Sincerely ask, do you have any experience as a woman for the first time?
If you want me to say, it must be: a good attitude determines a woman's life. This is of course a joke in the emoji, but it is also the common voice of thousands of women: maintaining a good attitude and having a good mood is really important for women.
After all, women are really stressed. According to a survey conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) in the United States, the incidence of depression and anxiety in women is much higher than that of men, and the ratio of men to women with eating disorders, which is closely related to mood problems, has reached an astonishing 3:1 [1].
It stands to reason that when people are floating in the rivers and lakes, who doesn't have a time to worry, but why do bad emotions hurt women so much? As a woman, how should you maintain a good attitude?
Are women more likely to be emotional?
There are always people who feel that the high incidence of depression and anxiety in women is because women are too emotional. The implication is that the girls themselves are too "sensitive" and have too many emotions.
Indeed, there have been some early studies that have used methods such as self-report to record the emotional experiences of men and women, and have concluded that women have higher frequency and intensity of emotions than men [2]. However, subsequent studies using a richer set of measures found the exact opposite.
In 2016, a research team from Nanjing University conducted an experiment. They recruited a group of male and female participants, showed them an emotion-inducing video, recorded their heart rate, and asked them to report their emotional experiences after the video [3].
It was found that although women reported more intense emotional experiences, they did not experience greater changes in heart rate, and even in some emotions, men experienced greater changes in heart rate, suggesting that men may actually experience more intense emotions.
Another study spanning five continents and involving 37 countries also found that differences between men and women in emotional experience were mainly reflected in the type of emotion, with men tending to experience more intense emotions (e.g., anger) and women experiencing more powerless emotions (e.g., sadness) [4].
Men also shed tears, but often cry alone in a hidden place / Picture Worm Creativity
That said, it is likely that a woman's emotionality in the face of events is simply a stereotype based on gender bias. After all, it's not that men don't shed tears, or they may be used to crying in the toilet (or under the car).
So, is it possible that because women are more empathetic, they are more susceptible to the emotions of others?
This view is as unreliable as the assumption above. While some studies have found that women perform better on empathy tasks than men, newer studies have also found that when indirect measures are used to test empathy (eg, having participants watch a video of intentional harm and asking them to judge how bad the victim is, how much punishment they receive, and how pitiful the victim is) [5].
In this regard, the researchers explained that the relatively low empathy ability of men in direct measurement may only be due to the fact that men are more ashamed to show their emotional side under the pressure of stereotypes, and in fact, there is no difference in empathy ability between the sexes. After all, accompanying her girlfriend to listen to her talk about a lot of bad things at work is empathy, and giving a bad guy on the subway a big pocket can also be regarded as empathy!
The gender difference in empathy between men and women may be much smaller than we think
In addition, an interesting study found that male participants were able to perform on empathy tasks at similar levels as women if they were given a monetary reward, further suggesting that the gender gap in empathy skills may not be as large as we thought [6].
So, don't talk about women being sentimental, women are not as emotional as we think, and men are not cold-blooded animals who are completely emotionless. A good attitude determines a woman's life, and of course, a man's life.
In the face of emotions,
Women are more biologically fragile
But since women are not more emotional, why are women more emotionally distressed? Could it be that physiological factors cause women to be born with a good attitude?
There is some truth to this statement: on a biological level, women are more susceptible to emotions. That is, it is not necessarily that women are more emotional, but that emotions have a greater impact on women.
A study by the University of Padua in Italy found that after emotional arousal, women's physiological responses are greater than men's, especially for unpleasant emotions, women will induce a larger amount of EEG potential, as well as the startle reflex. These physiological indicators are closely related to the activation of the amygdala and orbitofrontal cortex in the brain, suggesting that women's physiological systems may be more disturbed by emotions [7].
Empathetic solace that makes tears a release rather than a burden / Picture worm creativity
It's no wonder that in film and television works, the heroine has to cover her chest when she is angry, this is because the body really can't withstand the surging of emotions and blood.
In addition to this, women have a much lower rate of serotonin synthesis in their brains compared to men [18], and serotonin is a neurotransmitter important for mood, alertness, aggressive behavior, and pain, and low levels of serotonin may increase the risk of major depression in women.
For example, if the emo is also after failing the course, the boy may soon be able to resurrect with full blood, and the next day he should eat and drink, and there is nothing to do, while the girl may be slumped.
What's more, studies on nuns have found that nuns who are in a consistently low mood will have a shorter lifespan than those who are happy[17], good guys, good attitudes not only determine a woman's life, but also the length of a woman's life.
What's even more troublesome is that not only in the face of emotions, women's bodies will be more fragile, but women's unique physiological systems will in turn interfere with emotions.
A 2021 study published in the top scientific journal Nature Human Behavior analyzed emotional, behavioral, and physiological data from 3.3 million women in 109 countries. They found that women began to experience very significant mood depression two weeks before their menstrual period and did not return to a plateau until the end of their menstrual period. Mood swings are also significantly greater in women during the menstrual period [8].
Menstruation is dominated by hormones, and women are more likely to have mood swings / Picture worm creativity
So, the majority of male compatriots, please be more considerate of your girlfriend, the physical pain caused by the menstrual period is uncomfortable enough, and the emotional collapse is superimposed, this is really a people's mentality, it's really not that she deliberately snubbed you, and when she died of pain and came back to emo, she just put the idol in front of her, I'm afraid she doesn't want to pay attention to it!
In addition, studies that have focused on menopausal women have found that women are at significantly increased risk of depressed mood and experiencing major depressive episodes during this transition period, and that hormonal changes during menopause may also be partly responsible for the increased risk of depression [9].
Although recent studies have suggested that the impact of estrogen on mood is not as great as we think [16], in general, when it comes to maintaining a good attitude, the body does drag women down, so is it true that women can't maintain a good attitude?
Instead of self-internal friction,
It's better to go outward
It's a pity that the physiological "unreliable" is a pity, but instead of indulging in this uncontrollable regret, it is better to focus on what we can really change.
Yes, in addition to physiological factors, there is a more important factor that affects a woman's "state of mind", and that is the way we see things.
We all know that being a man is hard, and being a woman is even harder.
Treat people and things in all directions, and teach husbands and children to be both soft and hard, even Hu Tutu's mother, who is "the first beauty in martial arts who can go up to the hall and down to the kitchen, and can write and martial arts", has a moment when she can't hold back and go crazy. There are too many things, and it is inevitable that there will be a mistake. That's where the gender gap comes in.
A large number of studies have found that men and women adopt different strategies when interpreting negative events: men are more likely to look for external causes, while women are more inclined to look for internal causes [10], and even if they are both internal causes, women are more likely to attribute causes as uncontrollable, while men are the opposite.
After the exam, it is easier for women to self-examine and review / Picture worm creativity
Carol Dweck, a well-known psychologist at Stanford University, has done a series of studies that reveal the differences in attribution between men and women. For example, when college students fail exams, women are more likely to perceive that they have a low IQ, while men are more likely to feel that they are not interested in the subject or that they have not paid attention to the class [11].
So, here is also an explanation of why there are such big differences between men and women in terms of emotional types that we mentioned earlier.
Imagine, if the performance is criticized by the top boss for not meeting the standard, men are afraid that "labor and management are working hard, you are too little", then you can't be angry, at least smoke and drink to vent anger, or at worst violent impulses, and spread your grievances to the outside world;
And such an attribution model is likely to be the result of social shaping.
A classic study in Developmental Psychology pointed out that when students in the fourth and fifth grades achieved poor test scores, teachers were more likely to think that girls were not smart, or boys were not working hard[12], and under such an evaluation system, girls also became accustomed to this negative attribution pattern, and continued to accumulate negative emotions, and eventually became "hysterical crazy women".
So, throw away these inherent thinking patterns, instead of self-internal friction, it is better to strive outward, why is it all my fault?
Instead of internal friction, it is better to strive for the promotion / picture worm creativity
Moreover, studies have found that external attribution may be a protective factor against negative emotions in the face of frustration [13].
From this point of view, the ancestor is really right: don't blame yourself, blame others. I understand, either the boss has no way to lead, or my colleagues are dragging their feet, anyway, it can't be my fault.
In addition, expressing emotions positively is also conducive to establishing a good state of mind.
Note that it is not only positive emotions that can be expressed, but that expressing negative emotions may be more meaningful, and it can even affect the progression of breast cancer and other chronic diseases [14]. A study from the University of Kansas in the United States found that women who regularly expressed their emotions to cope with cancer had fewer cancer-related visits, healthier, and less distress than cancer patients who expressed less emotion [15].
Of course, I hope that women can encounter fewer bad people and things than to maintain a good attitude when they encounter bad things, and they can live a good life without a good attitude.
Men too.
Please.
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