Recently, colleges and universities in many places have banned students from hanging bed curtains
rushed to the hot search and sparked heated discussions
In this regard, some netizens think
"Too wide"
And against
"There is a certain fire safety hazard in hanging bed curtains in the dormitory"
Doubts were raised
In the words of a counselor
The presence of bed curtains
Invisibly, "invisible walls" were erected in the dormitory
It hinders the communication and communication between students
Some netizens expressed their disagreement
"Interpersonal communication has nothing to do with bed curtains"
In recent years
College campuses due to relationship issues
Vicious incidents are not uncommon
In fact
Compared to the "safety hazards" of bed curtains
Relationships without a sense of boundaries can be even more dangerous
What is a sense of boundaries?
Does the "invisible wall" really exist?
The so-called sense of boundaries refers to a person who is responsible for his own needs, words and deeds, thoughts and emotions, does not get overly involved in the lives of others, and at the same time is able to express opposition to others when they cross the line and maintain his own autonomy.
For college students, the existence of bed curtains not only meets the psychological needs of college students to create personal space and maintain the sense of boundary that collective life should have, but also the practical needs to protect personal privacy and avoid disturbing each other.
Installing bed curtains is more convenient for sleeping, changing clothes or video calls, so that when everyone has different schedules and rests and does their own things, they can not affect and disturb each other, and reduce unnecessary conflicts.
In addition, roommates who have a good relationship can still chat freely when they close the bed curtain. And if the relationship is not good, even if you are face-to-face, you can't break the "invisible heart wall".
For school management, if you want to eliminate potential safety hazards, you should start with root cause preventive measures such as banning illegal electrical appliances, turning off the power at will, and avoiding the use of open flames.
If you want college students to build positive and harmonious peer relationships, you should teach students how to build boundary relationships with others.
College students in interpersonal communication
Learning to establish a sense of boundaries is mandatory
Respecting each other's private space is the premise and foundation for establishing a sense of boundaries.
First of all, in the dormitory relationship, everyone is clear about what is personal and what needs to be shared. This not only maintains the independence of each person's personality, but also helps to build a positive and harmonious dormitory atmosphere.
Second, college students need to realize that everyone is responsible for their own emotions, thoughts, and actions, not for others. In interpersonal interactions, contradictions and conflicts are sometimes inevitable, and when negative emotions arise, you should be proactive in self-adjustment.
Finally, on the basis of establishing personal boundaries, college students should also learn the skills of building good interpersonal relationships with others, accommodating the "difference" between others and themselves, and looking at the differences of others in a positive light. Good interpersonal relationships also have a positive impact on college students' academic development, emotional state, and personality growth.
- Guidance for this issue: Li Zemei, psychological counselor of Hangzhou Wuyunshan Hospital
- Contributed by: Hangzhou Wuyunshan Hospital
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