Preface
The Sima family and the Murong family, as representatives of two families in Chinese history, have carried different destinies of rise and fall, highlighting the complexity and profundity of the family's fate.
In the long history of the Sima family, they once ruled the whole of China, but eventually collapsed due to internal strife, while the Murong family, who rose to prominence in the northern steppes and established a powerful state, but eventually could not escape the fate of decline.
So, what exactly determines the fate of these families? Is it the wisdom and courage of the family members, or is it the external environment and historical opportunities? Let us interpret them one by one today.
First, the rise of the two major families
Sima's Family: From the edge to the center
In the middle of the Eastern Han Dynasty, the Sima family was just an obscure small family. However, the gears of fate began to turn, and everything quietly changed. Sima Wei, the ancestor of the Sima family, once followed Xiang Yu during the Chu-Han conflict, and later took refuge with Liu Bang, but was eventually killed in the Battle of Pengcheng.
This made the Sima family lose the opportunity to enter the core of power, and they were silent for more than three hundred years. It was not until the middle of the Eastern Han Dynasty that the Sima family ushered in the dawn of its rise again. As a general of Zhengxi, although Sima Jun finally chose to commit suicide, he won the respect of the imperial court for his family.
Next, Sima Liang and Sima Jun rose step by step, and Sima Jun became the Taishou of Yingchuan, established close ties with the local scholars, and laid a solid foundation for the family. It is worth mentioning that since Sima Jun, the life span of Sima Jun's family has been extraordinarily long, which has won them more opportunities and time. These laid a solid foundation for the later rise of the Sima family.
Murong Family: From the frontier to the Central Plains
In contrast, the Murong family's starting point was even more humble. They were only the leaders of a small tribe in the Wild Lands, and their surnames had evolved through false rumors. However, the Murong family's family style and tutoring are extremely good.
They have worked hard from generation to generation to make the country prosperous, are positive, and are good at absorbing advanced culture and getting closer to advanced groups. This pragmatic and enterprising attitude eventually began to slowly erupt in the era of Murong Diao. Murong Diao is not only talented in his own right, but also has cultivated a group of outstanding children, such as Murong Han, Murong Hao, Murong Ren, Murong Zhao, etc.
They are all brave and good at fighting, and they have become an important force for the family to take off. The rise of the Murong family can be said to be a legendary story of a small tribe in the frontier gradually moving towards the Central Plains. With their own efforts and wisdom, they eventually became a famous political force at the time.
Second, talent is the foundation of the family's prosperity
Whether it is the Sima family or the Murong family, their rise stems from one thing in common: the emergence of a large number of outstanding talents. These talents are like arrows that break the wall of the family's development, opening up a way forward for the family.
The Sima family's multi-sided bet
Sima Fang is an investor in the Sima family. He divided his eight sons into different camps to ensure that the family could get a piece of the pie no matter what. This multi-sided betting strategy comes from the fact that the Sima family has a large number of high-quality resources in their hands, that is, excellent talents.
For example, Sima Lang was thriving under Cao Cao, and Sima Yi joined Cao Pi's core team, and finally survived many opponents with his super long standby ability, becoming the first leader of Cao Wei's military and political affairs. And Sima Shi and Sima Zhao paved the way for their father's usurpation. These outstanding children have provided a solid talent foundation for the rise of the Sima family.
The Murong family's father and son are weapons of war
The Murong family is more like a father-son army. Whenever they encountered a major crisis, Murong Diao and Murong Hao would personally go out and lead their sons to expand their territory. For example, when the 100,000-strong army of the Yuwen Ministry besieged the city, Murong Hao served as the vanguard, opening the way for his father to break through.
Later, Murong Ke and Murong Chui showed their skills many times and defeated powerful opponents. This father-son art of war originated from the Murong family, which cultivated a large number of excellent children. All of them are brave and warlike generals, and they have become the mainstay of the family's development.
Cultivation of outstanding talents
The cultivation of outstanding talents comes from good family style and family education. Sima Fang taught his children to be affectionate, righteous and responsible; Murong Diao formulated a thousand-word "Family Order", requiring his descendants to respect knowledge and be diligent and thrifty. Growing up in such an environment, children will naturally become pillars.
On the other hand, at present, the doting education of many parents is worrying. They are overprotective of their children and limit their opportunities to grow in social practice, which is undoubtedly an obstacle to their future development.
3. Family internal friction is the root cause of decline
However, just when the two families reached their peak, a frenzy of internal friction was brewing. The temptation of huge profits awakens the selfishness and ugliness of human nature.
The rebellion of the Eight Kings of the Sima family
After Sima Yan dominated the world, he calculated against his younger brother Sima You. This infighting between the brothers soon turned into an even more brutal rebellion of the Eight Kings. Brothers killed each other, uncles and nephews killed each other, and the clan was almost washed clean by blood.
This internal friction intensified like a snowball, and eventually led to the rapid decline of the Sima family. It can be said that the peak period of the Sima family was very short, and it was so fragile that it was heart-wrenching.
The intrigue of the Murong family
Murong Hao couldn't tolerate his brothers at all, he killed if he could, and forced him if he coerced. Later, Murong Jun and Murong Wei also had ill intentions towards Murong Chui. This kind of internal intrigue also spread within the Murong family. When the problem of the distribution of family interests arises, the selfishness and ugliness in human nature are thoroughly stimulated.
The mutual calculations and killings within the family eventually led to the decline of the Murong family. It can be said that prosperity must decline, and under the avalanche, no snowflake is innocent.
Whether it is the Sima family or the Murong family, they are gradually declining in internal friction. This is also a wake-up call to us that the key to family development is not only to cultivate talents, but also to avoid internal disputes.
4. Health Awareness and Social Practice
To continue the family's legacy, we need two key factors: health awareness and social practices.
The importance of health awareness
Opportunities often have to wait, and good health has become the capital of the revolution. Sima Yi and Murong Chui were able to finally realize their family ideals largely due to their longevity. Sima Yi lived to be in his eighties, and Murong Chui also lived to be seventy years old.
This longevity provides them with enough time to plan and implement their plans. In contrast, if they die young like Zhuge Liang, I am afraid it will be difficult to complete the rise of the family.
The importance of health awareness is not only at the individual level, but also at the family level. If a family can cultivate a group of long-lived members, then they have more opportunities to cope with various changes, thereby increasing the possibility of family development. This is also one of the important reasons why the Sima family and the Murong family were able to stand tall in the turbulent times.
The sharpening of social practice
Children can only really stand out if they have experience in social practice. Both Sima Fang and Murong Hao dared to throw their young children into the baptism of war, precisely because they had enough reserves.
This practice, although it may seem cruel, can allow children to grow up quickly in practice and develop the necessary abilities and courage. On the other hand, many parents are overprotective of their children, which just hinders their growth.
We need to give children more opportunities for social practice, so that they can grow up in the grind, rather than confined them to the greenhouse. Only children who have experienced the baptism of wind and rain can truly become the pillars of family development.
Fifth, the road to family revitalization
Finally, for ordinary families, what are the implications for the rise and fall of the Sima family and the Murong family?
Giving birth to more children increases the probability of outstanding talents
Sima Fang gave birth to eight sons, Sima Yi had nine sons, and Murong Hao was twenty sons. This kind of large-scale birth undoubtedly increases the probability of the emergence of outstanding talents. Just like buying more lottery tickets, the better your chances of winning.
For ordinary families, they should also have as many children as possible, which can not only continue the family bloodline, but also reserve more talent resources for family development.
Of course, having too many children will also bring some burdens, but as long as the family's economic conditions allow, having more children is undoubtedly a good choice. After all, in the cases of the Sima family and the Murong family, we see the important role of a large number of outstanding children.
They became the mainstay of the family's development and promoted the family's rise. For ordinary families, this practice should also be learned to pave the way for the future of the family.
Pay attention to family style and family education, and cultivate moral cultivation
A good family style and tutoring can nurture excellent talents. Like Sima Fang and Murong Diao, we should attach importance to the moral cultivation of our children, rather than simply pursuing material achievements. Only when children grow up in a good family environment can they truly grow into pillars.
On the other hand, many parents pay too much attention to their children's academic performance and ignore the cultivation of their moral cultivation. This practice is undoubtedly short-sighted, because a person's achievements depend not only on his knowledge and skills, but also on his moral character and cultivation. Only with good moral character can children gain a foothold in society and make due contributions to the development of the family.
Take the right path and do the right thing
The reason why some families are confused is because they have embarked on a gray development path. Like the ancestors of the Sima family and the Murong family, we must adhere to integrity and kindness, and pave the way for future generations to accumulate virtue.
Only in this way can our family really have a lasting momentum for development and not suddenly collapse at some point. Of course, taking the right path does not mean that it will be smooth sailing, and there may be more obstacles and challenges. But as long as we stick to the right path, I believe that one day, our family will regain its glory.
After all, the ancestors of the Sima family and the Murong family were all in a difficult environment, relying on their integrity and wisdom, and finally achieved the glory of the family. This is an example that we should follow.
epilogue
The rise and fall of the family is like a great tide, full of endless twists and turns. However, as long as we keep the lessons in mind, adhere to the right path, cultivate outstanding talents, and give our children the opportunity to practice, I believe that every family can regain its glory. Let's sail in this tide and write our own legendary chapter!