#头条创作挑战赛#
In one of Liu Zongyuan's fables, a unique small creature called the salamander is vividly depicted.
Whenever he encounters anything on the way, he can't help but carry it on his back, no matter what it is, no matter how heavy it is.
Even though the load on its back increased day by day, until it was difficult to walk and could not support its strength, it never had the idea of letting go for a moment. Eventually, the scorpion fell tragically due to its overwhelm.
In real life, there is a striking resemblance between the condition of us humans and this tiny creature.
We are often burdened with the baggage of the past, clinging to every fold of memory even though we are physically and mentally exhausted, we care about the eyes of others, even if it means sacrificing ourselves for recognition, and we are reluctant to change easily, we indulge in deep obsessions that we know are unattainable, but we are unable to let go.
The philosopher Plato wisely warned, "If life does not bring happiness and joy, then it is wise to learn to let go."
The biggest regret in life is to easily give up what should have been held, but stubbornly insist on what should have been abandoned. ”
Therefore, do not let the shadows of the past restrain your steps, and do not cling to the vines of memory and refuse to let go. The fulfillment of life is not about having more, but about knowing when to choose to give up, which is what a true wise man does.
A person's growth and strength often begin with three profound letting go: letting go of the shackles of the past, letting go of the judgment of others, and letting go of inner stubbornness.
Only in this way can we travel lightly and move towards power and freedom in the true sense.
01
Let go of the fetters of the past
There is a saying in the Analects: "If you don't say what you do, you don't tell what you do, and you don't blame the past." The implication of this statement is that it is not helpful to be overly critical of what has already happened, and it is not effective to delve into the past.
Therefore, we should learn to let go, gently let go of the past, and face the future with an open-minded heart.
In the era of the Republic of China, the talented girl Su Xuelin and Mr. Hu Shi formed a deep friendship, and the two have been dating for many years and have a great friendship.
Su Xuelin once praised affectionately: "Listening to Mr. Hu's remarks is not only a grand baptism of the soul, but also an ultimate enjoyment of hearing." Whenever Hu Shi has a new work, he will always give Su Xuelin a copy to show his friendship.
Once, Su Xuelin sent a letter to Hu Shih, freely criticizing the left-wing literary world and Mr. Lu Xun. Although the two had a deep friendship, Hu Shi did not agree with this kind of malicious and abusive criticism, so he exhorted in his reply: "When evaluating a person, you must be fair and fair, love him to be able to see his shortcomings, and dislike him to be able to see his advantages, this is the real justice." ”
However, Su Xuelin was extremely dissatisfied with this reply, and angrily made the content of her correspondence with Hu Shi public, which caused a storm in the literary world in "Bentao" magazine. After this incident, Hu Shi's image was suddenly seriously impacted, and public opinion was in an uproar for a while.
For a long time after that, Hu Shi chose to close his door, and received a large number of letters from readers every day accusing him of deliberately scandalizing Lu Xun's image. Until one day, a friend came to visit and talked about the matter, Hu Shi responded frankly: "What Su Xuelin said is not fiction, it is all facts, and it is not impossible for the world to understand the truth." ”
Since then, Hu Shi has finally let go of this experience, walked out of the shadow of the past, and showed an open-minded and tolerant attitude towards life. He also took the initiative to invite Su Xuelin to the dinner, and the two had a good conversation, and the old friendship was restored to its original state, which was even more precious.
Since then, Hu Shi has insisted on literary creation and managed "New Youth" better and better, thus establishing an outstanding position in the history of literature.
Mo Yan once said: "Life is like a book, only turn it over." We need to learn to look forward and not dwell on the past. ”
No matter how difficult the past is to face, we should try to accept and face it, not to give in, but to face the courage of the past.
There are troubles every day, and if you don't pick them up, you will naturally have them.
Only by letting go of "everything in the past" in time can we usher in a new life.
02
Let go of other people's eyes
Fang Qi, a post-90s travel blogger, has successfully inspired and healed countless hearts with her gentle and powerful language, and is known as the "Treasure Girl". In her video world, every frame is filled with beautiful images.
The Forbidden City under her lens is full of snowflakes flying in the sky, red walls and green tiles reflecting each other, the clouds and mist of the Yellow Mountain and the lonely shadow of the stone monkey appear vivid and quiet from her perspective, and the fields of Dali, the wind blows the wheat waves, showing the poetry and romance of nature.
Last year, her sentence in the variety show "Praise for the Song" "He is strong, he is strong, and the breeze blows the hills", which made her famous, walked out of the original fandom, and won wider attention.
However, behind this smooth sailing, Fang Qi has also experienced all kinds of doubts and attacks. Some people sharply pointed out that her copywriting style is consistent, questioning whether she has exhausted her talents, while others criticized her voice for being bland and boring after listening to it for a long time. These negative comments once plunged her into a whirlpool of self-doubt.
In order to cater to the taste of the public, she has tried to write strategies that she is not good at, and even got involved in the ranks of bringing goods that she is not keen on.
Until one day, a letter from a loyal fan illuminated her journey like a ray of light: "I miss your words so much that whenever I feel down, I immerse myself in your videos, because they contain the most moving and healing words in the world." ”
This letter made Fang Qi suddenly realize, determined to no longer be swayed by the gossip of the outside world, and firmly follow her own path.
Therefore, she continues to record the beautiful and magnificent scenery with delicate lenses, capturing the beauty of life, and she still insists on creating heart-warming copywriting, issuing a unique "Fang Qi-style" voice, and warming everyone around her with a positive influence.
As Haruki Murakami said, "No matter what people all over the world say, I firmly believe that my feelings are the most real." Fang Qi's story is the best interpretation of this sentence.
No matter what others think, I don't change my pace, and the things I love will naturally stick to them, and the things I don't like will not last.
On the road of life, no matter how hard we try to meet the expectations of others, we cannot satisfy everyone.
If we are too susceptible to the influence of others, we may end up becoming "handan toddlers" and forgetting how we should follow our own path.
Life is for oneself, not for the sake of showing others.
The most important thing in life is not to blindly imitate the lifestyle of others, but to live at your own pace.
03
Let go of your own obsessions
In the vast Q&A on the Internet, I came across a question: What is the biggest impact of too much obsession on individuals?
One of the answers is like a sharp arrow piercing the heart, revealing the essence of obsession - it is like an invisible net woven by the self, which makes people trapped in it and unable to escape.
The book "The Narrative of Enlightenment" says: "Self-attachment is the root of all problems. This means that sometimes what imprisons our steps and shackles the freedom of our minds is not the external disturbance or the shackles of others, but the stubbornness and persistence that comes from the heart.
"Traveling in Songfeng Pavilion" records a philosophical fable of Su Shi. When he was in Huizhou, one day he walked to the Songfeng Pavilion and had the ambition to climb to the top to see the mountains. However, halfway through the climb, he felt that his strength was gradually exhausted and exhausted.
Looking up, the peak is still out of reach, and I can't help but be clouded with a layer of haze in my heart, and I am in a dilemma. If you continue to climb, you will be unable to do so, and you will be out of breath, and if you choose to give up, you will be unwilling.
At this moment of hesitation, a gust of breeze came, brushing the cheeks, and the light and shadow in the forest were mottled, which made people feel suddenly bright. Su Shi instantly realized: "Why do you have to be obsessed with reaching the top? ”
This moment of awakening is like a fish breaking free from the hook and regaining its freedom. Although Su Shi was unable to come to the top of the mountain and have a glimpse of the peak scenery, he was immersed in the pine waves and the tactful singing of birds at this moment, and gained a tranquility and joy from the present, and realized the sublimation of the soul.
In life, most people are often bound by the shackles of "self-grasping":
Some people, regardless of their actual situation, are eager to pursue the so-called "standard" life, so that they are exhausted and exhausted in the chase;
Some people, keen on quick success, staring at the halo of a high position like a torch, but because of this, they ignore the work in front of them, resulting in a mess of the things at hand and cannot be sorted out;
There are also people who are deeply trapped in an emotional entanglement that is not suitable for them, and even if they struggle painfully, they are unwilling to let go of it.
The essence of this is that the more obsessed you are with getting, the easier it is to lose what you might otherwise have.
It's like a grain of sand in your hand, the tighter you hold it, the faster it will drain away. The desire to cling to it hastened its disappearance.
Kazuo Inamori once profoundly explained: "The most extensive prison in the world is the inner world of people." If you can't break free from the shackles of self-obsession, no matter where you are, you will be like a prisoner in distress. ”
Once you are caught up in an obsession, you will be bound by it and will not be free.
It is the unbearable burdens of life that shackle life and make it difficult. However, when we have the courage to let go of our inner attachments and untie the shackles that imprison our hearts, we can let our souls be placed and find our own home.
I particularly appreciate an incisive exposition by Liushen Leilei:
We should pursue our dreams with enthusiasm, but at the same time we should adjust our pace with gentleness;
We can firmly express our dissatisfaction and accusations, but we also do not forget to take care of our inner world with a warm heart.
In the same way, we can resolutely refuse and let go, but when we turn away, we may wish to give a gentle goodbye.
Many times, our pain stems from excessive stubbornness, and the "negative energy" in our hearts accumulates over time and gradually becomes a heavy burden.
In fact, on the road to happiness and strength, we need not only to actively do addition, but also to be good at subtraction.
Learn to let go of the past and not let the past become a stumbling block for moving forward, know how to block out the distractions of the outside world and not be swayed by the judgment of others, bravely abandon meaningless obsessions, and do not let desire control yourself.
Only in this way, in the flow of time, can we wait for the flowers of life to bloom, leisurely and peaceful.