You say you're fair, I say I'm fair; if you're fair or not, God knows!
There is a justice-respecting old man in Peking Opera [Su Sanqi Solution], who reads these words of white as soon as he comes out, and these words are deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, so that I will remember them for a lifetime!
Many things in the world are measured differently in the eyes of different people.
So the pursuit of justice (note that, I'm not talking about the pursuit of justice) is very difficult to achieve.
Because the matter of justice, although it is in the hearts of the people, but from this point of view, it is on the left. From that point of view, it's right.
The so-called clean officials are difficult to decide family affairs. Probably so!
I know an eldest sister who was very envious of my relationship with my younger brother, and one day the eldest sister came to me and saw my younger brother taking my hand for a walk.
The eldest sister said:
Oh, a pair of sisters and brothers who are over half a hundred years old can still hold hands in that happy walk, go to the commissary to buy popsicles, you take a bite, I take a bite, the same as when I was a child, I really envy you!
The eldest sister described it as quite hot. But my brother and I didn't think so. Because we both have cold constitutions, we can't finish buying a popsicle. That's it, the two of them bought one, and they have been like this since childhood. You take a bite and I take a bite.
But this matter fell into the eyes of the eldest sister, and it was a little sad, and the eldest sister said:
My brother and I were like this when we were younger, but when we got older, we didn't do it!
Now we're separated.
Our sister and brother, grew up together, and the two of us at home are naturally very good, but later they got married and started a family, since the younger brother married the younger brother and sister-in-law, and changed the person, this road has become worse and worse...
This kind of complaint from the eldest sister is actually not new. In the emotional world of many people, there is a thought that love is possession.
That is to say, if I love someone, I have to ask him to love me, he loves me faithfully, he loves me all, he loves me alone!
Some people think that love is a beam of light, a beam of sunlight shining through the crack in the door, falling on the ground, there is only one line.
I have reservations about this, I think love is a big sun, can shine a 360-degree angle for you!
Especially brotherhood, this kind of blood relative, it is not the same as in-law. Not exclusive!
The relationship between husband and wife needs to be one-on-one, a pair of N, okay?
The correct answer, of course, is no.
But to be honest, I personally have reservations about this.
Because I've really seen the kind of family where one person has several spouses, and they live in harmony and happiness. After all, there are still 500 million people in our world who are in this kind of concept.
Just like when I was younger, I had a friend whose wife was very serious about persuading me to join their family!
The lady said to me in stammering English and with exaggerated gestures:
I'm different from you, and we're not like you. There can be many kinds of life, and I sincerely hope that you will join our family.
Although I politely rejected the second lady, I had no doubt about her sincerity. Because through long-term contact, I have found that there are people in this world who demand more from their spouses for contribution than for loyalty. In their thinking, the family is a company!
Some women in the culture do not require the company to be a wholly-owned company with their own shares, they prefer that the company will become bigger and bigger, and the bigger the cake, the more their own part.
Therefore, there may be wives, and I sincerely hope that the husband will marry a few more capable women, so as to make our family bigger and make our wealth more.
Of course, here, I only present the thoughts of another four or five billion people on this earth, which is different from our ideology, and we also respect their ideas!
But at the same time, for blood relatives, I don't think I personally have that sense of possession.
Just like a younger brother, when he grows up, he will naturally marry a wife, have children, and even have grandchildren and daughters-in-law in the future, which is a good thing, which does not affect his love for me, and I will also hope from the bottom of my heart that his home will become more and more prosperous!
And so on.
I used to say to many people who have siblings, you have to accept that sister, sister, brother and brother who have been grinding with you since childhood. One day he will give a lot of love to others, but if he loves others, it does not mean that he does not love you, and the love he gives others is not taken away from you.
I tactfully told the eldest sister what I meant, but the eldest sister still sighed, and she said:
It's not like that, after my brother got married, especially after he had children, he really changed!
Then the eldest sister told me the story of her family.
The story of the eldest sister and the younger brother is very long, but it can be condensed to the following in a nutshell:
In the early years of the eldest sister's family, there was a recruitment index, which was originally given to the eldest sister by the street, but after weighing the pros and cons, she gave the index to her younger brother and asked her younger brother to go to the factory as a worker instead of her.
Because my younger brother was not in good health, he was not admitted to college in the college entrance examination. Her brother, a high school student, didn't say anything after he arrived at the factory, because he was valued by the leaders because of his high education.
Just in time for the late 80's and early 90's, many factories were upgraded. In this way, he was sent to a junior college class, studied for two years, and then had an opportunity to go abroad for exchange. My younger brother hurriedly chewed Japanese overnight, and in this way, after passing the language barrier, he was able to go to Japan for a year of exchange!
It won't be him when he comes back.
Eldest sister, this evaluation of the younger brother, in fact, is really true! Her little brother has a very bright brain, and after coming back, he became the squad leader, and soon became the director of the workshop, and then became the deputy manager of the branch, and then went to the sea to do business!
Of course, this younger brother did not become a big boss, but opened a processing factory by himself, made furniture, earned some money, bought a car, and added two sets of three-bedroom apartments, and lived a very wealthy life. My brother and sister are also very close. I often run to my sister during the New Year's holidays, sending chickens and ducks!
But one day my sister wanted this younger brother to buy a wedding house for her son, but this matter was rejected by my younger brother!
This refusal surprised the eldest sister.
My sister thinks so, this wedding house is only equivalent to 1/10 of my brother's assets, why don't you buy it for my son.
But the younger brother didn't think so, he felt that his sister wanted too much!
Family affection is mixed with entanglements of interests, which is indeed difficult to do. Because my brother is no longer the little boy who shared popsicles with his sister.
Now that the younger brother has a wife and children, the assets in the name of the younger brother have become a piece of cake that they share, and the younger brother-in-law and the children do not agree with the younger brother to cut it.
But my sister thinks:
Where did you get this piece of cake? If I hadn't given you that dough, I hadn't given you the index, I had to go to the factory, would you have everything that had gone to the factory? You should be grateful to me for everything you have now!
What do you mean by that?
A big carp has survived in a scoop of water, and how should this big carp repay this scoop of water? There is no conclusive conclusion, I will just talk about my own situation.
I said to my eldest sister:
The reason why I have a good relationship with my brother is because I also have a good relationship with his wife and his children!
In the early years, when my younger brother first started to do real estate, I also helped him by being a free employee in his company, helping with negotiations and socializing.
At that time, there were too few people under my brother, so he pulled me in. Later, when his company encountered major difficulties, I also helped him, and I was able to get my hands on these, so I naturally had to take advantage of them.
But I don't expect anything in return from my brother, the biggest thing he gives me now and makes me happy is that my brother has made a lot of Starbucks cards for me, and I can go there for coffee and snacks.
To be honest, a meal at Starbucks is sixty or seventy early, and eating every day is a bit expensive for my income.
As for my brother's luxurious life, I have no interest in his four or five sports cars and luxury cars, and as for his mansion, I don't think it is as good as my little house.
To be honest, what I miss the most so far is the 38-square-meter small room that was allocated to me by the unit back then. The height of the third floor, not high or short, pushing the window is a small garden, birdsong bursts of flowers...
I can create the material conditions that I need myself, and I have a surplus. Don't look at his brother's high income, but his life is shrinking, and recently he asked his daughter-in-law for money. The eldest grandmother glanced at him and asked him to cut his expenses in Shanghai, especially the expenses for raising foxes!
I don't have foxes, let alone foxes, I can't even raise cats and dogs. Allergies, as for my wife, he is an employee of a large enterprise, and his only hobbies are playing mahjong and fishing, but people don't suffer anything.
Nine times out of ten, he wins!
It is common to win one or two hundred in one night, and he uses mathematical probability to play mahjong, but people can't do him.
There is no compensation for fishing, the fishing rod has been cured a long time ago, and he specializes in wild fishing. It doesn't cost money to fish in the pond, saying that I went to a friend's place, anyway, my family hasn't bought river fish for many years, and they all point to him to fish, and occasionally they can carry a king back.
So I have no desire for my brother!
Of course, it is definitely good for me for my brother to get rich, and my brother and daughter-in-law are very supportive and happy for me when my brother sent me to Singapore for surgery a few years ago.
My brother's high income also allowed him to hire a nanny to take care of the bitter legacy of my father, and now the old lady has Hemel's disease!
Specific to me, there is no need, although my brother often sends me packages, send some rice today, send some noodles tomorrow, send a soybean sour date the day after tomorrow, and then a white fish black chicken, and that's it!
If family affection is always clear and not mixed with interests, then he can always be like a piece of crystal ice for 10,000 years!
Many people say that ice is the easiest to melt.
Where is that place?
The ice in Antarctica has not melted for millions of years. In the summer, the ice cubes taken out of the popsicle box on the side of the road can only be left for five minutes!
It also depends on the external conditions.
Therefore, maintaining family affection mainly depends on the conditions. What do you say, I thought about it, so persuade the eldest sister...
I said a lot of things, you have to look at history, let me tell you a piece of history.
After the end of the Anti-Japanese War, Chiang Ching-kuo saw that the Kuomintang was declining, the financial chaos was in chaos, and the four major families were eating wildly, so the eldest prince proposed to fight the tiger in Shanghai, what was the result?
It's okay to fight mosquitoes, but not tigers! Fighting tigers touches the interests of the Kong and Song families!
Who is Kong Song?
In the final analysis, isn't it just that Song is the main thing, supplemented by Confucius? Song is Chiang Kai-shek's close person, a close person, Song Meiling.
It was she who helped Chiang Kai-shek start his business back then!
She was also the one who supported her husband in the Xi'an Incident, but at this time, she was the one who scraped the people's fat and the people's ointment, regardless of the survival of the party and the state!
Or is represented by her, the large number of vested interests behind her, and who are these people fighting with, in fact, they are still fighting with Lao Jiang himself!
Because the eldest prince is Chiang Kai-shek's only son, the old Chiang does not know the world of the Republic of China, so it is better to keep it, and it is better to pass on his position to his son. All kinds of financial chaos, the early deadline as well!
It is better to defeat all corrupt officials and corrupt officials, big and small.
But in reality he was already tied to another ship!
In fact, in all fairness, Chiang Kai-shek's life was not extravagant, whether it was dressing and eating, or moving and living, he did not make it very luxurious. But he can't control the people around him.
He can't balance the two forces of his wife and son, and from many old photos in the literature, we can see that Chiang Kai-shek had a deep relationship with Soong Meiling in the middle and late periods.
Conversely, can you say that Chiang Kai-shek and Chiang Ching-kuo did not have a deep relationship?
You know, that's the only sure blood and bones he can test. Chiang Kai-shek is a very traditional Chinese man, he admires Zeng Wenzheng Gong very much, and how can such a person not think about his own heirs?!
So it's a left-right fight!
He can't balance it, Lao Jiang is supervising the battle on the front line, and at the same time, he has to settle down in the rear to mediate Kong Song, now that I think about it, it's really a mess!
At that time, Yu Youren prophesied:
The things of the moment will be broken!
The implication is that if you want to expel Kong Song, there is only one possibility, and that is a big failure.
Only after retreating to Taiwan will these two big moths fly away and leave the government!
The later result was indeed the case, the fairy grandmothers of the two families were sent away, and the remaining Chen family was also expelled, and the eldest son was able to live in a corner of the house in a down-to-earth manner, and finally managed his own one-acre and three-point land!
So some big figures in history can't balance things, how do you let us ordinary people balance?
How do you make your brother decide?
He is no longer alone, he has his own family, wife, children, and even his mother-in-law, father-in-law, he also has a sister-in-law, a sister-in-law, and a bunch of relatives neatly, all counting on him, can help!
For the sake of interests, the family affection is cold, this thing is not worth it, many things are still thought of from a different angle, in fact, the person who makes you hate it so much is probably understandable!
Since not being children, we don't have the right to be spoiled, many things, we should know how to advance and retreat, this is the sign that a mature person should have!
Don't look back at the many big trade-offs and big decisions in life, whether you did it right or not.
Just like the eldest sister said, I also graduated from high school at the beginning, and if I went to that factory, Balabala!
Alas, when I heard this, I persuaded my eldest sister:
Looking through the Dream of Red Mansions, only five words were actually written:
It's a pity I'm not blessed!
Futian is only three points of thin land, where can we cultivate five acres? Let's just follow our little bit of cultivation and live our own life well!
Creation is predestined!
If you want to open a little, be relaxed with yourself and others, everyone's brains are relaxed, take a step back, and some family affection can be restored!
A popsicle, he gave you.
A house, he is difficult!
If you have a country, you will have to die!
