#头条创作挑战赛#
As the saying goes, "A good horse is easy to ride, and a good person is easy to be bullied", this sentence is often confirmed in life.
When you treat others with a tolerant and kind heart, you may not always expect a kind reciprocation.
In real life, we will inevitably encounter unfair situations and may be offended, insulted or even bullied by others.
However, in the face of such a dilemma, the most powerful and sensible way to fight back is not to get angry or embarrass the other person, but to remember and practice these six words, and you can win spiritually!
Ignore it and stay away
A classic dialogue that has been passed down for a long time, is well known to everyone:
Hanshan once asked: "When the people of the world slander, bully, insult, ridicule, despise, despise, hate, and deceive me, how should I respond?"
"You should be patient, tolerate their behavior, avoid conflict, be patient, and be respectful of them without being overly concerned," she said. Just wait a few years and see how they change. ”
As the old saying goes, "It is better to offend a gentleman than to anger a villain."
If someone chooses to be your enemy and bully you, it is because they are confused about right and wrong, and they cannot distinguish between good and evil.
In the face of such people, it is not wise to try to argue or fight back violently, but it can lead to deeper resentment and revenge. Because it's hard to beat them when it comes to being vexatious.
Therefore, the wise will choose to avoid unnecessary disputes in the moment, ignore these behaviors, keep their distance, and treat each other with courtesy.
In this way, not only can you make the other person feel at a loss and lose the opportunity to stir up trouble, but also allow you to focus on your own development and concentrate on your work and career.
It is important to know that real victory is not in a hurry, just like the marathon of life, the key lies in the performance in the second half.
Those who are accustomed to bullying others and frequently make enemies often have bad interpersonal relationships and poor moral character, and it is difficult for them to walk smoothly and in the long run.
You should turn your inner grievances into positive motivation and devote your time and energy to self-improvement.
Dig deep into your own potential, forge ahead, and you will be able to move forward steadily and reach heights that others can't reach.
At that time, the other party will not only not be able to despise you, but will not dare to offend you easily, but will be uneasy because of your every move. In this way, you will be able to defeat your opponent invisibly and finally win the battle of life.
Don't be afraid, pluck up courage
In the work "Walking to the Edge of Life", Mr. Yang Jiang expounded this point of view:
When you are a little talented, virtuous or good-looking, others tend to be jealous and ostracize you, and if you adopt a tolerant and humble attitude, others may take advantage of you and even hurt you. ”
In many cases, even if you choose to keep your distance and keep a low profile, it is still difficult to escape the fate of continuous oppression.
At this moment, if you show fear of everything, then others will bully you more and more without hesitation;
On the other hand, if you show a fearless attitude, they will continue to oppress you.
This is because human nature is common in the phenomenon of bullying the good and fearing the evil, bullying the weak, and the more you endure humiliation, the more likely it is that others will inflict harm on you without scruples.
When a person is weak, there seems to be the most malice around him, but when you are really strong, you seem to be surrounded by well-meaning people.
Therefore, the best coping strategy is to be courageous, to stand up, to be resilient and strong, and to defend your rights.
This does not mean acting recklessly or provoking disputes, but learning to build up strength in secret, gather evidence, identify the weaknesses of the other side, and strive to deliver a decisive blow at a critical moment.
When necessary, you should fight back decisively, and even publicly expose the bad behavior of the other party, and naturally righteous people will stand up and support you and help you.
The most important thing is to make it clear to the other person that there will be consequences for offending you and bullying you.
Only in this way will the other person be in awe, restrain his malice, and then adjust his behavior to avoid getting into trouble.
The key is to strengthen your inner strength, no longer afraid of the judgment of others, not afraid of the oppression of others, let honesty have tenacious resistance, let kindness shine sharply, and then the whole world will show you an amiable side.
Don't be angry, let yourself go
As the saying goes, "anger hurts the body." Among the many ineffective actions, anger is undoubtedly among them.
Not only can it be detrimental to your health, but it will not help you solve the problem, but it may give the offending person a sense of pride and embolden the behavior of the person who bullied you.
It is really wise to learn to control one's emotions and not let the wrong behavior of others become a source of self-punishment.
If you choose to be patient and avoid conflict, you should avoid inner depression, and you should say to yourself at the right time, "Don't mind", after all, excessive anger will damage the body, and long-term resentment will consume the mind, so why bother to get angry and angry with others over trivial things? The importance of paying attention to physical health far exceeds these trivial disputes.
Saying "not worth it" to yourself means that you shouldn't be disturbed by those who try to bully you, and that the world is full of beauty, so you might as well take it lightly and laugh at it instead of getting caught up in anger and distraction.
Telling yourself "it's okay" is not to show weakness or evasion, but to show a higher pattern and broad vision, take the initiative to stay away from the land of right and wrong, and focus on your own growth and development.
If you choose to stand up and fight back, you must also stay sober and not let anger sway your reason:
The first task is to stay calm and analyze the problem rationally so that you can make the best decision, which is the most appropriate way to deal with the problem.
At the same time, it is necessary to adjust the mentality, soothe the emotions, and always put the self first, this calm attitude is in itself the most powerful confrontation against malice.
There is a wise saying: "First learn not to be angry, and then know how to deal with it so that people regret it." ”
In any case, anger is often just a manifestation of powerless anger, a meaningless emotional catharsis.
In the journey of life, everyone will inevitably encounter injustices and inevitably meet people who don't like them, but the key is how to deal with them wisely, rather than at the mercy of emotions.
Rather than getting angry at the faults of others and bearing the consequences, choose to approach them with a peaceful mind, let go and forgive yourself.
And then learn to deal with it indifferently and look down on problems, which is the most noble way to care for yourself, and also make yourself the real biggest winner.