On the road of life, there are countless forks in the road, and there will always be one person who takes the first step. Especially when a husband and wife come to the end of a life, no matter how reluctant they are, they can only reach out and let go. However, after so many years of supporting each other, no one has been able to get acquainted with life alone in a short period of time.
The feeling of loneliness is very heavy, and it seems to swallow everyone's heart. Many seniors choose to find new love after losing their life partner and spend the rest of their lives together. This will not only alleviate loneliness, but also bring new happiness and life experiences to the elderly.
Unlike when you are young, you can pursue the freedom and casualness of your partner, and it is more difficult for the love of the elderly to truly find happiness. Even though the sunset is endlessly beautiful, it is almost dusk. This is a kind of helplessness, but we should cherish the fate of every love, so that the trajectory of life is more colorful because of love.
At the beginning of twilight love, we need to face many challenges in order to hone in our love relationship.
If we can meet a suitable partner, we may be able to spend the future journey together. But if we don't have such a good relationship, happiness and tranquility may be unattainable, and confusion and pain will take over the heart.
As you enter old age with your spouse, would you consider marrying again if the other person had gone first?
In fact, really smart people, whether they remarry or not, will focus on their own business first. Compared with finding someone to live like a year, the ability to take care of yourself and know how to manage your life is the greatest source of security and happiness for the rest of your life. After all, only with a stable and strong heart can we face the ups and downs of life, do it step by step, and spend every day more calmly and confidently. Let's work together, never forget the original intention, manage ourselves well, and grasp our own happiness!
In the second half of our lives, we need to seek a truly intelligent way of life. Whether we remarry or not, we should all have the ability to run our own business. This kind of management includes not only taking care of your body, but more importantly, taking care of your inner world. Only by having a full and rich spiritual world can we live a more fulfilling and beautiful life. Let's work together to manage ourselves and build a better life.
Do this, with or without someone, and you'll be able to get through each day with ease.
One: Finding a random person to make do with will make life more and more empty
Many seniors will choose a partner to spend their old age with, but they often unconsciously compare the other person to their previous relationship, which can not only hurt themselves, but also hurt the other person. We should think carefully when choosing a partner so as not to cause harm to each other.
According to Mr. Li, an elderly person I know, when the elderly remarry, the most troublesome thing is emotional problems. I often can't help but compare my new partner to my ex, which can lead to hurting myself and the other person. This phenomenon is very sad for us.
Uncle Li's wife is also a retired old teacher. The two spent their lives uneventfully, never had any quarrels, and never had a single red-faced experience. Uncle Li likes to practice calligraphy, and his wife is often by his side and chats with him, although this is not enough to describe the intimacy between them, but it can also be seen as a proof of mutual care.
Aunt Liu didn't know Uncle Li's hobbies and couldn't provide constructive comments. On several occasions, Uncle Li was so excited that he called out his wife's name because he wrote good words.
Aunt Liu undoubtedly felt uncomfortable in her heart, but because she didn't know much about these things, she didn't want to pay too much attention to them.
Whenever Uncle Li calls someone else's name wrong, he always feels very embarrassed and sad. Although he has already married a new wife, he still inadvertently pronounces his ex-wife's name, which makes his partner feel chilled and embarrassed. Uncle Li felt deeply guilty and tried to correct his mistakes, hoping to eliminate this embarrassing scene. This situation reminds us to pay more attention to the other person's feelings in our lives and try to avoid missing important details.
Uncle Li also felt very sad because he missed the time with his ex-wife very much. In those tacit and happy days, they created many precious memories. It was everything he wanted most.
When you have a new partner, it's inevitable that you'll compare the two.
Whenever the comparison is done, I blame myself for thinking this way, which is not only disrespectful to my current wife, but also disrespectful to my past relationship. I realized that this comparison only brings unnecessary negative emotions and mindsets, and I need to get out of it and cherish the happiness of the moment.
Marriage is a complicated affair, no matter when. Especially for the elderly, the choice should be more cautious and prudent. You need to be careful to keep your eyes peeled and think about it.
2: Regardless of whether you remarry or not, as long as you manage yourself well, you can always have more blessings
When people are old and their wives are gone, the real smart way to live is to have an extremely strong heart, live clearly, and live transparently. Only when you see everything and see through it can you face the ups and downs of life with a smile. Otherwise, no matter how many people you are around, you still can't find the focus of life, and you still can't live a truly happy and happy life.
Why is it that some elderly people are getting more and more prosperous as the days go by, while some elderly people are always extremely depressed even though they lack nothing? The difference lies in the pattern and mentality.
People with a big picture can always take a long-term view and don't worry about trivial things, but people with a small picture will be angry about their children being a few minutes late for a phone call, suspecting that they have been left out. This may be due to the difference in the size of the pattern, but we can also get inspiration from it: cherish the present and embrace the future, so that we can become a person with a big pattern.
Elderly people with a good state of mind can actively look for the good in whatever situation they encounter, while elderly people with a bad state of mind are the opposite, even if everything around them is great, they still feel that there is no hope in life. This illustrates the importance of a good mindset for older people, which can help them better cope with life's challenges.
The key to the gap between people lies in the pattern and mentality.
Those who are doing well, regardless of whether their partners are not there, whether they remarry or not, are able to manage their lives and have happy days. This is because they understand that life ultimately depends on their own efforts to achieve it.
We want every senior person to have the happiness they want so they can spend the rest of their lives with their partner.