In recent years, more and more people have paid attention to the importance of "renunciation". In order to prevent the home from being full of unnecessary clutter, it has become another important issue for modern people to regularly clean up the home accessories and clothes accumulated over the years. But did you know that it's not just the home environment that has to be cleaned up, but also the relationships that need to be severed. Whatever kind of emotional connection it is, it can gradually evolve into a "toxic relationship". For example, some of the "relationships between friends" that we are accustomed to may silently contain "hidden poison". Are your circle of friends toxic? Do you always feel tired when you get along with certain people? Here are 4 signs that you are in a toxic friendship, and if you don't care, you should decide to part with it.
1. Which pot is not opened
Some so-called "friends" often base their happiness on the pain of their friends, and one of the classic examples is "which pot is not opened". As your friend, you will know what you are upset about and what you don't want to talk about, but these people will deliberately rub salt in these wounds that you don't want to touch. It's like consciously or unconsciously mentioning how your ex, who has broken up, or bringing up your recent work frustrations. In short, it is to constantly "find trouble", but always use "just joking" to package these malicious intentions reasonably, so that people can't get angry even if they are unhappy, because the other party may eventually accuse you of "not being able to make jokes".
2. Speak often in a sarcastic tone
Be wary of "friends" who often speak sarcastically or sarcastically, as they may make sarcastic comments when you share good news or seem pleasant. When you're friends with people like that, you may often wonder if you're doing something wrong, or if you're not doing something good enough, but you really don't need to over-examine yourself, when these people speak in a certain "cold-talking" attitude, it's just because they "want to do it", and it really doesn't matter to you. The next time your "friends" around you are making fun of you, please be brave enough to express your discomfort and unhappiness, and stop letting these people think that they can continue to bully others "in the name of friends".
3. I can't see you doing well
There is a kind of "friend" who always likes to compare, is easily jealous, and often "can't see others better than himself". These people will silently feel unhappy in your heart when you seem to be living a particularly happy life, and they will even be unable to hide their emotions and show them directly on their faces. Whether you're interviewing for a good job or finding a good lover today, they can't really give their blessings. Such a disdainful and unjust attitude can easily be expressed in their words and deeds, such as the cold words mentioned above, causing you to start to dare not share "the good things that happened to you" with this "friend", because you are afraid that you will receive unkind comments from the other party, or obviously strong negative emotions.
4. Pointing fingers at your feelings
If your "friends" often criticize, comment, or even denigrate the person you like, then these people are definitely not your real friends. Aside from the fact that the person you like is really scummy and terrible, if you are just dating a normal person today, and you get along very well with each other, but these "friends" can still find the points that they don't like to criticize and find trouble, then they are really "poisonous" and it is necessary to gradually stay away. Friends who really care about you will think about you and be happy for you, and it is actually very unusual to have a lot of opinions about the people you associate with all the time, and even point fingers at your feelings.
The most terrifying thing is that these "toxic friends" are actually not uncommon, but they are usually very "smart" and know how to hide and package these malicious intentions with the words "I am for your good", so that you think that they are the ones who really care about you and think about you. To know whether the other party really regards you as a friend, in fact, you still need to take some time to observe slowly, it is recommended that you can not be too anxious to make a conclusion, but you must be dispensable, and you must protect yourself while making friends, and do not let people with evil thoughts have the opportunity to take advantage of the void.