Hello everyone, I am the family education instructor Guo Ma~
As a parent, how old do you think your child can buy a mobile phone?
Guo Ma has heard many answers.
For example, some parents feel that they can give it when they go to primary school, because before primary school, children have been at home with their parents, grandparents and grab mobile phones for many years;
For example, some parents feel that they can give it when they go to junior high school, when their children are older and have stronger self-control, and mobile phones are also a tool for them;
For example, some parents feel that they should not give their children mobile phones, and it is most appropriate to wait until their children go to college. Because adults have no self-control, let alone children, don't talk about mobile phones when it's time to study.
01 At what age can a child buy a mobile phone?
Bill Gates mentioned in an interview on the "Today Show" that his children were only allowed to use mobile phones after their 13th birthday.
He believes that 13 years old is the right age for children to have their first mobile phone.
The United States has done a survey of parents, of which 45% of parents believe that it is more reasonable to collect from their children at the age of 12-14, and 73% of parents believe that they should give their children mobile phones after they are 12 years old.
12 or 13 years old, for children, it is the age of the sixth grade and the first year of junior high school.
In terms of self-control, children at this age are finally more mature and able to control themselves a little;
From the perspective of three views, the three views of children at this age have almost been formed, and they are not easy to be affected by the content of mobile phones.
It's just, can you give it when you're old?
No, there are 3 other conditions that need to be met.
02 Meeting the 3 conditions is a prerequisite, otherwise parents cannot agree
Condition 1: Whether the child is self-disciplined
A child who is not self-disciplined, after the "freedom of mobile phones", that study and life may be wasted.
I only care about playing with my phone every day, how can I have time to study?
Therefore, children must be self-disciplined before they can give mobile phones.
How can you tell?
Parents can mainly look at the following points:
whether the efficiency of doing homework on weekdays is high, and whether it is often procrastinated;
When you played with your mobile phone before, whether you were able to turn it in on time;
When you talk about using your phone as a learning tool, do you want to play with anything else?
With self-discipline, it is possible for children to control themselves in the matter of "playing with mobile phones".
Condition 2: Whether the child has a good parent-child relationship with the family
This is something that many parents ignore.
Because after the child has a mobile phone, in fact, during that time, it may be "uncontrollable".
If the parent-child relationship is relatively poor, then the parents will not be able to control the child at all, which will only make the conflict worse, and the child will become more and more rebellious and want to play with the mobile phone more.
Then, the mobile phone war is about to break out.
If the parent-child relationship is relatively good, even if the child is a little out of control when playing on the mobile phone, the parents can still persuade it, and the child can still "break" it.
So, what is your parent-child relationship with your child?
Condition 3: Does the child know what the mobile phone does?
This question, in fact, also depends on the parents.
If parents hold their mobile phones to watch TV series, watch videos, and play games at home every day, then most children will not feel that mobile phones are just a tool for learning and connecting.
Parents have to set a good example for their children, so that the mobile phone becomes a "tool", so that the child may not become a "slave" of the mobile phone.
As long as the child knows that the mobile phone is a tool that can be used to watch documentaries, find information, and satisfy his or her hobbies, then the child will not go too far.
So, do your children meet these 3 prerequisites?
03 Before giving your child a mobile phone, let your child learn to "put down the phone"
Many parents, when thinking about when to buy a mobile phone for their children, actually have to teach their children how to put down their mobile phones.
In fact, before giving children mobile phones, I believe that children have been exposed to mobile phones to a greater or lesser extent.
At this time, or when you just give your child a mobile phone, you need to teach your child to "put down your mobile phone", and only by learning to put down your mobile phone can you pick up your mobile phone better!
Only when children are on the matter of "mobile phones" can they be truly self-disciplined and controllable, and parents can rest assured.
If you want to teach your child how to manage your mobile phone, then this book "Let Your Child Put Down Your Phone" Parents and children must take a look.
This book is suitable for children under the age of 12 who do not have their own mobile phones, but often ask their parents for mobile phones;
This book is also suitable for children over the age of 12 who have started to have their own mobile phones and need to carry out "mobile phone management".
In the book, there are strategies, methods, theories, and practices, so that our children will not be ruined by mobile phones!
And these methods can be implemented into practical actions.
The book starts with the most fundamental family education, allowing parents to temporarily take their eyes off their children's mobile phones, and use various methods to "encircle Wei and save Zhao" to find various ways for children to learn to manage mobile phones and focus on learning.
Of course, it's not just parents who can read this book and adjust their approach to homeschooling.
At the same time, children can read this book on their own and understand why they are fascinated by mobile phones, how to balance mobile phones and learning, and so on.
If you have a child who loves to play with mobile phones and is about to have their own mobile phone, you must try this book.
Because, it can make children fall in love with learning and make mobile phones a tool!
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Topic discussion: At what age do you think it is appropriate for your child to give a mobile phone?