The water is silent,
People are steady.
Silence is always connected with profundity, and it has nothing to do with shallowness. As the old saying goes: "If the water is deep, it will flow slowly, and if you are noble, you will speak late". The strong in life are often hidden, like full ears of wheat, low-key and humble. Don't talk about the rights and wrongs of others, and don't care about what others say. No two leaves are the same in the world, and everyone has their own character and opinion. Don't expect others to share your point of view, and don't expect others to understand you completely. It is more important to enrich yourself than to please others, and the better the person, the more controversial it is. Don't use your limited vision and cognition to arbitrarily comment on a person's good or bad, and judge the right or wrong of a thing.
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The water is silent
In life, those places where the living environment is noisy and the crowd is chaotic seem to be gaining confidence, but in fact, they are all people who constantly have grievances and grievances over trivial matters. People grow up in this environment, like fish in a shallow, turbid pond, mixed with fish and dragons, constantly fighting for the only bit of forage.
Over time, man is degraded in such an ambiguous and insensitive environment, and the soul becomes more and more barren. Shelley said, "Shallow waters are noisy, deep waters are silent." "The true wise man in life, the more he is in front of others, the more he hides his edge. Because they understand that only by being a low-key person can they get rid of all unnecessary troubles and achieve their own heights. "You can't be too precise in everything, you can't be too precise in everything, you can't be too harsh on people, too harsh and have no friends.
Only by knowing how to retreat can we show our magnanimity, and if we know how to tolerate it, we can show generosity. Learn to calm down and learn to hold back your anger and face dissatisfaction. Lao Tzu once said: "Great wisdom is foolish." "What's the matter with some losses on the lips, what about letting him score three points. Everyone needs to be respected, everyone wants to be understood. Return to yourself, nourish your soul, and slowly find a way out and find a place to go in the depths of your soul.
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People are steady
Zi said: "A gentleman wants to be quick to his words and quick to act." "No matter how much you brag about yourself, what is the use of having no ability to do a good job once you have done a good job. The power of action trumps all words. If you can explain it in action, you don't need to say it. "Historical Records" contains: "Those who have thunder in their chests and their faces are like a peaceful lake can worship the general." "The Book of Rights: The Art of the Heart" has a saying: "Mount Tai collapses in front and the color remains the same, and the elk is on the left and the eyes are not instantaneous." It is not difficult to see that the more impetuous and flamboyant people are, the more superficial and unqualified they are. The more powerful a person is, the more he can calm down.
They don't panic when they encounter trouble, even though the river and the sea have been turned over in their hearts, the surface is still unfazed. In the "Warning Words", it is said: "It is not about oneself to take care of it, and there is no speculation in words." "Silence is a philosophy of life, and when used well, it is also an art. True kindness is not to blame others easily, nor to judge others easily, after all, the words blurted out are often not elegant, and sometimes they will hurt others.
Knowing interest is the safety valve of interpersonal communication, and the main culprit of the collapse of most interpersonal relationships is lack of interest. As a human being, it is the ability to speak, and knowing how to shut up is the practice.
The water is silent, and the people are steady.
Life is not a battlefield, and there is no need to compete against each other. Between people, there will be less misunderstanding if there is more understanding, and between hearts, more tolerance will lead to less disputes. Zhu Ziyun: Things are difficult to do, so you must be sensitive, and words are easy to say, so you must be cautious. People who are truly cultivated and capable are those who talk less and work diligently. Replace rhetoric with down-to-earth work, and replace rhetoric with honesty and sincerity. It is the so-called: the sound of the voice, the elephant is invisible!