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Editor / Tommy
As individuals age, we witness changes in their cognitive abilities, level of knowledge, behavioural patterns, and values.
In the same way, a person's personality is not fixed, it will gradually change over time and changes in the environment.
A person's life can also be divided into different stages according to their age group:
Childhood, adolescence, adulthood, middle age, and old age, each stage has its own specific life conflicts that need to be resolved.
In adulthood, the main life conflict is the conflict between loneliness and intimacy.
In order to effectively resolve this conflict, many people choose to start a family and enter into marriage at this stage.
In the past, the pace of social change was slower, people's awareness was low, and progeny and succession were seen as the top priorities of life.
As a result, many people get married and have children at a relatively young age, even in their youth.
However, in contemporary times, with the acceleration of social development, people's cognitive level has greatly improved.
Marriage and childbearing are no longer the top priorities in everyone's life, and young people's conception of marriage has undergone significant changes.
In the past, most people tended to marry between the ages of 20 and 22 or risk social ridicule, bringing shame to the family, and even in some historical periods, those who did not marry and have children could be punished by law, and young people who did not want to marry could face imprisonment or more severe physical punishment.
Now, as people become more cognitively and inclusive, everyone has more freedom to choose their own lifestyle.
In fact, in the current dating market, the number of single men is increasing day by day, but many people complain that the financial pressure of getting married is too high to afford the wedding expenses.
In the female-dominated marriage market, more and more older unmarried women have emerged.
Many women are still unmarried by the age of 30, not because there is no one to pursue, but because they are unwilling to compromise and have high expectations of their future partners.
Many women want to find true love before they get married.
At the same time, some long-term couples are dissatisfied with the man's family because the woman's family is not satisfied with the man's family, and the man often feels powerless when discussing marriage with high bride price, house and car.
Many women have higher requirements for their future partners, including economic conditions, physical appearance, height, and personality.
However, really good men are in the minority after all, and when they meet a particularly good potential partner, if the other party does not like them, it often leads to becoming an older unmarried woman.
For many young men, the main reason for not getting married is financial pressure, the inability to afford the cost of marriage such as buying a house, a car or paying the bride price, and the inability to accept living in debt.
But in the eyes of parents and relatives, this has become a serious problem.
Unmarried children over the age of 30 often have to endure the pressure of their families to marry at home, especially for women.
As long as you reach the age and are unmarried and have no children, you will be criticized by those around you.
Through analysis, psychologists have found that older leftover women after the age of 30 will basically marry these three types of people in the end, with the first type being the majority:
1. A blind date with your own conditions
In China, parents have a challenging life, struggling with their careers at a young age and taking care of their family and children in middle age.
In later years, you still need to pay attention to major life events for your children and even help raise your grandchildren.
When their children reach marriageable age, parents often become anxious, worrying that their children will not find a suitable partner or miss out on a good relationship.
Once the child is over 30 years old and unmarried, the parents will arrange a series of blind dates on their own, and the children are usually unwilling to go against their parents' wishes, so they actively participate in a large number of blind date activities.
Parents usually pick the right match and they carefully screen the candidates.
Another part of women will decide to get married hastily under external pressure and concern for their parents, and hastily choose a partner to be a partner.
2. Men with successful careers
As they grow older, 30-year-old women have gradually lost their carefree feelings, and most of them have a stable job and income in society, and have a certain social status.
They no longer seek intense romantic emotions and instead yearn for a stable family life.
As a result, men with successful careers and superior economic conditions have become their preferred choice.
As the breadwinner of the family, men usually have to bear heavier family responsibilities, and financial strength is especially important.
Although material things are not the whole of life, it is almost impossible to sustain a life without financial support, let alone sustain a family.
In addition to this, men who have a successful career tend to have a stable personality and are emotionally stable, but they are often surrounded by many women and fierce competition.
In order to attract such men, women need to have a high advantage in terms of family background, personal qualities, abilities and even physical appearance in order to stand out from the crowd.
3. People who are emotionally compatible
Some older single women are not married, not because they lack a suitable partner, but because their ideal partner has not yet appeared, or even if they do, they have not been recognized by the family, so they have not been able to enter into marriage.
These women have strong hearts, have a deep pursuit of love, and firmly believe that marriage should not be compromised, otherwise it will be difficult to live happily after marriage.
However, the higher the expectations, the greater the disappointment may be, and they may find that the expected "ideal partner" does not live up to the expected standards after marriage.
Love life is inevitably accompanied by daily trivialities, small conflicts after marriage can often add some spice to life, and disputes are also the norm in married life.
In this case, these older single women may regret missing out on many quality partners because they are over-pursuing idealized love.
There are also some people who choose to marry a similar person after they can't bear the pressure from many sources, but such a marriage may not last.
It is important to do the right thing at the right age, and women should not neglect finding a partner because of their busy careers.
Women should try to take advantage of the opportunities when they are of marriageable age, otherwise the pressure will gradually increase over time, which may eventually lead to unsatisfactory marriage outcomes.
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