Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
Many people in love will involuntarily wear their own "mask".
It's just that I don't want to be seen through my mind too quickly, and I don't want to be hurt in love. So they will use the "mask" to protect themselves, just for a little less bumpy road to love.
Of course, some people's "masks" are actually for disguise, wanting to get something for nothing, or even taking advantage of each other's feelings.
Then, in order to understand the true emotional attitude of a person under the "mask", we need to look at the subtleties.
Especially for women, their attitude in the relationship is often hidden in some small details of daily life.
Many times, judging whether a woman is very "casual", the answer is hidden in the following three details.
01
How to interact with each other for the first time
When you first meet, the way a woman interacts with you often reflects her attitude towards relationships.
If she seems overly enthusiastic and even takes the initiative to give her a hug, it usually shows that she is more casual in her feelings.
Although everyone's attitude towards feelings is becoming more and more open and free, excessive enthusiasm and initiative will only make people feel less reserved.
Of course, this is not to say that enthusiasm is "casual", but to observe whether her enthusiasm is moderate, whether she respects herself while respecting the other party.
As the ancients said: "My fair lady, good gentleman." ”
A truly attractive woman, when first meeting, she will maintain a proper reserve and politeness, neither too cold, nor too passionate, nor any flirtatious appearance.
02
Attitude towards the ex
Looking at how a woman talks about her ex, you can often tell if she is casual about her feelings.
If she often belittles or complains about her ex, even after a breakup, she is still entangled with her ex, or "eats from the bowl and looks at the pot".
This often shows that she lacks a sense of boundaries and is more casual when dealing with emotional relationships.
A woman who takes her relationship seriously, after ending a relationship, she will know how to let go and will not dwell too much on the past.
If she has a new relationship, she will dissociate herself from her ex, and there will be no entanglement, let alone other behaviors that cross the line.
She will learn from every relationship and become a more rational woman who treats feelings.
As Shakespeare said, "All that is past is prologue." ”
A truly intelligent woman who will cherish every relationship experience, but will also move forward bravely and not be bound by the past.
03
Performance in social circles
Observing a woman's performance in the social circle is also a criterion for judging whether she is casual about her feelings.
If she often maintains an ambiguous relationship with a different person of the opposite sex, or overindulges herself in social situations, hugging left and right, or even having a one-night relationship, it usually shows that she is very casual about her feelings.
Of course, a woman who is socially active does not necessarily mean "casual".
The key is to observe whether she can control herself in social situations, whether she can maintain appropriate boundaries, whether she can restrain her words and actions, and not be too open.
A woman who takes her feelings seriously will tend to behave appropriately and generously in social situations, neither too restrained nor too indulgent.
Of course, these details are not absolute criteria, but they do provide us with some clues.
Some people, who may prefer to enjoy life freely, will be very casual with their feelings. Others, on the other hand, are more focused on stable and long-lasting relationships.
It is important that you find people who share your values and build an intimate relationship.
So, on the road of love, we can get to know a woman more deeply by observing these details. Then go and make a judgment to see if she's the one you really want.
Only in this way will we not be confused in love, will not waste feelings and time, and will not be hurt.