Li Chen and Liu Yun's wedding was held in a high-end hotel, and the atmosphere was warm and festive with friends and relatives. Dressed in carefully chosen wedding dresses and suits, the two stood under a flower-adorned arch and made vows to love each other. After the wedding, they started a new life full of joy.
However, the good days didn't last long. One day after dinner, Li Chen's father, Li Guoqiang, suddenly made a surprising request. "Yunyun, you know, your mother and I are both old teachers, and we have our own set of methods for managing the family. We want to help you manage your finances at home, especially your payroll card. ”
Liu Yun was stunned for a moment, and looked at Li Chen in disbelief, hoping to get his support. "Chenchen, what does your dad mean by this? We are all adults, and we don't need others to intervene in our own salary management. ”
Li Chen touched his hair in embarrassment, trying to ease the atmosphere. "Dad, Yunyun doesn't distrust you, it's just... We just got married, and we want to try our hand at managing it ourselves. ”
Li Guoqiang shook his head disapprehantly. "You're just starting out now, you're inexperienced, and it's easy to go wrong. What's more, your mother and I have been honed over the years and are more experienced in managing the affairs of the family. It's also for your own good. ”
Liu Yun felt a little unhappy. "But it's about our privacy and autonomy. We need to learn and grow on our own, and we can't always rely on our elders. ”
Li Chen's mother, Wang Min, also joined the conversation. "Yunyun, you misunderstood. We're just afraid you're working too hard and want to help. You see, if we manage the payroll and plan the budget for you every month, you don't have to worry about the money. ”
Liu Yun felt more and more powerless, she looked at Li Chen, hoping that he would clearly stand on her side. "Chenchen, can we talk alone?"
When the two came to the bedroom, Liu Yun was a little angry. "Why don't you talk to me at all? Do you think we should hand over the payroll card to your parents?"
Li Chen sighed, "I know you're unhappy, but their original intentions are good, they're just afraid that we don't know how to plan." ”
"But it's our life and we need to decide for ourselves. We have to have our own space and choice. Liu Yun's tone was firm, she needed to make Li Chen understand that it was not just about money, but also about respect and trust.
The conversation left both men feeling exhausted, but it also became clearer that they needed to find a way to maintain family harmony without violating each other's boundaries.
As time passed, the contradictions between Liu Yun and her in-laws gradually intensified. One evening, the family discussed the distribution of household chores. Wang Min took out a piece of paper that detailed the distribution of household chores for each person.
"Yunyun, what do you think of this arrangement? You are responsible for washing clothes and cooking, I will clean up, and Chenchen will be responsible for grocery shopping and garbage disposal. Wang Min hopes that this division of labor will make the family more harmonious.
Liu Yun looked at the piece of paper and was a little dissatisfied. "Mom Wang, I don't think that's fair. I work long hours during the day and have to do so many chores at night, I get tired. ”
Li Guoqiang interjected: "Yunyun, someone has to do things at home, and as a member of the family, you should share some responsibilities." ”
Liu Yun felt aggrieved, "I know that it is necessary to share the housework, but can we be more even? For example, cooking can be done in turns, and everyone will not be too tired to share it together." ”
Seeing this, Li Chen hurriedly tried to mediate, "Dad, Mom, what Yun Yun said also makes sense. We can try to take turns cooking, which will also give Yunyun a break. ”
"Alright then, we can give it a try. Although Wang Min was reluctant, he still agreed to the new arrangement.
A few days later, at the family dinner, the conversation inevitably turned to the idea of parenting for the future child. Li Guoqiang hopes that his future grandchildren will receive a rigorous education to cultivate achievement.
"I want our children to be able to learn in a rigorous environment, just as your mother and I taught Chenchen. Li Guoqiang insisted on his opinion.
Liu Yun has a different idea, "I think children should have more freedom to explore their own interests, and too strict education methods may inhibit children's personality development." ”
"But how can you teach good children if you are not strict?" Wang Min looked a little anxious.
Li Chen felt that there was a lot of pressure on both sides, and tried his best to balance, "We all want our children to be well, why don't we find a middle point, which can not only give children freedom, but also guide them appropriately." ”
Through these daily exchanges and arguments, the atmosphere in the home is often tense, but after each dispute, everyone is trying to find a solution to the problem in order to seek family harmony.
On the day of the family reunion, Liu Yun was in a good mood. The relatives of the Li family came, and everyone sat around the living room chatting, and the atmosphere seemed to be harmonious. Liu Yun went to the kitchen to help prepare refreshments, but inadvertently heard the sound of conversation from the living room.
"I really don't understand, why did Chenchen fall in love with Yunyun? Although she has a stable job, her personality and housework ability are really..."Wang Min's voice complained a little.
Li Guoqiang also sighed, "Yes, she is always so stubborn about things at home, she has her own ideas about what we say, and she is not the same as Chenchen at all." ”
The tea tray in Liu Yun's hand almost fell, and she felt unbelief and heartache. Back in the living room, her expression had completely changed, and there were tears in her eyes.
Li Chen noticed that something was wrong with Liu Yun, "Yun Yun, what's wrong with you?"
Liu Yun couldn't help but burst out, "Do you know what your parents say about me? They don't accept me at all, and say that I'm not suitable for you!"
Li Chen was speechless for a while, and the others also noticed the sudden change in the atmosphere. Li Chen pulled Liu Yun aside and whispered, "Yun Yun, let's go back to the room." ”
In the room, Liu Yun's emotions were still excited, "I tried my best to adapt to your family and understand your parents' thoughts, but what do you think of their evaluation of me?"
Li Chen also felt pain, "I... I don't know what they think, I know you give a lot to this home, and I'm grateful. ”
"But gratitude and understanding are not the same thing! I feel like our marriage is like I'm constantly trying to be accepted while you're watching. Liu Yun's voice choked.
Li Chen rubbed his forehead in distress, "I know I didn't handle it well enough, I need to have a good talk with my parents, and we also need to find a time to discuss our relationship and future carefully." ”
This altercation made both men realize that their marriage could really be difficult to sustain if the underlying issues were not addressed. Li Chen knew that he had to take action to find a solid way out for their relationship.
Both Li Chen and Liu Yun realized that their marriage had reached the point where they had to make a decision. Li Chen suggested that perhaps they should try family counseling. "Yunyun, let's try to see what the consultant says. It may take an outsider to help us sort out these chaotic emotions. ”
Although Liu Yun was a little resistant in her heart, she also knew that this might be their last chance. "Well, I agree. We all need some help. ”
They made an appointment with an experienced family counselor. In the counseling room, the counsellor listened calmly as they described their current predicament. Li Chen was the first to speak, "I feel that the problem between us is not only because of my parents' attitude, but also how we deal with these pressures as a team. ”
Liu Yun nodded, "Yes, I feel that we lack effective communication, and every argument is just an emotional catharsis, rather than a real problem." ”
The counselor suggested some communication skills, "You can try to express 'my message'. For example, start with 'I feel...' instead of blaming the other person directly. This reduces opposition and increases understanding. ”
In the next few consultations, Li Chen and Liu Yun learned how to stay calm in the midst of conflict and how to listen to each other's real needs, not just superficial arguments.
At the same time, Li Chen also took Liu Yun to have an in-depth conversation with his parents. Li Chen opened, "Dad, Mom, we all know that you are for our good, but we also hope to get your understanding and support. ”
Wang Min looked at Liu Yun and said helplessly, "We really hope you are good, maybe our way is a little outdated." ”
Li Guoqiang also nodded beside him, "We can try to learn and adapt to the new way." ”
Through counseling and family efforts, Li Chen and Liu Yun's marital relationship slowly stabilized. They learned how to express each other's feelings and needs, and at the same time, Li Guoqiang and Wang Min gradually changed and began to respect the views and lifestyles of the younger generation.
This series of changes, although slow and difficult, has brought more harmony and understanding to the whole family.
As the conflicts and problems within the family were effectively resolved, Li Chen and Liu Yun's lives gradually got on the right track. The attitude of the in-laws has also changed significantly, and they are beginning to truly understand that young people have the ability and needs to manage their lives independently.
One evening, the whole family gathers in the living room to discuss the next family plan. "Dad, Mom, Yun Yun and I are planning to buy a house next year, and we want to hear your opinions. Li Chen started the topic.
Wang Min smiled and nodded, "This is a big deal, of course we support you." Do you have any plans or areas where we can help?"
Liu Yun also joined the conversation, "We have looked at the houses in several places and compared the interest rates of the loans. We wanted to find a place that was easily accessible and suitable for our children to go to school in the future. ”
Li Guoqiang listened carefully, and he put forward his own opinion, "I think you can consider the newly developed area, where the educational resources are being improved, and it will be more valuable in the future." ”
Afterwards, they looked at maps and listings together to discuss their strengths and weaknesses. This open and equal way of communicating makes everyone feel respected and valued.
Li Chen said with emotion, "Mom and Dad, thank you for your understanding and support. With your advice, we feel more confident in making a decision. ”
Wang Min responded gently, "If you are happy, we will rest assured." We are also learning how to communicate better with you, after all, home is everyone's harbor. ”
In the evening, Li Chen and Liu Yun were in their rooms, and Liu Yun hugged Li Chen, "Today's discussion is really great. It feels like everyone in the family is working hard to make this home better. ”
Li Chen nodded, "Yes, I feel the same way." Our efforts were not in vain, and step by step, our home became more and more like what we expected it to be. ”
In such days, it is not only about the consensus of financial management, but also about how to maintain the harmony and love of a family. With the support of their in-laws and their own joint efforts, Li Chen and Liu Yun found the best balance in family life.
This article is a microfiction, please do not sit in the opposite seat