The incident happened in a resident's house in Heilongjiang, the man sent his two children to school, and when he came home and looked at the messy room and living room, he was instantly depressed.
He sat on the ground and didn't want to move, feeling like these things were repeating themselves forever.
Endless housework, confusion, entanglement, regret, and a strong sense of guilt! I want to be a good father, but... It's really tiring.
Many people think that after sending their children to school and before school, this period belongs to them, but in fact it is not.
The man first has to fold the quilt in the room, take the change of clothes to wash and dry, and then mop the floor and do hygiene.
The dishes and chopsticks for breakfast still have to be washed, and the kitchen has to be cleaned, and after doing these things, the man has a little personal time.
But sometimes my wife explained that she had other tasks, such as going to pick up the courier, going to buy groceries earlier, etc., and after being busy with these things, a morning time passed.
At noon, he was too lazy to cook, he was too tired. Because the man got up at about 5:30 a.m. to make breakfast, he had to catch up on sleep at noon, otherwise he would not get enough sleep.
The lunch break is the most relaxing time for men.
By about 3 p.m., the man would have to get busy again. The end of elementary school is not fixed, sometimes around 3 o'clock, sometimes a little later.
After picking up the two children and returning home, he had to start cooking dinner again.
Dinner is not easy, in addition to the meal for a family of four, I also have to help my wife make a lunch box at noon the next day, so that she doesn't have to eat takeout, and my wife feels that eating takeout is unhealthy.
In the same job, after eating, the man has to wash the dishes and clean up the kitchen, after taking a bath, he has to help the children with their homework, and then put their daughters to sleep, etc.
In the dead of night, the man didn't dare to stay up late because he had to get up early the next day.
As for weekends, if his wife works overtime, he will take 2 children, either go out to the park or shopping mall to play, or walk around the community at home, anyway, he has no weekends.
It is reported that the man has been a "stay-at-home dad" for 8 years.
At the beginning, his wife's job was better than him, and the salary was higher than his, so he quit his job and took care of the children at home full-time to support his wife's career.
I never thought that after the first child, I had a second child, and it took 8 years to go this way. It's also hard to get out of the house now, because you have to have someone to take care of the family and children, and it is impossible for two people to work at the same time.
The most helpless thing is that the man doesn't know what to do anymore and has been out of society for too long.
Another point is that the man no longer has any friends, not that his friends deliberately exclude him, but that he has no time to go out with his friends to fish, drink, play cards, etc., and everyone knows his situation, and over time, the party does not call him anymore.
Girls think that men are a little hypocritical, and people are mothers, isn't it like this 365 days a year? Boys still think that taking children is a blessing at home!
Men should be considered happy, they don't have to have a monthly period, they don't have to face their in-laws, they don't have to enjoy the happiness of being pregnant in October, they don't have to be blessed with a 30-day confinement, you are already very happy, and you are still depressed, you look at how ironic.
Women don't want to go home either, when they come home there are disobedient children, unfinished housework, unfavorable rooms, endless conflicts, and husbands who can't speak three words a day, how nice it is outside.
Eat and eat with friends, go shopping, travel, only talk about the wind and snow, do not mention firewood, rice, oil and salt, if it is not a responsibility, who will enclose themselves in this acre and three points of land, women just can't be so chic as men, only to find that the child is trapped after giving birth, only the mother.
What I want to say is that whether it is going to work or taking care of the baby full-time, they are all tired and have their own sufferings.
Take a break when you're tired, and do it when you want to do it.
Full-time with two babies, I am so tired, every time I finish eating, I put the bowl into the sink, wipe the table clean, collapse on the sofa and brush the mobile phone to rest, and then go to wash the dishes, tutor the children's homework, clean up Xiaobao's messy toys, mop the floor, give Xiaobao a bath to sleep, and then lie down and brush the mobile phone after work.
In that sentence, the path you choose must be completed on your knees.
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