In love or marriage, it is often said that "the door is the right match". This term describes the similarity of family backgrounds and social status of both parties, which is essential for the stability and happiness of the relationship between two people.
Perhaps many people will be dismissive of this, thinking that this is a kind of money-worshipping marriage and love values. But in reality, this proverb that has been passed down for thousands of years has a true meaning that has stood the test of time.
This idiom not only refers to the economic matching of men and women, but also pays more attention to the similarity in the environment in which they have lived since childhood, the education they have received, and the level of cognition. In other words, it requires their three views to be in tune with each other.
Don't think that just love can overcome all difficulties. Even if you fall in love because of an instantaneous attraction, if you don't agree with each other, then in the conflict of thoughts, love will gradually wear out. While indulging in love, we should also seriously think about whether the values and outlook on life of both parties are compatible, so as to avoid the tragedy of love due to differences.
Like a man who grew up in a privileged life, it is difficult to understand the desire for money of women who grew up in poverty. This is because they have a very different perception of money.
Similarly, it is often difficult for women who have not received a good education to appreciate men who come from scholarly backgrounds. In contrast, they are more likely to be attracted to wealthy men.
In fact, the less educated a woman is, the more likely she is to be attracted to money. Even though they seem innocent and cute on the surface, the greed in their hearts is often deep in the bone marrow and difficult to change. For these people, money worship is a quality engraved in the depths of their hearts.
Xin Qi was a girl from the countryside who was not from a privileged background and did not receive a good education. However, she is full of obsession and yearning for the brilliant city of Shanghai, and her goal in life is to put down roots in this bustling metropolis and enjoy the best time of her life, away from that barren hometown.
If he wants to settle down in Shanghai, the only way Xin Qi can think of is to marry a Shanghai man, preferably rich. What she thinks can attract Shanghai men is just a bit of her appearance.
She went to her sister's 4S store as a model, fiddling with her posture elegantly every day, attracting people to take pictures, and spending a lot of money to buy clothes, and even borrowing money to shop. She pinned all her hopes on her appearance.
She didn't understand that that kind of beauty without connotation was like a castle in the sky. It may attract the attention of others for a short time, but it can't stand scrutiny, and over time it will disappear into thin air in an instant, leaving nothing left.
At first, Xin Qi did not meet the right man, which disappointed her.
Those Shanghai men can always easily see through Xin Qi's intentions. They were just having fun, and no one was going to take her seriously. It wasn't until a Shanghai civil servant met her through a friend's introduction that everything changed.
This man is not quite in line with Xin Qi's goals, although he has a house, but it is only a small room that is not very spacious, and although he has a stable job, the income is not high. Xin Qi understood that this was the best option at the moment, so she began to approach the civil servant purposefully.
Eventually, she and he finally tied the knot and settled in Shanghai together, just as she had long hoped for. The couple's successful marriage is a reward for hard work.
Xin Qi is not satisfied with the ordinary life, she has always cherished the dream of becoming a "human being". In this state of mind, she became acquainted with a wealthy businessman from Shanghai.
Although the rich man was bald, greasy and bloated, and old enough to be her father, these did not affect Xin Qi's affection for him, because he was rich.
Xin Qi urgently divorced her husband in the hope of getting more out of the wealthy businessman. She thought that the merchant would be generous enough to meet her demands, but she did not expect that the merchant would not hesitate to get rid of her.
According to the views of the wealthy businessman and his contacts, Xin Qi was not just a simple plaything in his possessions. She used to be a novelty, but when the rich businessman lost interest, he kicked her out mercilessly. He knew that as long as there were women like Xin Qi, he could replace them at any time, because they were younger and more beautiful than Xin Qi. This is a strategy adopted by wealthy businessmen in their quest for wealth and power, after all, they believe that wealth is what matters.
This woman has a low level and only knows how to use her appearance to chase a man's wealth. However, she did not realize that Zi Se is a currency that can easily depreciate. What she got in exchange was only a temporary benefit, not a lifetime of happiness. This kind of behavior of greedy for immediate interests is not advisable and deserves our serious consideration.
Jia Pingwa's "Temporary Sitting" vividly shows the stories of more than a dozen women, like the apocalypse of women's lives, with profound enlightenment and understanding.
In this book, from the beginning of the tea house to the end of the tea house, the lives of women are like condensing in this place, with mixed tastes. The tea house is like their grand view garden, witnessing their laughter, tears, love and struggle. However, in the end, just like the fate of the Grand View Garden, no matter how hard they tried, the tea house was eventually ruined, and they had to be separated, each looking for their own future. The stories of these women are as sad as the stories of the tea house, but they are full of power. We can also discover the fragility and strength of life, as well as the courage to face fate. These women may be separated, but their stories will forever remain in our memory.
Everyone has unique ideas and insights in their minds, just like Hamlet. After reading this book, if you can get some experience and understanding about life and love from the tea house in your heart, then the meaning of this book will be even more important and meaningful. After all, the greatest meaning of writing and reading is to enlighten our souls and help us grow and progress. I hope this book has a positive guide and influence on you, helping you to better think and understand the world we live in.
I recommend Jia Pingwa's latest novel "Temporary Sitting" to everyone. This novel is another urban novel by Jia Pingwa after "Waste Capital", which belongs to contemporary literature. After reading this novel, you will have a new understanding and thinking about women's lives. I highly recommend reading Sitting, I hope you will enjoy it.
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