friends and relatives and solemnly announced that I would give my entire fortune to my nephew to inherit. In my opinion, my property should remain within the family, not outflow.
When my daughter-in-law and son heard about my decision, they were shocked and puzzled. They thought I was being vexatious and didn't understand my intentions. I tried my best to explain my thoughts and concerns, but they didn't seem to be willing to accept them.
During that time, the atmosphere in the house was extremely heavy, as if there was an invisible barrier between us. The daughter-in-law returned to her parents' home with her grandson, and the son followed, and the connection between us was almost severed.
Looking back now, I may have been too attached to traditional ideas and did not take into account the changes of the times and the actual needs of my family. Although the family name has a certain meaning for the family, the harmony and happiness of the family is the ultimate goal. I hope that over time, we will be able to gradually let go of the mustard in our hearts and face each other with a more open and inclusive mind. After all, regardless of the surname, we are all a family and should support each other and grow together.
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