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Anna stared quietly at her husband, the young man she once called a "hillbilly," who was now a leader in the field of teaching and educating people. In the past 20 years, they have experienced countless ups and downs together, and witnessed how Wang Gui gradually climbed from an unknown rural youth to the peak of life. For this husband who has always worked hard and selflessly dedicated to the family, Anna's heart is full of deep admiration and gratitude.
"Men should be used for living, not just decorations. Anna often taught her daughter, "If you choose a husband to live, you should follow your father's example." You see, until now, I don't know where the gas canister is hidden!"
Recalling twenty years ago, when she just stepped into Wang Gui's door, her heart was full of nervousness and uneasiness, and she even cried bitterly on her wedding night. In the face of the cruel reality, the beautiful fantasy she once had about love is like the beautiful pebble treasured in her childhood, although it is heartwarming, but after all, it is only illusory.
She didn't choose to marry Wang Gui because of love, and similarly, Wang Gui didn't marry her because of love at first sight. However, after twenty years of loveless marriage, Anna gradually realized a new concept of marriage.
The daily chores that she took for granted, such as cooking, washing clothes, and taking care of the children, turned out to be a solid foundation for a happy marriage. In contrast, the romantic love that once made her yearn for it seemed so short and ethereal under the baptism of time.
It was Wang Gui's daily hard work in housework, his meticulous care, and his sincere care for her family that made Anna unconsciously moved by this real and down-to-earth life.
So, when she entered the twilight of her life, her heart was no longer resentful or dissatisfied with her husband Wang Gui, but instead of a kind of heartfelt admiration and gratitude.
Recalling that twenty years ago, the scene of Wang Gui's first meeting with the village girl Xiaofang is still clearly visible. It was a sunny day, and Xiaofang was carrying a bamboo basket and picking wild vegetables by the side of the field path. The breeze blew by, her eyes were full of smiles, and the corners of her mouth outlined a sweet smile, like a naturally beautiful country girl.
When Wang Gui was deeply attracted by the simple and beautiful woman in front of him, he stepped forward without hesitation and took the initiative to approach. However, the girl named Xiaofang did not refuse his accosting, but showed a hospitable and unique local style, and talked to Wang Gui without reservation, which seemed to open the window of conversation between the two in an instant.
They come and go, like close friends who have been reunited for a long time, intimate and free to speak. In front of Xiaofang, Wang Gui was finally able to let go of his usual restraints and no longer need to play the role of a polite intellectual. He opened his mind and expressed the truest emotions in his heart without reservation, and used those words full of strong local flavor to express his deep longing for his hometown for many years.
In the company of Xiaofang, Wang Gui experienced unprecedented ease and pleasure, as if he had regained the innocence and innocence of his youth. Although Anna has a prominent background and beautiful face, in Wang Gui's heart, she has never been able to replace the simple and kind country girl Xiaofang.
Therefore, even though Anna is his legal wife, Wang Gui still feels uplifted and excited for Xiaofang. That good time spent with Xiaofang undoubtedly became the most wonderful chapter in Wang Gui's life.
However, out of deep affection for the child, Wang Gui finally chose to give up Xiaofang, who had a "common topic" with him, and returned to Anna's side. Because he knew that if he lost his child, his life would become empty and boring.
This so-called mental derailment is actually just a small episode in life, and Wang Gui never really wants to leave Anna and the child. Twenty years later, Anna's life is on a stable track. Although she was a little dissatisfied with her husband Wang Gui's behavior, she gradually adapted to this simple and simple lifestyle.
Until one day, her first love unexpectedly reappears in her sight. At that moment, Anna's heart was almost overwhelmed with joy. The long-lost heartbeat made her almost go crazy. Facing this former crush, she felt a tacit understanding and vitality that was completely different from Wang Gui, as if she had regained the most innocent original intention back then.
In the intimate reunion scene in the novel, Anna's love of verbal competition burns like a flame. She has a soft spot for shrewd and reserved men and admires talented and intelligent people, seeing this opportunity as the ultimate combination of wisdom.
Yes, it was the unique scholarly temperament of that first boyfriend who plucked the strings in Anna's heart first. Looking back, the two men often argued with each other, although the topic expanded from complex intellectual problems to the chessboard of game planning, and even evolved into simple and challenging verbal battles.
However, this kind of intelligent exchange experience has never appeared in Wang Gui's life.
When faced with her first boyfriend, Anna seemed to have rediscovered the most vivid and brilliant self she was back then. Her eyes shone brightly, her words were filled with irrepressible joy, and her whole person radiated a dazzling light.
However, even though she had a tacit understanding with her first boyfriend, Anna finally chose to give up this hard-won fate. Because she can't let go of her responsibilities as a mother, and she can't let go of her loyalty and obligations to her husband.
"Isn't it a fantasy?Do you think I won't understand you?" Wang Gui once questioned her back then, "Now that you are struggling, how can you flap your wings and soar?" Countless shackles of reality have firmly fixed An Yan in place, and she can't fly freely like a swallow with a dream.
"If it weren't for you two little ones, I wouldn't know where to fly for a long time. This sentence became An Yan's mantra. In the end, for the sake of her husband and children, she gave up her first love boyfriend who had a heart in common, and chose Wang Gui, a marriage that seemed to be "only sex but no love".
So, why did Wang Gui choose Anna, a pampered city daughter, as his wife 20 years ago? The reason is not from the heart-pounding love, but from a desire to conquer and break through.
As mentioned in the original book, they are not looking for women per se, but the symbols of the city's identity that they represent. The former Wang Gui was just a country boy who was jokingly called a "hillbilly" by Anna, while An Wei was a noble lady surrounded by brocade clothes and food.
However, his extraordinary linguistic talent was admirable, and Wang Gui successfully stepped into the door of a famous university in the provincial capital city with this strength. Since then, he has transformed from an ordinary and unknown country boy into a respected cultural scholar, who is admired by everyone and hired him to work as a faculty member in a higher education institution.
With the success of his career and fame, Wang Gui's life path changed dramatically.
The city-dwellers, who had once treated him coldly, now offered their respects to him. Even An's parents, after learning that their child had become a well-known young teacher in the city, had a new perspective on the marriage.
In their opinion, it is better to find a reliable man for their daughter to remarry, and Wang Gui is undoubtedly the most ideal candidate.
Therefore, although An Yan did not have much affection for Wang Gui, under the persuasion of her parents and seeing that Wang Gui is now a decent person teaching in a well-known school, she finally reluctantly agreed to the marriage.
In this way, Wang Gui, who she once jokingly called "hillbilly", successfully entered her world and brought a down-and-out young lady from the city back home.
After getting married, Wang Gui always showed extreme respect and filial piety to An Di's parents. Even though An Di ridiculed his vulgarity and ignorance many times, he never refuted it and always responded with a smile.
For An Yan's brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, Wang Gui is also sincere. In the eyes of An Yan's mother's family, this seemingly rough rural youth is undoubtedly a trustworthy son-in-law who meets the standards.
In this way, the "hillbilly" who was once regarded as a lowly person, through his unremitting efforts, finally became a city person, and married a daughter from a famous family and outstanding appearance back home.
It seems that at this moment, Wang Gui finally realized his desire and pursuit of urban life, and at the same time completely broke the shackles of his origin.
For Anna, marrying Wang Gui is not due to sincere love, but out of a realistic helpless choice. She was an only child who was carefully cared for by her parents, and her family environment was quite superior.
However, after experiencing the upheaval of her family, Anna had to accept the marriage under the arrangement of her parents.
Although Anna didn't have much affection for Wang Gui at first, under the repeated persuasion of her family, and seeing that Wang Gui is now a teacher at a well-known school in the provincial capital, she finally reluctantly nodded and agreed.
On the road of life after choosing a mate, An Yan always complained about her husband's ignorance and vulgar temperament, but she never spared her kind nature - she did not hesitate to lend a helping hand to Wang Gui's struggling relatives.
With a noble background, for the sake of this family, she resolutely put down her body and asked her former classmates for help, hoping to match Wang Gui's relatives and help them sell agricultural products in obscurity for many years.
In the face of her family's incomprehension, she always patiently explained, even if her heart was full of complaints, she would never vent her anger on Wang Gui's relatives.
Perhaps it is precisely because of this hard work that An Di gradually reduced her accusations and dissatisfaction with Wang Gui. From the initial reluctance to acceptance, to the later glad acceptance, she showed with practical actions what it means to be a virtuous and virtuous wife and mother.
Although marrying Wang Gui was not her original intention, An Yan still went all out to run the family. She won the respect of relatives and friends in Wang Gui's hometown with her own behavior, and even surpassed the recognition of Wang Gui personally.
In this family, she is no longer the lonely and lost young woman, but a commendable right-hand man.
Twenty years of ups and downs have made Wang Gui and Anna's lives closely linked and inseparable. Those romantic love vows have become naïve and illusory under the tempering of time.
On the contrary, it is the small details of life that are the strong bonds that hold the marriage together.
Every month, Wang Gui would hand over the salary obtained from his hard work to An Di without reservation, leaving nothing behind. He took on most of the responsibilities of the family for his wife, whether it was daily necessities or daily care, he was meticulous and meticulous.
He also gradually learned how to please his wife and care about her physical and mental health. Although she often complains, An Yan is well aware of Wang Gui's subtle care.
And although An Yan often blames Wang Gui, she has never been stingy with her kindness to his relatives. Not only did she donate generously, but she was also personally involved in providing them with all kinds of assistance.
He has washed the hair of Wang Gui's mother-in-law, taught his sisters about hygiene, and has been assisting them in selling agricultural products for many years.
In the long course of time, they have done their best to make great efforts for each other, their children and their family members. As they accumulate day after day, their relationship becomes inseparable like blood. Married life is not just about emotional communication, but more about the daily trivial firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. On this issue, Mr. Wang Gui and Ms. An Yan are undoubtedly models worthy of our learning.
They vividly illustrate the profound meaning of marriage with their own practical actions: love is beautiful, but it will gradually fade with time, however, the support between partners, mutual understanding and love are the most precious spiritual sustenance in the long journey of life. It is precisely in this way that the two who once had a lot of dissatisfaction with their marriage finally entered a stable stage of supporting each other and spending the wind and rain together, and confirmed the true value of marriage with the bits and pieces of life.