Some time ago, my classmate chatted with me and told the story of her son: '
My friends and I both live in the same neighborhood and our son often plays together. That day, we were walking in the neighborhood when we came across my son Kiki eating crispy noodles and my friend's son looked like he wanted to try them. So, I said to Kiki, "Can you give your little brother a little bit to eat?" but Kiki immediately said, "Not good." I was a little embarrassed, but my friend quickly waved his hand and said it was okay. I crouched down and said to Kiki, "Do you remember that your little brother has a lot of fun toys at his house, and if you're willing to share crispy noodles, he'll probably want to play with you." Remember, you get what you pay for. ”
Boys nowadays are like little babies in the family, and adults always try their best to meet their every request. But sometimes, we find that they become a little selfish. In fact, at their age, learning to share what they like is a sign of love.
As parents, we must teach boys not only how to love others, but also teach them to reciprocate the love of their parents. It may sound a little strange because we usually give without expecting anything in return. But sometimes, adults also have times of difficulty and vulnerability, and we also want something in return. Just like Kiki, he learned the truth that giving is rewarded, which not only taught him how to love, but also made him understand that there is nothing in the world that is not rewarded.
Hui Hui is now in the third grade of primary school, and his academic performance is not bad, but he has some bad habits. For example, he was addicted to computer games for a while, which led to a decline in his grades. I tried to stop him, but it didn't work well.
Later, I decided to change my strategy. I told him that as long as he completed the tasks I assigned, he would be rewarded with time playing with the computer. He was quick to agree. So, whenever he made progress or was praised by his teacher, I rewarded him with 5 to 15 minutes of playtime. If he completes a task on time, such as eating, he will also be rewarded. Even, he will be rewarded for completing a computer typing task, such as typing a text. Of course, if he makes a mistake, I will also deduct his playtime accordingly.
After a period of time, I found that Huihui's good habits became more and more numerous, and his bad habits became less and less. He experienced the joy of giving and being rewarded. Therefore, as parents, we can make boys understand through practical actions that only by giving will there be real returns.
My advice for young parents
Method 1: Parents should teach the boy to learn to give and feel the joy of returning
Let the boy know that you can only be rewarded if you give. Mom and Dad sometimes have to be ruthless and help the boy get rid of some bad habits. For example, Yuyu, he is already in elementary school. Because his parents have doted on him since he was a child, he is always waiting for others to bring him clothes and meals, and it is natural for him to ask for pocket money. Later, the teacher told Yuyu's parents that he was very selfish at school and only wanted things, but was unwilling to give.
So, Yuyu's parents decided to help him get rid of this problem. They told Yuyu that in the future, they would have to earn their pocket money by helping with housework. Yuyu was not happy when she heard this, and cried, but her parents did not waver and arranged housework for him such as tidying up the room and cleaning the living room. At first, Yuyu was reluctant to do it, but when he had no money to spend and his parents didn't give it, he had to do it. After doing it, he got a "salary". After a period of time, Yuyu's bad habits slowly changed a lot. This method not only makes the boy no longer lazy, but also allows him to experience the joy of giving.
Method 2: Parents should use actions to tell the boy that the effort will be rewarded
Parents can tell the boy, for example: "Dad goes to work every day to earn money to support the family" and "Mom cooks every day so that we can eat delicious meals". In this way, the boy will know that everything needs to be paid and how much his parents have done for him.
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