In the past few days, two moving videos have been circulating on the Internet, one of which shows an 80-year-old grandmother living alone in a nursing home and feeling very lonely;
In another video, an 85-year-old grandfather takes care of his wife who has suffered from cerebral infarction for 17 years. During the interview, the old man lamented, "I have a son in name, but I can't do anything!" This kind of case is poignant, and makes us rethink how beautiful it is to have a son abroad, which we were proud of back then.
Before retiring, my grandmother was a school principal, but at the age of 68, she suffered a cerebral infarction. When she was young, she and her husband decided to let their son live abroad, only to have him go and never return. The grandmother can only rely on the care of her wife alone. In the past 17 years, my grandmother has been half-paralyzed, and she needs the support of her wife to get up and go to the toilet, and she gets up at least 5 times a night, which makes her exhausted and her gray hair is gray.
Now, my wife is 85 years old, and my grandfather can no longer move. Looking at these gray-haired old men, we felt indescribable sadness in our hearts. Their eyes were full of tears during the interview, so what difference does it make if they have a son at this time?
At the beginning, we willingly married our daughter abroad, let our son study abroad with the TOEFL test, get a green card, and then settle abroad, get married and have children, thinking that this is the best result. However, we did not expect that things would backfire, and in recent years, the domestic development has been rapid, and even surpassed foreign countries in some aspects. We can't help but regret it.
Some compatriots who are not living well abroad want to return to China to eat rice in every possible way. For example, a neighbor I know, who was married to Japan when she was married, told me that she owned a piece of land abroad and spent a lot of time taking care of it every day. She felt like she was back in the countryside, and I didn't envy this life at all.
Others say that when his son was a child, he hired a foreign tutor who was British, while his wife was Chinese. When she was young, the foreign teacher's wife was still a college teacher, and in order to be with her husband, she divorced despite the opposition of her family, and then followed her husband to England.
However, it was only later that she found out that she had been cheated because her husband had already had children and hid his divorce history from her. So, she had to marry the foreigner, but she was not willing to have any more children. Due to her poor relationship with her son, her life abroad is actually not happy.
Eventually, the multinational couple saw the booming Chinese economy and grew old themselves, and they returned to China in every possible way. However, due to the lack of work and income, the British husband can only use his status as a foreigner as a tutor to make ends meet, although the overall life is not bad, but compared with the life of not going abroad and continuing to work as a teacher in China, they may have a happy family, a few houses and a car, their life is not happy. Now I know that I shouldn't have divorced in the first place.
However, there are no ifs in life, and these parents have to keep walking the path they have chosen. Some relatives may look down on them, saying that they "see things differently" and always think that the moon abroad is rounder than China!
But when the country was poor, they chose to go abroad, and now that the domestic situation is improving, they want to come back and enjoy the dividends. Such a mentality is really pathetic, it is simply not patriotic at all!
The same is true of these 80-year-olds, who were bent on sending their children abroad when they were young, but were unwilling to contribute more to the country. Now they are enjoying all kinds of benefits, and we can only silently lick our internal wounds, or spend money to send our relatives to death, so as not to cause chaos to the country.
Friends, do you have such people around you? What do you think about this?