If you can't do these 4 points, don't take your children to travel during the May Day holiday, the pattern can't be opened, and it is time-consuming and labor-intensive

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2024-04-29 17:13Posted in Guangdong parenting field creators

May Day is approaching, I asked Xiaolan where she plans to go during the holiday, and she said that she will not go anywhere, just go around the nearby park.

I was a little surprised, because she has money and leisure, often on vacation, she takes her child to travel all over the world, the child is only 6 years old, almost all the big cities in China have turned, and she has also been out of the country several times.

Xiaolan seemed to see through my thoughts, and sighed lightly, "No reason, I just don't love it." In the past, when I took my child on a trip, my idea was very simple, I just wanted to take him to see more of the world, hoping that he could become a gentle and powerful person in the future.

But after a few years, I found that the child's pattern was still not opened, he spoke hesitantly, and the teacher didn't dare to let him speak on stage, and he was always timid. ”

When Xiaolan was nagging me, I listened and recalled her circle of friends. It is not difficult to see from the photos that the adults are having a lot of fun, and they feel that the smile is about to overflow on the screen, and although the children are comparing each photo with V, they don't seem to enjoy it so much.

Obviously, it's the adults who are traveling, not the children.

Seriously, if you can't do these 4 points during the May Day holiday, don't take your children to travel, the pattern can't be opened, and it will be time-consuming and labor-intensive and a waste of money.

1. Deep engagement

When traveling, few parents will ask their children's opinions, and they generally arrange everything and let their children follow.

If your purpose is to take your child to play and open up his landscape, involve him in the planning and process of the trip.

Planning trips together not only creates fun family time, but also develops their ability to think and express ideas.

We can list several attractions we want to visit, learn about the customs of each attraction, let the children choose by themselves, and then work together to make the route, schedule and prepare luggage.

During the trip, the original schedule may change due to some reasons, and we can also discuss it with our children before making adjustments.

Although children are not as thoughtful as adults think, parents should gradually delegate power in daily life (including travel) and give children some choices, so that they can have the opportunity to exercise and grow.

2. In-depth experience

The so-called pattern is the cognition of things.

Children rely on the five senses to improve the brain database (in the vernacular, that is, to accumulate experience), and if you want to improve his pattern, you must give him things that he can eat, smell, touch, play, and hear.

Only by allowing him to experience, explore and think deeply can he establish his own outlook on life, values and worldview in the rich and colorful experience.

When the child was more than 1 year old, he took him to Zhangjiajie, and when we were all sighing at the magic of nature, he played with the sand on the side: two little hands held the sand, carefully watched the fine sand slip from his fingers, played over and over again, and enjoyed it.

Last year, I took him to Dali to see Erhai Lake, and he was still like this at the age of 5, not caring about the blue waves in front of him, only caring about the pebbles on the shore. Again and again, he bent down to pick it up, and then threw it hard, feeling the wonder of the stone hitting the water.

Looking at the smile on the child's face, I realized that the child wants to explore the world, not to see the world.

The child can look at an ant for a long time, he doesn't care whether it is an ant from Guangdong or Yunnan, he only knows that this ant has aroused his interest.

He can observe for so long, he must see something, want to know something, and then think about what to verify, this is a process of exploration from the heart.

If you go to a place, you see a few times in a hurry, and leave after taking a photo, and the child can't go deep to experience and explore, how much can he feel, and what knowledge can he gain?

3. Set the role

It is important for children to accumulate successful experiences because it activates the brain's reward system and gives them a sense of accomplishment. This is the source of motivation to learn.

In the actual trip, we can create opportunities for him to exercise, help him and accumulate successful experience.

For younger children, you can let him help with the little things he can. For example, when camping outside, he was given the task of finding a place to pitch a tent, picking up twigs to make a campfire, and processing vegetables.

For older children, you can let him act as a "tour guide", responsible for researching what means of transportation to take to the destination, how to transfer to the subway, etc., or let him be an "accountant" and be responsible for managing the budget for transportation, meals, and souvenirs.

When your child completes the task, remember to praise him. With the nourishment of a sense of achievement, there is naturally no need to worry about learning and not moving.

4. Deep interaction

Traveling to a new place from a familiar place will see many new things and experience many different new experiences.

At this time, children often show a strong curiosity to explore and understand deeply, and this is a good opportunity to deepen our thinking, and we should take the opportunity to plant this seed of excitement and give it a chance to take root.

Seeing this, you may say that the questions asked by the child are very "tricky", and his knowledge reserve is not enough, so he can't answer them at all.

Just work with your child to find out.

However, it is usually necessary to accumulate more knowledge in order to establish a deep connection with the child and find answers more accurately.

For example, you can usually read the book "Traveling with Dad" with your child. The content of the book is very rich, covering the customs of various places, food specialties, natural wonders, landmark buildings, historical sites, etc. It is both a children's encyclopedia and a map, so you can communicate with your child anytime, anywhere.

If you don't plan to go far away during the holidays, just go around the park and the mountains, then you can read popular science books such as "DK Tree Encyclopedia" and "Insect Records", so that children can explore the real nature with questions and expand their thinking.

All in all, take the baby to travel during the holidays, don't compare how much it costs and the close play of the journey, but sincerely pick a place that the child is interested in, so that he can experience it deeply.

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