I believe that many people have experienced that in the relationship we always feel that we are good and that we are infallible, but we are always hurt. So, why exactly?
First of all, I think it's important to be accurate in your self-perception. We tend to overestimate ourselves in relationships and overestimate the other person. We will give too high meaning to the other person's actions and words, and regard them as evaluations of ourselves, so that we lose ourselves in the relationship. In this case, we feel hurt as soon as the other person's attitude towards us changes. Therefore, we need to learn to put our place in the relationship in perspective and understand that everyone is an individual with their own preferences and ideas.
Secondly, the contradictions and conflicts in our relationships are also one of the reasons why we are hurt. When there are differences of opinion or disagreement between the two sides, if we cannot handle it properly, it is easy to lead to conflict. In this case, if we are too attached to our own point of view and ignore the other person's feelings, it is easy for the other person to feel hurt. Therefore, we need to learn to listen to each other's voices and understand each other's feelings, so that we can better resolve contradictions and conflicts.
Furthermore, we tend to be overly idealistic in our relationships, expecting the other person to meet all our needs. However, the reality is that everyone is imperfect and has their own shortcomings and shortcomings. When we discover the shortcomings and deficiencies of the other person, we can feel disappointed and hurt. Therefore, we need to learn to accept each other's shortcomings and shortcomings, understand that everyone has their own growth process and experience, and we cannot expect perfection from each other.
In addition, our dependence in relationships is also one of the causes of injury. If we become too dependent on the other person and lose our self-independence, then we will feel helpless and lost once the other person leaves us or their attitude towards us changes. Therefore, we need to learn to maintain a certain degree of independence and have our own lives and hobbies so that we can maintain balance in our relationships.
Finally, I would like to say that we have a sense of self-preservation in our relationships. We tend to see the other person as a threat and become defensive. In this case, if we don't properly handle this defensive mentality, it is easy for the other person to feel hurt. Therefore, we need to learn to trust each other and understand that feelings need to be based on mutual trust and respect.
So, how do you avoid getting hurt in your relationship?
1. Learn to put your position in the relationship in perspective
We need to understand that everyone is an individual with their own strengths and weaknesses. We need to learn to accept each other's shortcomings while also respecting each other's feelings and ideas.
2. Learn to properly handle contradictions and conflicts
When there are differences of opinion or disagreement, we need to calmly analyze the problem and find a suitable solution. We need to learn to listen to each other's perspectives and feelings, so that we can better resolve contradictions and conflicts.
3. Maintain a certain sense of independence and self-protection
In a relationship, we need to have our own lives and hobbies so that we can maintain balance. At the same time, we also need to learn to express our feelings and needs, so that the other person can understand what we really think.
4. Learn to trust each other
Feelings need to be built on the basis of mutual trust and respect, and only by trusting each other can the relationship be more stable.
There are many reasons why we can hurt in relationships, but we can avoid getting hurt if we learn to put our position in the relationship in perspective, properly handle conflicts and conflicts, maintain a certain sense of independence and self-preservation, and trust the other person. Let's work together! I believe that as long as we manage our feelings with our hearts, we will be able to find true happiness and satisfaction.