In our youthful years, we think that love is clinging to it, but in our mature years, we gradually understand that true love is a state that transcends possession. This is a broad and far-reaching emotional understanding, a sublimation of love, learning to let go, and learning to be selfless. This kind of love, simple and pure, yet deep and complex, teaches us that the true meaning of love is not possession, but appreciation, support and resonance.
In the initial stages of love, we all had strong possessiveness. It seems to be an expression of love, but it is actually the pursuit of a sense of security. We crave the other person's full time, attention, and emotion, and want to be the center of each other's world. This kind of love is overbearing, and it stems from the needs of the self, not the happiness of the other person.
As time passes, the sense of bondage that comes with this possession begins to show, and the burden of love suffocates both parties. We are beginning to realize that true love should not be a restriction on freedom, but a respect for individuality and support for dreams.
When we gradually awaken from the desire to possess and begin to try to understand and support, a new chapter of love begins. At this time, love is no longer taking, but giving, no longer limiting, but free. We learn to listen to each other's voices, understand each other's choices, and respect each other's independence. At this stage, love is built on deep communication and mutual understanding.
Understanding and support constitute the new dimension of love. For example, we give space when the other person needs to be alone, and we encourage the other person when they pursue their dreams. This kind of love is more mature and deep, and it focuses on the overall happiness of the other person, rather than just being satisfied with emotional dependence.
The highest state of love is selflessness, which is an almost holy state. Here, we no longer seek what we get from each other, but what we can contribute to each other. This selflessness is not a sacrifice, but a high degree of self-realization, which comes from the abundance and strength of the heart.
Selfless love is simple pleasure. When we genuinely rejoice in each other's success and happiness, we experience the true joy of love. This joy is profound, it goes beyond material and superficial satisfaction, and touches the depths of the heart.
Achieving this state of love is not an easy task, and it requires constant practice and manifestation in daily life. For example, when the other person is stressed out because of work, we choose not to complain, but to provide a warm hug and a quiet dinner. When the other person achieves something, our first reaction is to congratulate them from the bottom of our hearts, rather than being jealous or worrying that we will be ignored.
This practice of love requires us to transcend ourselves, let go of our self-centered way of thinking, and truly take the needs of the other person to heart. It's not just a practice in a love relationship, it's a sign of our growth as a person.
Sublimating love to such a state is actually a philosophy of life. It teaches us how to relate to others and how to see ourselves and others. Guided by this philosophy, we are not only able to build healthier loving relationships, but also to practice this high level of love and respect in our interactions with family, friends, and even strangers.
One day, we will understand that love is actually a state, it is not a simple possession or an exchange of emotions, but a kind of life force, a kind of selfless giving and deep support. Learn to love in this way, and we will find that happiness is really simple, and it comes from a deep understanding of the world and a love of life. In this kind of love, we find the highest form of self-realization.
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