It takes ten months for us to learn to speak, but it can take a lifetime to learn to be silent. Mature and strong people know the power of quietness and do not speak easily, which is also the highest self-discipline of adults.
After all, when people are too complacent, they can easily become impulsive and reckless, and tend to forget their original sanity. And that's when you're most likely to lose yourself. As the saying goes, "A gun shoots a bird".
The higher you stand, the easier it is to attract people's attention. However, it is also easier to attract the jealousy and jealousy of others. If you have too many enemies, then your situation can become dangerous. If you can't keep your foundation solid, then it's only a matter of time before you are pulled down.
Buddhism believes that the suffering of the cycle of birth and death stems from the three karmas of the body, mouth, and mind, and that in order to be liberated, karma must be minimized. Buddhism promotes a method of practice called "closed-mouth meditation". This kind of meditation is to reduce one's karma by controlling one's words and actions in order to achieve liberation.
Silence Meditation is a practice that aims to develop a person's ability to shut up at the right time. The less you say, the more abundant your fortune will be.
When a person reaches middle age, the only way to understand a person's inner maturity and strength is to observe whether he knows how to remain silent. If he is able to remain quiet on the following three things, it is likely that his pattern and level are very high, and quite unusual.
One: Be quiet when you're at a low point
There was an online video of a car sales consultant talking to a customer for more than an hour, but he still managed to invite him to the store. The story reveals the great challenges of a career and sales.
It's almost the end of the month now, and he still hasn't finished his performance this month. At the supervisor's meeting, he was criticized in public again, which made him feel embarrassed.
In this sales consultant, all kinds of pressures come together at the same time, including the pressure of performance, the pressure of life, and the rejection of customers. The pressures were overwhelming for him. It was just lunchtime, and he took his boxed lunch and hid in a small park outside the company, found a stone table, and cried silently while stuffing food into his mouth to relax his mood.
He needs to maintain enough physical strength to cope with the intense work in the afternoon, so he must eat seriously.
It's an adult's breakdown in the face of stress, silently and unnoticed.
As you finish your meal in silence, tears wet your cheeks, welcome you, you have stepped into the threshold of adulthood. In this world, you will experience more setbacks and growth, and you will continue to face various problems. Come on, adults!
Everyone is like an island in society, each island has its own shortcomings and advantages, and everywhere is full of fragrance and bird language. We need to learn to present ourselves to others in the best possible way so that we can attract more people to our island.
Everyone has their own unbearable moments, so there is no need to see one's own unbearable as special, it is very normal and acceptable.
Those who can remain silent during the trough are often not simple. They don't easily talk about their pain to others, but only silently resolve and digest it. On the one hand, because they don't want to disturb or influence others, and on the other hand, because they understand that life must be on their own.
Two: Be quiet about other people's life events
In our daily life, we often encounter certain people who always like to interfere too much in the affairs of others, and self-righteously feel that they know a lot. They are always dictating other people's lives, acting like a good Samaritan but annoying.
As the saying goes, the more knowledgeable and broad-minded people are, the more modest and cautious they are and the more respectful they are for different people and perspectives. They do not think they are self-righteous because they are different from other people's lifestyles or life paths, and they maintain respect and understanding for everyone. This practice of respecting different differences not only brings us peace of mind and good personality, but is also an important manifestation of respect.
Some are over 30 years old but have not yet entered the palace of marriage, some have experienced the pain of divorce in their twenties, and some have not yet welcomed their children at the age of 40. However, there are also people in their forties who have already enjoyed the joy of being a grandmother. These are the different stages of life, and each person has their own unique trajectory and experience.
There is no such thing as good or bad, they are just different.
Those who gossip a lot are usually selfish, narrow-minded, and self-righteous, and the more they look down on others, the more they can reveal their own flaws. In contrast, those who know how to remain silent deserve our respect, and their hearts and visions are extraordinary.
Three: Be quiet when you're successful
Some people enjoy themselves as soon as they have a little achievement, for fear that others will not know. Such people are usually extremely vain and lack extensive insight and experience.
There are experienced people who tend to be mature in their minds, and they don't feel proud or complacent about their experiences, nor do they have vanity and the need to show off. A truly confident person does not need to ask for anything from the outside world, but rather fulfills his needs and remains true to himself at all times.
Those who can remain silent after achieving fame often have a high level of mastery that cannot be underestimated.
They know not to show off themselves too much, to avoid causing others to resent them, and not to blindly show off and make people jealous. Although it may seem that they are silent, in reality they are really smart people. Because they know that boasting too much will cost them something, and keeping a low profile will allow them to gain more. This is a manifestation of wisdom.
In life, those who are quiet tend to be more thoughtful than others. In particular, those that show special quietness in the following three aspects deserve our attention. We should understand that a low-key lifestyle is worth advocating, which allows us to face the little things in life more calmly, treat our own life well, and at the same time take responsibility for ourselves.