Text: Marriage counselor Liu Jie
In the process of finding a life partner, men want to find a woman with whom they can spend their lives.
However, some women's behaviors in their relationships imply that they are not suitable to be wives. This is not a disparagement of them, but a reminder to men when choosing a partner.
After all, marriage is a major event in life, and if you choose the right one, you will be happy for a lifetime, and if you choose the wrong one, you will be miserable.
Next, let's talk about three possible behaviors of a woman in a relationship, which may help you identify women who are not suitable for being a wife.
01
Excessive pursuit of material comforts
In a relationship, material conditions are basic, but not all.
If a woman pursues material comforts excessively, she always uses money and material things as the standard for measuring love. Then, such a woman may not be suitable to be a wife.
In the process of dating, they tend to put too high demands on you in terms of material things. Once you can't satisfy her vanity, it can lead to conflict and resentment.
For example, some girls, in the process of dating their boyfriends, ask men to pay for everything.
Whether it's a high-end restaurant, or a luxury store, she will expect a man to meet all her needs.
It's okay if the man is satisfied, but if he hesitates, or doesn't want to pay. She will accuse men of not loving her, and even have conflicts with men because of this.
The most important thing is that if the man's economy can't keep up and can't continue to pay for her, her attitude will change immediately, and she will choose to separate without hesitation.
Aristotle once said, "True happiness does not consist in the possession of wealth, but in the possession of modest wealth." ”
It is difficult for a woman who pursues material things too much to find happiness in an ordinary life.
Therefore, when a man chooses a partner, if he encounters such a materialistic woman, he must be cautious.
02
Often lying or hiding the truth
In an intimate relationship, if you can't be sincere, then the relationship basically can't go on.
If a woman often lies in her relationship or hides something from you. Well, such a woman is often dangerous and not worthy of your trust, so be careful.
Some women, in the process of dating men, will deliberately lie in order to cover up the past or for other purposes.
For example, she once had a chaotic love history, but lied that she had never been in a relationship. Or, lying in front of a man and saying that she is in trouble, asking him to support her financially, etc.
Lying and concealment on one side is deception and harm to the other.
William Shakespeare once said, "Sincerity is the road to honor." ”
A woman who lies a lot, has no integrity at all. You don't know which of her words is true and which is false, and you don't know if she is using you.
When encountering such a woman, a man must pay more attention to observation, and it is important to see her true character.
03
Lack of independence and responsibility
For a really good relationship, both parties must have a certain degree of independence and space, so that the relationship can last for a long time.
If a woman, too dependent on men, lacks the ability to live independently. Then such a woman may not be suitable to be a wife.
After she really enters the marriage, it is very likely that she will put all the problems and responsibilities on the man to solve. In the long run, men will bear a lot of pressure, and the marriage will become more and more tired.
When dating, some women will show a strong dependence on men.
Whether it is the trivial things in life or the troubles encountered at work, she hopes that a man will solve them for her.
If the man can't solve it, or wants her to be independent, she will face it herself. She will show dissatisfaction and complaints, lose her temper with men, and even break up, etc.
Such a state will also be brought into marriage, she will continue to rely on men, and will put forward higher requirements for men.
Victor Hugo once said, "True happiness in life is to be committed to a goal that you consider to be great." ”
A woman who lacks independence can hardly be a strong backing for a man. Therefore, when choosing a partner, men should consider whether they have enough patience and ability to withstand this over-dependence of women.
Generally speaking, most women with the above three behaviors are not suitable to be wives.
When choosing a lifelong partner, men should carefully consider these factors to ensure that they can find a truly suitable partner to spend their lives with.
As Oswald Schwartz said, "A good marriage is a great happiness in life; ”
So, when choosing a partner, be sure to keep your eyes peeled and find the person who can truly be with you until you grow old.