The world's most hopeful son Jackie Chan, daughter Jackie Chan, is undoubtedly Chinese parents, even if they immigrate to Canada with "happy education", they still have to roll up the baby, the chicken baby, the roll of "you live and die", and the chicken is "old in the wilderness".
As a parent, I have been deeply shocked: I took my children to participate in the kindergarten interview of a top private school in Wenxi, and more than two-thirds of the more than 100 students interviewed were Chinese families, and in order to strictly control the proportion of various ethnic groups, less than a quarter of the Chinese in the actual school were Chinese.
In other words, in terms of proportion, the admission rate of Chinese children is the lowest, and there is no one. The reason is, of course, that the proportion of parents of "roll babies" is high, and they can only compete with their compatriots for a few places. And, this trend is getting stronger.
What shocked me the most was not during the interview, but at the public open day of the private school, and the proportion of Chinese parents was more than 90%!
In addition, in high-end private kindergartens of all ethnicities, the proportion of Chinese children in a class also exceeds 80%......
Every time I pick up and drop off my children in kindergarten, the content of the chat of Chinese parents is basically "Has your child participated in the xxx private school interview, and what class has your child enrolled in?", while the content of the chat of white parents is basically "Where did you take your child on vacation last weekend?
This difference is obvious, but it cannot be said that Chinese parents are wrong to roll up their babies in Vancouver, after all, everyone has their own aspirations, and although the proportion of Chinese in Vancouver is high, but after all, they are still outsiders, and parents generally hope that their children can compete for breath, so as to stand on the mainstream stage and raise their eyebrows.
Still in Vancy, there's a famous shopping street in Kerrisdale, well, everyone should know which one. After walking there for 10 minutes, I found N Chinese education institutions.
Note that it is a study institution, not a specialized training institution, and the application is nothing more than applying for private schools, applying for universities, providing document writing, personal packaging, etc.
I have never seen such institutions run by local white people, and such Chinese institutions can be found everywhere in Burnaby and Richmond. There are so many institutions, which proves that the market is very large.
As for the price, the application fee is thousands of dollars for each school, and it may not be passed, and if you apply to several schools every year, all of them pass the institution, calculate this account, and ask if you are scared......
Don't talk about whether the volume baby and the chicken baby are correct or not, because there is no answer, but there is no doubt about the answer to one question:
If the family income in Vancouver is not high, it belongs to the middle class or below, and the parents cannot provide enough funds, can they be in Vancouver chicken baby and roll baby?
The answer is: No, because there is simply not enough money! If you really want to forcibly roll up the baby and chicken baby, the family may be dragged down by economic pressure.
The annual salary of 70,000 or 80,000 yuan is not necessarily enough for daily expenses
If you are a wealthy and wealthy family, you can earn hundreds of thousands of dollars casually every year, and the house does not have a huge loan, then there is no doubt that you can roll up the baby, but if it is an "average family"? Let's look at the numbers: The average annual income of a Vancouver family before tax in 2023 is 91,000, tax
What can a family do with more than 6,000? A family needs at least a two-bedroom apartment, or a city house, half to half of the 6,000 is used to pay off the loan, and the remaining half of the money is mostly used to cover daily expenses, supermarkets, travel, miscellaneous expenses, and then there is not much left.
What else is there to do if there are two children at home? What is the milk money? The monthly milk money is not enough for a week's tuition fees for private primary schools and private kindergartens......
Not to mention the annual salary of 70,000 or 80,000 yuan, even if it exceeds the average of Vancouver by 50%, and the annual family salary is more than 120,000 yuan, I am afraid that a chicken baby is only barely enough.
How much does it cost to spend a chicken baby or a roll baby?
Some parents may say: Although my income is not high, I am willing to save money and live a very ordinary life for the sake of my children's success and success. But then again, if it's just an ordinary middle-class family, if you want to really join the army of rolling babies and chicken babies, even if you don't eat or drink, it's not enough.
From the age of 3, children can attend a private kindergarten in Vancouver (as long as they pass the interview), and the annual tuition fee is 30,000 Canadian dollars.
Even ordinary private kindergartens have annual tuition fees of at least 10,000 yuan or more – middle-class families are almost at their limit. And this degree of rolling babies can only be regarded as "mediocre" in Vancouver, and even in the eyes of some parents of chicken babies and curly babies, this can be regarded as free-range.
Parents in Vancouver love to let their children learn piano, a good teacher has an hourly tuition of about 100, a week of extracurricular plus a sparring partner, and the cost is between 500~800 per month;
Do you think this is the end? The standard configuration of Vancouver's volume baby industry is: private school & private kindergarten, plus at least 3~4 tutorial classes. If each tutoring course is 500, 4 courses will cost 2000, plus the private school itself, the monthly cost of rolling the baby is close to 5000. Two children, nearly 10,000!
The most "scary" thing is to roll up sports, such as ice hockey, golf, or other "promising" sports, and the monthly expenses can be in the thousands, and thousands are possible.
Again: The average monthly salary of middle-class families in Vancouver is six or seven thousand after tax, even if the mortgage is 0, deducting the cost of rolling the baby, they are also in the dilemma of not being able to afford to eat. So the answer is obvious - only the rich are suitable for rolling babies, and private schools are undoubtedly a meeting place for the rich.
The most exaggerated case has not yet been said: in order to roll up the baby, some parents will consider buying expensive school district houses, which are generally located in West Vancouver and have since been saddled with huge loans......
If you don't roll the baby, will the baby really have no future?
It is true that if a child goes to a top private school since he was a child and is proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, then the probability of success is definitely higher than that of a "free-range" child, but this is not absolute. For example, the top two private schools in British Columbia have only one or two students who can enter Harvard and MIT every year.
From childhood to adulthood, I may invest hundreds of thousands, millions, or millions in my children, but in the end, I fell short and did not enter the "big vine", so I had to go to a good famous school, such as UBC and the University of Toronto, which may not be much better than the students who came out of public schools.
Even if you squeeze into a private school, if the family situation is not good, you will find that your child is like "inferior", and once the child wants to distort his values in order to fit into the rich circle, it will be a big trouble.
The children who come out of the chicken baby and the roll baby may be able to earn more after graduation, but even so, the money earned after working for N years may not be enough to invest in the money of the "chicken baby".
In addition, if you stay in Canada, a country that robs the rich and helps the poor, you will earn more and pay more, and the salary difference between various industries itself is not huge, even if you are a very good child, you may not have much superiority after working.
Once the children who come out of the chicken baby and the roll baby encounter setbacks at work, I am afraid that their hearts will be more panicked, and their parents will be more able to calculate the "sunk cost". It's not that if you keep throwing money at cultivating children, you will make sure you make money and soar to the sky.
The public school is too "crotch-pulling", so that some parents have to roll?
Ordinary families also want to roll up their babies, but in fact, they are also "pitiful parents all over the world", because Vancouver's public schools, even the top public schools, are considered to be "too slow progress, too little knowledge, and children are wasting their time in it." ”
Especially compared with children of the same age in China, the progress of children in private schools in Vancouver seems to be two or three years slower, so parents are anxious and feel that they should let their children find ways to enter private schools, even if their family conditions are not enough to support their children to study in private schools.
This is indeed a fact, but it should not be over-amplified and over-panicked. Not to mention anything else, if the expenses of private schools and donations cost 3,000 or 4,000 Canadian dollars a month, and more than 1,000 yuan can be used to arrange some cram schools for children in public schools, such as mathematics and Chinese, isn't it okay?
Moreover, many parents who feel that the progress of public schools here is slow, and the object of comparison is their children of the same age in China -- but can the rhythm of Canada be the same as the rhythm of China? Since there are more public schools here than private schools, it means that there is no problem that the pace is too slow, and most people study in this way.
Education and knowledge are not the only way to Rome
In 2021, The Paper published an opinion article by Chinese parents in Canada, titled "Your Chicken Baby, I Raise Stock, All Roads Lead to Rome". The core points expressed by this parent are:
Canada is not a country that only looks at academic qualifications and knowledge, but all roads lead to Rome - here, it is common for blue-collar workers to earn more than white-collar workers, and any company will not require you to come from such and such a prestigious school or such and such Ivy League school when hiring.
The parent also said: "Many parents have seen the success of a certain child in Canada, and feel that their children can follow suit, but they don't know that the successful child has a strong talent, and the talented prodigy is a minority after all, and it is not a child who can become a prodigy by throwing money." ”
After discovering that her daughter's talent was mediocre, the parent thought, "Then let her be an 'unstoppable' ordinary person, discover her own uniqueness, and achieve her dreams in her own way." ”
When people are overseas, they will increase their pressure index because of such and such things, because their relatives and friends are not around. If you add more pressure to the sake of rolling a baby, how can the happiness index of life be guaranteed?
Rolling babies are not necessarily a "big trend"
In fact, some parents of ordinary families did not want to roll up the baby after bringing their children to Vancouver, but found that almost "all parents are rolling the baby" in the Vancouver circle of friends, such as showing the child winning the MVP in a sports competition, showing the child playing well in a concert, and showing the child being admitted to a certain prestigious school.
This makes it difficult for parents who don't want to roll up the baby: "Everyone is rolling, although I am shy in my pocket, but if I don't roll, won't the child be useless?"
First of all, the Chinese who immigrated to Vancouver will at least not be really shy, at least they have a certain economic ability, and the proportion of rich people is quite high, so there will naturally be more cases of rolling babies.
But only those who roll the baby will show the baby in the circle of friends, and those who do not roll the baby generally do not post things related to the child's grades in the circle of friends. For example, 20 out of 100 parents have sent it, and 80 people are silent, you will feel that 100 people have sent it, but in fact, it is only a small part of the volume.
So rolling a baby is not necessarily a general trend, it's just that you only see "rolling baby pictures and texts" in the circle of friends, don't have too much psychological pressure, and don't feel that you are wrong not to roll a baby.
It is better to read 10,000 books than to travel 10,000 miles
As a parent, the author originally had the idea of rolling a baby, and he is also a typical "non-wealthy family", after meeting a Chinese parent who does not roll a baby last year, I am convinced by her opinion: It is better to read 10,000 books than to travel 10,000 miles.
A month's private tutoring fee can cost 3,000 or 4,000 Canadian dollars, which is enough for a family to arrange a medium- and long-distance trip. The cost of a year's volume is often 40,000 or 50,000 yuan, and a family can't spend that much for a month to go to Europe together.
Canada advocates "going out and seeing the world", and Canada itself is a vast country. Since they have immigrated here, why should they let their children "read only the books of the sages" from morning to night every day, and lack vision, knowledge of the world, and the opportunity to travel with their parents?
Especially for young children, travel is actually the best way to learn, because the brain is stimulated, because you can learn all kinds of knowledge in one trip. Instead of watching whales and bears in biology textbooks, it is better to go to the real Big Bear Rainforest and experience the fun of whale watching and bear watching.
It is not necessary to take the example of young foreigners
Many parents of chicken babies and curly babies will say this to their children: "If you don't work hard, you will be like those young people in Vancouver who can't afford to buy a house, eating and drinking every day, renting and renting for half a lifetime, and have no future." ”
But here's the thing: this is Canada, and there is no such thing as having a house than not having a house in Canadian values. There are indeed many young people here who pursue the thinking of having fun in time, drinking today and getting drunk today, and don't care about what will happen tomorrow and the day after tomorrow.
When they encounter major difficulties, when they really need to buy a house and start a family, they are indeed not so calm, but they choose to live the present, rather than saving money in the present in exchange for the future.
There is no right or wrong choice between the present and the future, especially for Canada. Therefore, there is no need to belittle the so-called "foreign young people" who do not want to make progress, which in Canada is a misguide.
Chicken baby is not as good as the chicken itself
In the last year, Phoenix.com and other media reported on the experiences of some new immigrants, and some people put forward the view that "chicken babies are not as good as chickens themselves" - some parents feel that their future is bleak because they can't find a satisfactory job in the workplace in Vancouver, so they would rather save money than let their children succeed.
This is a bit pessimistic, especially for some young parents, as a multicultural city, even if you can't speak English, there are still plenty of job opportunities in Vancouver, and as long as you are willing to work hard, learning English is not a difficult thing to do.
If the energy and financial resources of the chicken baby are used for the chicken itself, so that he can get a sense of identity in a foreign country and have a good and decent income, this is the real help to the child. Besides, once you succeed, are you still worried about not having the financial resources of the chicken baby?
Therefore, ordinary families in Vancouver chicken babies and roll babies really have to do what they can, and don't make every day's life bumpy and overstretched for the sake of face and bright money.
In the case of wealthy families, as mentioned above, there is nothing wrong with spending a lot of money to let their children continue to get the best platform and the best education, because this money is more meaningful to give their children than eating, drinking, and having fun and living a fairy life. When the child is grown, the family's wealth can be better continued.