Author: Insight Moon
There is a divine drama on Douban with a score of 9.2, which is regarded as the "shopping mall bible" by countless people.
The philosophy of life and strong thinking contained in it have enlightened batch after batch of audiences.
This TV series is "The Way of Heaven", adapted from the classic novel "Distant Savior" by writer Doudou.
When I first watched "The Way of Heaven", I thought that "savior" was referring to Ding Yuanying.
He helped the poor in Wangmiao Village, helping the poor villagers, and he engaged in a business war of poetry and poetry, waking up Ouyang Xue and others......
But after careful inspection, I found that as wise as Ding Yuanying, there are also people who can't pull up, can't wake up, and can't be persuased.
01
- Villager of Wangmiao Village: You can't pull up the mentally kneeling people.
Wangmiao Village is one of the poorest villages in the county, and the villagers are so poor that they can't afford to pay the electricity bill of 4 yuan a year.
In order to help the villagers get rid of poverty, the government has also made efforts to build a carpentry workshop and a sand turning factory in the village...... Several times persuaded them to create a happy life with their own hands.
But within a few days, the villagers will be disgusted with the slow money, go on strike, and wait for government subsidies.
When life is unsustainable, their first thought is not to work hard and earn money, but to run to the village church and pray to God to make them rich.
In this way, they pinned their hopes on the ethereal God, and they struggled in "waiting for help" for more than ten years.
Later, Ding Yuanying said to Han Chufeng on the way to Wutai Mountain:
I can't save them, all I can do is give them a concept of survival, and the only thing that can save them is themselves.
What really makes a person poor is the person's survival concept of "waiting for the need".
Rely on your parents at home, rely on your friends when you go out, rely on God, rely on luck......
In short, you can rely on anything, but you can't rely on yourself, so you can only kneel mentally.
At the shareholders' meeting, someone smiled and expressed gratitude: Ding Ge pulled us, and the future of our brothers was saved.
Ding Yuanying couldn't help frowning after hearing this, and said to Rui Xiaodan:
"People who have this kind of thinking are already hopeless.
The essence of poverty alleviation is in the word "help", if you don't plan to stand up on your own at all, it is useless for God to come. ”
Sure enough, people with these ideas, after following Ding Yuanying to make some money, still returned to poverty one after another because of their poor hearts.
Yishu said: Poverty is a state of mind.
Poverty is not because of birth, nor because of chance, but because of the poverty and desolation of the heart.
In real life, it is not difficult to find that the more people who are not well mixed, the more they will shout about how powerful their friends and relatives are, and they will pull themselves in the future, so they will lie down with peace of mind.
This kind of person is no different from the villagers of Wangmiao Village, they are all waiting for others to save them.
But even if you can save them for a while, you can't save them for a lifetime.
Life is precious, don't waste time on those who are mentally kneeling, and don't become like them.
02
- Liu Bing: You can't help people who are driven by desire.
Liu Bing was the first among the "Three Heroes" in Wangmiao Village to get acquainted with Ding Yuanying.
Ding Yuanying also made him change from a small shop owner to the office director of a listed company.
But he was still not satisfied, driven by his own desires, missed many opportunities to change his life, and walked towards a desperate situation step by step.
For the first time, Ding Yuanying had just arrived in the ancient city, and his funds were frozen, so he asked Liu Bing to sell his original record.
Liu Bing fell into the well, black-hearted to suppress the price, buy low and sell high.
Ding Yuanying didn't argue, but just put a greedy label on him in his heart.
In the later cooperation, Ding Yuanying could never fully trust him.
The second time, Liu Bing found out that Ding Yuanying was a master, and he had the cheekiness to forcibly interpret the previous black business behavior as cooperation.
He also said that he came out of the poor countryside and hoped that Ding Yuanying could help him.
In this way, Liu Bing took Ding Yuanying's line, joined the Gleon poem, and drove a BMW every day to show off.
But after Grésh encountered a lawsuit, he was only worried that his shares would be affected, and immediately withdrew his shares and cashed out.
Later, Piaget Audio Company planned to acquire Glushi for 6.5 million, and Liu Bing thought that he had missed 700,000 and regretted it.
The third time, after Gleshi won the lawsuit, Liu Bing begged Ding Yuanying with his face again, hoping to continue to work in the company.
Ding Yuanying decided to give him one last chance and gave Liu Bing a file bag, saying that it contained the secrets of Gelushi, which could be used as a bargaining chip for him to stay and work.
As long as Liu Bing can be honest, Gelushi will accept him.
But Liu Bing's choice was to turn around and threaten Gelushi with the file bag, clamoring for money, shares, and positions, otherwise he would give the file bag to the rival company.
When he refused, he planned to release the evidence and find that the file bag was empty.
Disillusioned, his long-accumulated desire was instantly detonated, and he jumped off the rooftop.
In "The Book of the Later Han Dynasty: The Biography of Cen Peng", it is said: People are not satisfied, they are both peaceful and look back at Shu.
You can never help a greedy person, because their desires are phased, each time bigger and bigger, and they will never be satisfied.
When you get money, you want fame, and when you get fame, you want power......
If you are greedy excessively, you will inevitably become a disaster, and if you are overpowered, you will be eaten back.
Life is limited, but desires are endless. Don't waste your limited energy on an insatiable person.
03
- Ye Xiaoming: People with low cognition, you can't persuade them.
Douban has a comment about Ye Xiaoming, which hit the nail on the head:
Ambition makes him ambitious, and cognition makes him sit in the well and watch the sky.
At the audio exhibition, Ding Yuanying persuaded Ye Xiaoming to reduce the price of his own audio.
Ye Xiaoming is very opposed, in his opinion, the price reduction means a sharp drop in revenue, which is a dead end for the company.
Ding Yuanying analyzed Ye Xiaoming from all aspects of economy and human nature, afraid that he would not understand, and finally said that the ultimate purpose of the price reduction was to get a piece of the pie from Lesheng.
Ye Xiaoming still disagreed, and said to the shareholders in private, "The money is the money of the ancient city, and Brother Ding didn't pay a penny, if you do what he says, who will be responsible if you really do it?"
Writer Mizumuraan once said: When your cognition exceeds the other party, he will instinctively defend and resist. Because everyone is proving that they are right and that their dignity cannot be violated.
The lower the level of understanding, the narrower the thinking and the less likely it is to be persuaded.
They only believe the facts in their own minds and refuse to accept other people's opinions.
Therefore, when Glerich received the notice of Lesheng's lawsuit, he was also the first to propose to withdraw his shares.
Ding Yuanying repeatedly persuaded him to wait, Gleness is a poverty alleviation company, and it is not so easy to lose the lawsuit.
Ye Xiaoming could not listen to it, from his cognitive point of view, how could ants compete with elephants, this lawsuit would definitely be lost.
As a result, Gregory turned defeat into victory, and he missed a great future.
The Qing Dynasty scholar Zhang Chao once divided life into three realms:
The first is to watch the moon from the window, the second is to look at the moon in the courtyard, and the third is to play with the moon on the high platform.
Ye Xiaoming belongs to the first type, with his own limitations, he can only watch the moon in the window, and when he was lucky enough to see the corner of the bright moon, he thought that he recognized the whole picture of the moon.
People with low cognition are always confined to their own one-third of an acre, and you will never be able to persuade them.
No matter how you lay out the evidence and reason, he will decide that he is right and insist that you are wrong.
It's not that he's targeting you, it's a low-level perception that makes him unable to accept other ideas.
Only when they are beaten and deceived will they wake up.
When you meet this kind of person, staying away silently is the best fulfillment for each other.
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In the 41st chapter of the Tao Te Ching, it says:
When the sergeant heard the sermon, he acted diligently, the sergeant heard the sergeant, and if he survived, he died, and the corporal laughed when he heard the sermon.
When a wise man hears the correct truth, he will take the initiative to learn and practice and change himself, while a fool will only refute and ridicule when he clings to his defects.
When a person has an epiphany and the intention of making amends, then a truth, a paragraph, or even a few words can make him wake up.
Otherwise, no matter how many words you say and rack your brains, he will still insist on going his own way.
Never try to persuade or save the wrong person, and put your heart and soul into the right person.