Text | Mi Li's mother
When it comes to Cai Lan, I think everyone will first think of food like Mi Li's mother. I started reading Cai Lan's food books more than ten years ago, and sometimes I would look at his Weibo, and the painting style, how to say it, was very "Su Dongpo".
Cai Lan and Su Shi seem to have some kind of commonality, they are both talented people who dance and write, have a wide life, and like food the most.
Su Dongpo has been degraded several times, and the more he is degraded, the farther he goes, but he can find a sense of happiness everywhere he goes, and he can also create food rich in local characteristics, which has been passed down for a hundred years: "CCTV's high-scoring documentary for children is here, "The Classic of Mountains and Seas" and "Fixing the Storm" must not be missed.
Cai Lan, who has not appeared for a long time recently, has finally returned to the public eye.
His wife has passed away, and the 82-year-old has sold the house he lives with and moved into a first-class seaview hotel serviced apartment in Tsim Sha Tsui, where he can enjoy the view every day.
He gave all the precious collections he had collected to the people he was destined to do, leaving only the Pu'er tea from 50 years ago to enjoy for himself.
Eight people are hired to take care of his daily life, he drinks tea and plays games when he gets up, and sometimes he receives some visiting friends, but if anyone dares to raise objections to his lifestyle, he immediately evicts them:
"When my friends come, if they tell me to go to bed early and wake up early, or to abstain from this or that, I'll kick them out. I've worked so hard to get to this point, and no one cares, and you're still taking care of me?"
This kind of hedonistic pension that scatters all the family wealth is not exactly what Su Shi said in "Fixing the Storm":
"Don't listen to the sound of the forest beating the leaves, why not chant and walk slowly"? The kind of "bamboo cane and mango shoes are lighter than horses, and a cloud of smoke and rain is life" also coincides with what Cai Lan said: "Living one day is one day, and it doesn't matter if you die one day."
When asked if he was satisfied with his life, Cai Lan said:
"You can't say you're satisfied, but you can say you've lived. ”
The expansiveness and romance of the talented people of Xiangjiang
Cai Lan and Jin Yong, Ni Kuang, and Huang Zhan are known as the "Four Great Talents of Hong Kong", and now except for Cai Lan, the other three have passed away.
Born in Singapore, Cai Lan has been chic and uninhibited all his life, rolling in the red world, with a lot of wine and wealth, but the spiritual world is also extremely full, with a variety of titles as writer, gourmet, film producer, and host.
In the words of my friend Jin Yong:
"He has a wide range of knowledge, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, eating, drinking, and playing, literature and movies, and is proficient in everything. ”
Cai Lan was born into a family of scholars, her father was a poet and calligrapher, and her mother was a primary school principal and a pioneer of feminism. She had opposed the binding of small feet and advocated for women to read and be educated.
The Cai family and the Shaw family are world friends, so Cai Lan has been in contact with the film industry since he was a child.
At that time, Cai Lan, Ni Kuang, and Huang Zhan were all romantic and talented, and they often spoke in the color field. As soon as the girls in the nightclub heard that a few of them were coming to patronize, they would rather listen to them chat without charging for them, just to eat melons.
Zi said: Chromophobia also. Cai Lan adheres to the "sage training", likes "food" on the one hand, and is very "lustful" on the other.
In an interview, he roughly counted the girlfriends he had dated, at least 61, and said:
"It's not too much to date once a year, right?"
Because the accumulation of the amount is large enough, he understands women very well. He has published 200 books, one of which is called "Confidante", which is specifically about women.
is also because chatting with the girls in the sound field is so popular, Cai Lan immediately decided to open a show called "No Defense Tonight".
The three talents of the night club regulars are the hosts, and big names like Leslie Cheung and Lin Qingxia are invited as guests.
Although Cai Lan is in love, the leaves in the thousands of flowers do not stick to him. But there has never been a girlfriend who has ever said bad things about him, and I haven't seen anyone tear him up, and they all think of him after a peaceful breakup.
But there is always a time when the prodigal son in love wants to take the mountain, and when he meets Fang Wenqiong, Cai Lan feels that he should become a family.
The two decided to dink and give each other enough space, and they lived in harmony for decades. Fang Wenqiong knew him well enough to adopt a "free-range" policy for him, and the two of them respected each other like guests until they grew old, until Fang Wenqiong accidentally fell and died suddenly.
The well-deserved "God of Food"
Cai Lan is known as the "God of Food", his pursuit of food can be described as authoritative, and his taste is believed that no one is unconvinced.
Every time Mi Li's mother looks at his Weibo, it seems that she is watching a large-scale food Amway sticker, and every time she is salivating and successfully planted.
Last year, the old man posted a Weibo, saying that he was ill and asked everyone to give him some time, and then he hid for a while:
The reason is precisely because his wife fell unexpectedly and unfortunately passed away, and he also fell.
In the interview, he described the situation:
"In our later years, we slept in separate rooms, and one night I suddenly heard a bang in her room, and the workers and I rushed to my wife's room as soon as possible, and I fell down halfway through, and my wife left soon after the accident, she was lucky not to suffer too much, and I had to have surgery to insert steel because of a broken femoral neck, and I still do physical therapy and rehabilitation exercises. ”
Cai Lan was not too heartbroken about his wife's departure, he said:
"Ni Kuang is an alien and very wise, he told me before his death that the pain of the body can be eliminated by taking painkillers, and if one pill is not enough, take a few more grains, it will definitely relieve the pain; ”
I have to say that Cai Lan is really hard to be depressed. His mode of thinking is the kind of relaxation that does not have internal friction at all, and the process is hard and the result is random.
In fact, you will find that in order to live happily, many times you need to change your mind. When the development of the situation is out of control, you have to try to reverse your thoughts to adapt to the situation, and then you will be happy anyway.
Changing thoughts is really an ability, and it is not an accident that he can spend his whole life in style.
The funny thing is that there are still people who are yin and yang but end up alone, for Cai Lan, if he really wants to have children, will it be difficult?
Regarding this matter, he has already mentioned it in a previous issue of "A Date with Luyu":
"The water is polluted, the air is polluted, there are very few fresh fish, the world is not a very good world, and it is really worry-free not to have children. ”
Mi Li's mother just wants to say, it's better not to speculate on the decision of a talented person with narrow subjective thoughts, it's really not necessary.
Cai Lan reappeared, focusing on a break. Things should be given away, things should be sold, and the rest of life is left to enjoy food. He said:
"I'm fine, I don't care about anything now, I can't care so much, I will try the dishes that fewer people make, such as Sichuan food, Indian food, especially Fujian food, when I was a child, I miss the taste in Singapore, I recently went to the Kwun Tong factory building to try one, it is very good, it is the taste in my memory. ”
The sour melon-eating crowd is still laughing at the old man's loneliness, and the old man cares about food and has no time to pay attention to it. If you really ask him, he will most likely immediately issue an eviction order, and there will certainly be nothing good to say.
The realm of "lifelong life".
Ni Kuang said: "Cai Lan is one of the few people who has no one behind him to speak ill of him. ”
Huang Zhan said:
"Cai Lan is my most trusted friend. ”
Jin Yong said:
"I'm not as good as Cai Lan in terms of being versatile, he is a really chic person. ”
The best friends around him for so many years have such an evaluation of him, which should be very objective.
In fact, Cai Lan's dashing style is a very sober choice. He is very demanding of himself and has always worked hard.
When he was studying, in order to be able to understand foreign movies, he studied Chinese school in the morning and English school in the afternoon.
He has consistently read an astonishing amount of books, and his consistently productive output is actually due to constant input, saying:
"If a writer doesn't like to read, he's not qualified to be a writer. ”
Many people have asked Cai Lan: Filmmaker, gourmet, businessman, what do you do? Cai Lan said:
"I just want to be a human being, it's not easy. ”
He is talented, enterprising, and loves life enough. He knew that this world was not a good world, but he was still happy to live to die.
Just like the dialectical unity between the vulgar and the elegant, Cai Lan found his own balance between birth and entry into the world, and enjoyed it.
Cai Lan's practice of arranging his life in his later years is actually quite rational.
There is a popular concept of "lifelong retirement" in Japan, and "lifelong living" has become a popular word for the elderly. It refers to the elderly sorting out their last life, which is simply the end-of-life activity.
At the age of 40, he began to concentrate on handling items, and a large number of discarded;
50 years old to deal with sports equipment and tools that are loved when you are young, but cannot be used in old age;
At the age of 60, dispose of real estate and furniture, leave a simple and easy to manage, easily accessible place, or simply rent a small house in the center of the city.
At the age of 70~80, I handled a car and began to live a life completely dependent on public transportation.
Dispose of the collection, streamline and dispose of the album, leave a small number of photos, and digitally format them for the child.
After the age of 80, gradually cancel all kinds of online accounts (such as mailbox, Taobao, Alipay), and leave only one electronic payment.
The handling of housing should be entrusted to a specific person or company......
The fear of death can be reduced to a minimum in this rational and well-thought-out plan, because most of people's fear comes from the unknown.
When everything is arranged, every remaining day is a gift of life, live one more day to earn one day, every day is used to enjoy life, and you will naturally treat yourself well.
In fact, Mi Li's mother has always felt that Cai Lan has always been sober in the world. Because no matter how we live, we will eventually lead to the same end and the end of life.
But looking back on the whole course of life, the higher the quality of life accumulated every day, the happier the life, no matter how incomprehensible it is in the secular sense, and whether you are happy or unhappy every day, only you know best.
Cai Lan's concept of pension is worthy of his title of "Xiangjiang Genius". He balances freedom and rationality, between amorous and reliable, between effort and relaxation, between drunkenness and wakefulness.
He is such a charismatic person, he is not judged by anyone, he is only responsible for his own choices.
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