It is said that it is not easy for people to live in this life, it doesn't matter when they are young, at least they can run and jump, they can earn food, there is nothing difficult or difficult.
Compared with the difficulty of getting old, it's all hypocrisy.
It is difficult for people to get old, and the most difficult thing at this time is when they can't take care of themselves, but don't "do", because it is not only difficult for yourself, but also for the children.
When people are old, no matter how old they live, it doesn't matter if they can take care of themselves in life, but when they can't take care of themselves, it will be troublesome, and it will be too difficult at that time.
Like my colleague's parents, they are 89 years old, but the old couple can take care of themselves, can cook and clean up the housework, there is no problem at all, and it is also a blessing for the family to live to be 100 years old.
Taking a step back, it doesn't matter if it's when I live semi-self-care, anyway, I have my own nest, I just stay in my own nest and live freely, I don't have to look at other people's faces to act, I don't have to care what others think, I do my own thing, and live as I want, there is nothing difficult or difficult.
When we are semi-self-care, we can choose a part-time worker to help us live, but it is difficult when we can't take care of ourselves, and it is too difficult at that time.
But at this time, the elderly should have a clear mind, one thing not to do is - "do", as long as you can do "not do", then relatively speaking, the probability of children disliking you will drop a lot, at this time it is not simply difficult for you, in fact, it is more difficult for children.
Yesterday I was chatting with my niece, and I listened to her talk about her family, and I felt that this person was old, but it was too difficult, and the old people found it difficult, but in fact, the children were even more difficult.
My niece's father-in-law had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage at the end of last year, and the person was rescued.
Then the niece and his wife quit their jobs and concentrated on serving the old man.
But when his son and daughter-in-law accompanied him to get out of bed to exercise and rehabilitate, the old man complained, didn't want to be tired of exercising, and then scolded and scolded in his mouth.
If you don't move anymore, you will say that you don't want to live anymore, and you said that you are really angry with this son and daughter-in-law.
After a few months of hard work, the niece and son-in-law in their early 50s were already so worried and tired that they had gray hair, but the old man didn't know that he felt sorry for his son and daughter-in-law, and he was still "doing" vigorously.
Because he is now incontinent and wants to use diapers, but sometimes he is disobedient and tears it off and throws it away, so sometimes he stains his pants, and his son and daughter-in-law are really speechless and dead.
But it can't be helped, as long as the old man has a breath, then you have to wait, and you can't leave him alone.
I listened to my niece's words, the more I listened, the more terrible I felt, this old man is old and sick, and when he needs to be taken care of by his children, he must not be too selfish, he must think about the problem from the perspective of his children, and he can't cry at every turn and cry that he doesn't want to live, but he can't run the train with his mouth full of words, say some useless words, what can't die, in fact, people who say they don't want to live are the most unwilling to die in their hearts.
I'm worried about my niece, my niece is in her 50s, but I can't help it, like she said, the old people are like this, can I care?
There is also an old lady in her family who is even stronger, because the old lady can't lift her waist and can't cook by herself, because the old man is hospitalized, her son and daughter-in-law are serving the old man in the hospital, and the old lady is sent to a nursing home.
However, when I heard that the old man would be discharged from the hospital in 10 days and 8 days, the old lady was clamoring to go home, which made my niece even more sad.
Because my niece is honest, these old couples are unforgiving, and this can't torture people to death.
So, yesterday my niece said that the old lady would not support her, and she still had a little brother-in-law, so let the little brother-in-law take it home to take care of it.
I felt that when this person is old and sick, you have to obey the arrangements of your children, and if you can cure them, you will try to treat them as much as possible, and don't make trouble for your children.
If you really don't want to live anymore, then choose to go on a hunger strike, don't say that you don't want to live anymore, in fact, you want to live more than anyone else, so why bother? Isn't this more annoying? When you can't take care of yourself, don't feel that it's difficult, don't you look at the children?
I just received a 61-year-old client who has been suffering from Alzheimer's disease for two years, and her daughter is accompanying her all the time.
I talked for a while with her daughter, who is now married but has no children. Her mother became like this two years ago, when her father died.
She had to take her mother at home, install surveillance at home, she had to go to work during the day, order takeout for her mother at noon, her mother was at home every day to watch TV on her mobile phone, and then occasionally go out, just go to that one place.
My daughter said that she would know how to pick up the takeaways, and she wouldn't get lost......
I immediately felt deeply, I felt that people must not get Alzheimer's when they are old, you say that you don't know anything, but this doesn't pit the child?
So, friends in front of the screen, no matter whether this writing makes money or not, we still have to insist on writing every day, at least we can exercise and exercise the brain, it is better not to have Alzheimer's disease, even if it can't be avoided, it's a day late to get that disease, I'm most distressed about the child, this child is too difficult, don't you say?
In short, when people are old, when they can't take care of themselves, don't "do", you must know that you feel sorry for your children, not only are you difficult, but the children are even more difficult.