In life, each of us wants to have a strong heart, a courage not to be defeated by life.
But the real strength does not come from the outside world, but from our habits of thinking.
Those who are getting stronger and stronger in life tend to have the following 3 habits of mind.
01: Don't dwell on what you don't have, and avoid making yourself a weak person in life
In life, no one's life is perfect, and each of us has something that is lacking in our hearts.
And the more you lack something, the more you value it.
Some people have never been loved when they are young, and when they grow up, they crave the unconditional love of others;
Some people have a family with four walls when they are young, and when they grow up, they are eager to earn a lot of money;
Some people have mediocre appearances, and they want to have a beautiful face.
It seems that as long as you have these, your life will be happy and complete. In order to be happy, most people spend their lives wrestling with what they lack.
When I was in school, I often envied the top students in my class, who could easily get into the top one or two in the class, but no matter how hard I tried, my grades could only linger in the middle of the class.
After joining the work, I envy those who can speak well, they are comfortable in the workplace, have many friends, and are valued by the leadership, but no matter how hard I try, it is just a little transparent in the workplace.
Years of experience have made me slowly realize that in this world, there is no absolute good or absolute bad in everything.
Although a person does not have a lot of wealth, he can hone his perseverance in the struggle.
Although he does not have the ability to speak loudly, he can rely on steadfastness and integrity to win the trust of others.
Don't dwell on what you don't have, in order to have a good attitude of peace and calm in life.
02: Accept everything that happens in life with a natural mentality
After half a life, I realized that in life, not all efforts can be successful, and not all efforts can be rewarded.
In this world, there are many things that we can't do anything about.
In the face of unsatisfactory life, changing what you can change, and accepting what you can't change with a calm attitude is the great wisdom of life.
When I read history books, Huang Gongwang impressed me the most.
Huang Gongwang was very smart when he was a child, with excellent academic performance, proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and he was full of confidence to pass the imperial examination and develop in his career.
Just when he was fully prepared for the examination, the imperial court abolished the imperial examination system that had been in place for many years, blocking his way to becoming an official in the imperial court.
Later, he finally managed to get a small official position, but because of his boss's involvement, he was sent to prison.
In the year he entered prison, the imperial examination resumed, and he could only look at the prison window and sigh that creation made people.
After coming out of prison, he knew the age of the Mandate of Heaven, and at this time he had broken off the idea of becoming an official in the court, and began to live a life of traveling through mountains and rivers, sketching and painting, and making the world his home.
Later, he painted his perception of life over the years into the "Fuchun Mountain Residence Map", which became a masterpiece.
As a small existence in the universe, many times, human beings cannot compete with fate.
In the face of the wind and rain that has befallen your life, instead of feeling sorry for yourself, it is better to accept the arrangement of fate calmly, and you may be able to achieve a different self.
03: Listen to your inner calling and be your true self
When we first enter society, our family, family and friends will look to the success patterns of others to help us make career choices.
And ignore that as a person, only inner kinetic energy is the fundamental factor that decides to do a good job.
This kinetic energy, in the process of understanding the world, will become more and more manifest.
Looking back on half a life, you will find that no matter what university a person attends, what major he studies, or what career he engages in, in the end, in the loss of time and in the constant friction with the world, he will find the deepest desire in his heart.
Knowing what kind of environment makes you comfortable, what things keep you enthusiastic, and what work makes you feel joyful, and these take time to precipitate.
In the loss of time, people will constantly make self-adjustments according to their inner desires and changes in the environment.
Focusing too much on external fame and fortune can cause us to lose our way and eventually make ourselves anxious.
A strong person will take understanding himself, finding himself, and achieving himself as his life's practice.