(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)
Nowadays, the thinking of most families in our country is no longer as feudal as it used to be, because we came from that era, and we know how much harm such thinking can cause to our children.
However, now after I got married, I am always in a state of spoiling my wife and children, and my wife is often glad to find a good man like me, but when my wife went back to visit her parents after giving birth, her father-in-law's series of attitudes made her understand, and when I came back, I said: "I am really lucky to have a child with you, so that he is a Chinese nationality"!
I wondered very much, why did my wife still feel emotional when she didn't go to her parents' house?
01
I have lived in the countryside since I was a child, and my family is better off than ordinary families, because my family grows vegetable greenhouses, so I will have more income than others.
However, I am not the only child in the family, there is also an older sister above, when I was young, you will think that most of the rural families are patriarchal thinking, and my sister must be the one who swallows her anger at home.
But I'll tell you, it's the opposite, my parents are really "different" like that, unlike many families in the village.
Since I was in elementary school, my sister has been like the eldest in the family, every time I dare to talk back to her, then I can suffer hard, and the small bench will hit me lightly!
What I remember the most is that I ate at home at noon, because my mother's cooking skills had dropped significantly for some reason, and the cooking was not very delicious.
I just said directly that day: "Mom, the food you cooked today is really not delicious, I won't eat it, why don't you make me another one."
The mother replied, "Let's eat this meal, I am a little tired from working with your father today, can I make you something to eat next time?"
When I heard this, I directly began to die, lying on the ground and rolling bitterly, that is, at this time, my father had not yet gotten up, my sister got up and took the stool and smashed it towards my ass, and said: "Xiaofei, you don't eat or not, don't give me food in the future, every day our parents are used to you, if you have the ability, cook by yourself, don't call our mother"!
I didn't care at the time, thinking about my parents by my side, what could she do with me, but I didn't expect to drag me up directly from the ground, and punch and kick me, at this time my father was still laughing vigorously next to me, he probably wanted my sister to cure my stinky problem, after all, some bad habits must be broken.
When my mother saw that the "education" was almost over, she pretended to come forward and pulled my sister away, and my "nightmare" was stopped.
It was this time that I never made any mistakes again, it was all corrected by my sister, and my only thought at that time was not to wait for me to grow up, and see how you beat me when the time comes!
After I started school, my sister and I got very good grades, and many neighbors saw my mother and asked, "How do you educate your children, both children are studying so well, it seems that you will enjoy happiness in the future."
My sister was at a local undergraduate college at the time, but I went straight to school, because in my opinion, boys have to go out and stay at home.
Since my sister graduated before me, when I went to college, my sister almost always paid me for my living expenses, and although I was a little violent in my eyes, I was not ambiguous about my relatives.
After I graduated from college, my sister still wanted me to continue to take the exam, but I really didn't have the heart to go to school anymore, and I was already impatient after more than ten years of study.
After graduation, I went directly to work in Hunchun, Jilin with the school, I was very reluctant at that time, why was this assigned to me so far away from home, how inconvenient it was for me to go home.
But since I've been here for a while, I feel from the bottom of my heart that this place is really good, mainly because it's close to North Korea, and there are a lot of North Korean girls working in China.
It seems that men will always be double standard in front of beautiful women.
After working for more than a year, I already wanted to quit my job, thinking that working here was too boring and boring, and it was better to start a small business on my own.
I first told my sister about it, and the answer was: "It's okay, if you really want to do it, you can do it, after all, that young boy doesn't want to start a business, if you have a mind, I'll invest a little bit in you, and then ask the family for a little if it's not enough."
When I went to discuss it with my parents, I got the same result, and I thought it was okay to try it.
I started out selling barbecue on the side of the road, and it was this profession that made me meet my current wife, Nala.
Normally, I sell barbecue until late, because it was negotiated with a restaurant, and I set up a barbecue stall in front of his store, as long as he is open, I will open it, and if he is not open, I will still open it.
The first time Nala appeared in front of me was that night, when the owner of the restaurant was uncomfortable, so he didn't open the door, only I continued to sell barbecue at the door, and just as I was selling hard, a North Korean girl rode a 28 bar and swayed over.
At first, I didn't care, but I just heard a sentence: "Get out of the way, get out of the way, you can't stop the car." ”
02
At this time, I looked up and saw that the guests next to me were all out of the way, so this was not just a stall ready to hit me! I quickly ran to the front and stopped Nala and shouted, "What are you doing, you almost knocked my stall over for me, you know?"
The girl was not even frightened, but said to me with a smell of Northeast ballast: "I'm sorry, brother, I'm a little unskilled, please forgive me, so let's do it, then you bring me 10 skewers of mutton, it will be my apology to you."
Since Nala has said so, I am no longer embarrassed to continue to embarrass her as a girl, as if I am not a man.
Since then, at this point in time, Nala will always come to me to buy barbecue on her worn-out 28 bar, and I wonder: "What is your broken car, still riding, it's older than you, don't ride it one day."
As soon as I heard this, the guests next to me couldn't stop laughing, and Nala was even more embarrassed, at this time I realized that I might have made a mistake, and I could still joke with boys, but girls still had to give way, and many times I accidentally got angry, so I quickly took a few strings and gave them to her, hoping that she would forgive me once.
Over time, our relationship is still familiar in jokes, from time to time she says two words to me, and from time to time she says two words to her.
After almost half a year like this, I also earned a lot of money in my hands, and Nala came to help me every day when she was idle, and learned how to barbecue by the way.
That day, a guest teased there: "Yo, boss, this is a barbecue and a boss lady, where did you learn this, I will also learn, it is too difficult to marry a daughter-in-law these days." ”
As soon as I heard this, Nala was still shy next to her, the first time I saw her still look like this, she was usually very aggressive, like a female man.
However, at this time, I don't know if God wants to help me or what, it actually rumbled and it rained heavily, fortunately there were no guests at the time, Nala and I hurriedly closed the stall, but no matter how fast it was, our bodies were also wet with rain.
I was afraid that Nala would catch a cold because of the rain, so I hurriedly handed her my coat, and it was after this time that we confirmed our relationship at the moment of ambiguity.
After almost two years of this, we were both of the age to talk about marriage, and although my parents agreed to it, the problem was in Nala's house, where the family belonged to what the parents said and couldn't keep their mouths shut.
The moment I went to her house, I was very nervous, and I didn't know how to discuss marriage with my parents-in-law.
To my great surprise, Nala's parents were not as serious as she had imagined, but her mother was very kind, and after three rounds of drinking, I brought it up, and my mother-in-law was very satisfied with my modesty and politeness and had no opinion, except that my father-in-law hesitated.
Said to me in a serious tone, "Can you guarantee that you will be good to my daughter?"
This inappropriate word came to my mouth, and I assured my father-in-law very sincerely before agreeing to our marriage.
But this time I found out that there is a problem in their family, that is, Nala's father has a serious patriarchal nature, and he seems to care very much for his daughter, but in fact it is not like this, everything in the family is for Nala to help, but her brother is watching from the sidelines and never does anything!
That's why I made up my mind to marry Nala.
03
As soon as I returned to China, I took Nala back to my hometown, and I didn't plan to continue to develop in Jilin, but wanted to return to my parents.
Then we began to prepare for our wedding, which can be described as very grinding, but if you want to fix it well, many details must be taken care of everywhere.
On the day of the wedding, our wedding was amazing to everyone, and the romance was definitely well controlled, and Nala was moved to cry, I didn't expect me to be so attentive.
How can the embodiment of our good Chinese man be just like this, after getting married, I was even more comprehensive with Nala, and only let him do the cashier work in the store, not at all heavy work.
After about a year of marriage, a child belonging to the two of us was born, a daughter, very beautiful, where did I ever think that I would give birth to a mixed-race child.
The most important thing for a woman's recovery is during the confinement period, and since I am usually busy with the hotel, it is naturally my mother who takes care of Nala.
Nala also told me at the time: "Husband, I am really very happy to marry into your family, I don't let me do any work, and I am so good to me." As he spoke, he began to cry.
When the child is older, Nala wants to go back to see her parents and let them really hug the child, I want to visit with her, but Nala refuses, let me continue to open the shop at home, don't run away with her.
I quickly asked what was going on, and Nala said aggrievedly: "As soon as I got home, I was there and told my parents how good it is to marry you, and my mother was very happy to see that I was happy, but my father thought that I was showing off, and I felt that I was marrying in China to show off here, and also asked me to do housework, you usually don't let me do it, I worked in North Korea for almost a week." ”
When I heard this, I quickly comforted Nala, who was so patriarchal that they treated their daughter as if they were a worker, and their son like a baby bump.
Then he said to me: "Husband, I am really glad that I can marry you, and I also let my children add Chinese nationality, here is exactly the opposite of ours, I will never go back"!
I put my arms around Nala and said, "Okay, okay, let's not go in the future, let's stay at home, don't cry"!
It seems that we Chinese men are good to their wives, after all, "those who love their wives are prosperous, and those who lose their wives are not rich"!
(Disclaimer: This article is purely a fictional story, not my own experience, if there is any similarity, it is purely a coincidence)