At first glance, I felt that the title of the book was mediocre, but what attracted me was the practical process of psychotherapy.
I didn't expect this book to be like a key that opened the door for me to explore my inner world.
Today I would like to share with you those philosophical golden sentences in the book, hoping to bring you some reference and inspiration, let's explore the depths of the soul and self-growth together!
"No criticism is stronger than self-criticism, and no judge is harsher than ourselves"
This sentence profoundly reveals the phenomenon of being strict with oneself and even being too harsh on oneself.
However, no matter how good things are, more than a certain "dose" can be harmful to our body. It can be described as "too much"!
Do you have such a person around you?
TA is already very good, and he keeps pushing himself harder, and even keeps denying himself: I don't deserve it, I can't do it well, I'm a waste......
In fact, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is impossible to be proficient in everything, after all, there is only one number one in the world.
"The person who can help you is yourself, and only yourself", "Understanding yourself is the first step to happiness"
These two sentences remind us that whether we want to come out or not depends on our own choices.
We must learn to redeem ourselves, face ourselves, care for ourselves, understand ourselves, and achieve ourselves.
The position of each person determines the temperature of their perception of the world, the world of people who are anxious in their hearts is also cold, and the people who are warm in their hearts are sunshine everywhere they go.
In the past, I liked to watch "Ace vs. Ace" and watched Jia Ling's sketches, because she always brought joy to people.
After all, happiness is contagious!
"True courage is to face one's fears, not to run away", "Change begins with the courage to accept one's imperfections"
Everyone has fears. For example, the fear of pension issues, the fear of graduation defense, and the fear of uncertainty about the future.
However, escaping can't solve the problems of the moment, what should come will always come, rather than worrying about the sky, it is better to face it calmly.
Dare to accept oneself and face one's imperfect self calmly, which is also a kind of growth in itself.
"Mental health is not a luxury in life, but a necessity"
In the book, Mr. Toad is unimpressed by its psychological problems until his life is severely affected.
In real life, people often ignore the importance of mental health until they have to face the problem.
We must know that physical and mental health is really healthy, and if there is a problem in any part of the body and mind, our life will be unbalanced.
"How long are you going to blame others for your unhappiness?"
We are often accustomed to passing the blame to the outside world, but we forget that we are the masters of our destiny.
In the book, Mr. Toad keeps accusing his parents of being too him and others being unkind to him.
In fact, it is not that others are accusing him of being bad, but that he does not dare to express his thoughts, for fear that others will deny him.
In reality, you must have seen such a phenomenon, right?
When a child accidentally falls, adults will deal with the crying child in different ways:
Some adults will point to the ground and say, "It's all its fault, it's it that made you fall!"
Some adults, who are not in a hurry to investigate right and wrong, will analyze the real cause of the fall with the child after calming the child.
Which way do you think is more conducive to your child's education? The second one is more appropriate, right?
"To live authentically is to sincerely respond to the needs of the moment"
This sentence tells us not to live in the expectations of others, but to face up to the real needs of our hearts.
We are not a copy of anyone, let alone anyone's "Aladdin's magic lamp", and we don't have to fulfill the three wishes of the "master".
Only by genuinely responding to our needs in the moment can we truly live our true selves.
"The essence of growth is to reduce and eventually break down such dependencies in order to become an independent person. ”
This makes us understand that to learn to be independent on the road to growth, we need to build a strong heart in order to move forward firmly on the road of life.
You see, you have transformed step by step from a babbling baby to an independent individual, shining in your own field, and this is the meaning of growth.
These philosophical sayings allow us to reflect on our own behaviors and thought patterns, and guide us to explore the depths of our hearts and grow ourselves.
I love the phrase "Everything has a crack, that's where the light comes in", and I give it to you and myself.
I look forward to seeing a better version of ourselves!
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