Someone once said: Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies, and "enmity in confinement" is a lifelong thing.
But it really happened that her mother-in-law had needs, and how many daughters-in-law she had to take care of her.
Back then, when my mother-in-law faced her daughter-in-law who needed to be taken care of, she always talked about relying on her daughter for the elderly.
When the wind and candle are in their last years, the daughter goes to take care of her grandchildren, and the mother-in-law turns her eyes back to her daughter-in-law who she has not treated well.
If the daughter-in-law said what her mother-in-law said at this time, she said that she hadn't said it, and the man said that women were small-minded.
The mother-in-law is just "relying on the old and selling the old", and the man is just "filial piety outsourcing".
Some men will also use that women retire and earn less money to do things, and ask women to do their filial piety for them.
A woman with ability and personality will backpack to the end of the world and live her own chic and comfortable retirement life.
And a woman with a soft personality will have to be "generous" for the sake of her children, for the sake of face, and more for her old age.
And I am the woman with a soft personality and unpleasant, facing her 80-year-old sick mother-in-law, I can only smile and resent.
can't be treated exactly like her own mother, she can only look at the love of her wife and accompany her mother-in-law through the rest of her life.
I'm Lin Jiaojiao, 52 years old this year, and after retirement, I wanted to go out and play in a fun and chic way.
Her 80-year-old mother-in-law, who lives alone, called to say she was not feeling well and asked her wife to drive her to the hospital.
My wife looked at me and said that she had an important meeting in the morning, and pleaded with me with her eyes.
said that it was hard work, and sent me a red envelope of 1314 in his hand, and for the sake of actual benefits, I nodded and agreed.
Picked up my mother-in-law by car, and on the way to the hospital, my mother-in-law sat in the back seat and talked cautiously all the way.
This suddenly reminded me that when I gave birth to my daughter in confinement, my mother-in-law always put the sentence "I count on my daughter for retirement in the future".
I had mixed feelings in my heart, and I didn't say a word, and I turned my head to look at my pale and old mother-in-law.
The old lady who wants to be strong in that way is really old, and she has lost the momentum of the past and has become cautious and timid.
When I arrived at the hospital, I registered, queued up, did examinations, waited for the results, and arranged for my mother-in-law to sit in the waiting room and wait for me.
After a series of other things, my mother-in-law looked at me with a complicated look, her lips moved a few times, and she wanted to speak, but she didn't say anything after all.
The doctor took the test sheet and the examination film, and said that the mother-in-law was old, had hypertension syndrome, and needed to be hospitalized for observation and infusion of fluids for a few days.
When it came to hospitalization, the mother-in-law said that she felt much better now, and said that she didn't want to be hospitalized, first saying that it was a waste of money, and then said that the eldest sister went to see her grandson in the field, who took care of her in the hospital.
The doctor said to my mother-in-law, don't you still have this little daughter, she will take a few days off to take care of you.
My mother-in-law said with an embarrassed face, this is my daughter-in-law, she is retired, but I feel embarrassed to let her accompany me to see a doctor and take care of me in the hospital.
The old doctor's words made my mother-in-law smile a little, and the doctor asked my mother-in-law to treat my daughter-in-law as a daughter.
It is said that the children and the elderly are selectively not remembered, and my eldest sister went to other cities with her children, which made my mother-in-law lose for a while.
At the dinner table during the Chinese New Year, I repeatedly told my wife not to leave, otherwise, I would have thought about retiring to go to my daughter's place to have a look, buy a house, and then follow my daughter together.
One night, my wife came to visit my mother-in-law in the hospital and left, so I got some hot milk for my mother-in-law to drink. She took my hand and said a little excitedly: "Jiaojiao, it's all my mother's confusion, I always said the wrong thing before, don't be like my mother." In this life, our old Li family, it is really our blessing to have a daughter-in-law like you. ”
When I heard my mother-in-law say this, my heart was very warm, and tears almost fell, and I remembered the confinement of my daughter.
At that time, the sons of the eldest aunt's family were all in kindergarten, and because the eldest aunt and brother-in-law were separated, the mother-in-law felt sorry for her daughter.
I may also think that I gave birth to a daughter, and would rather help pick up my grandson at my eldest sister's house than come back to take care of my confinement.
It was my mother who took a month-long vacation to take care of me, and later, we also hired a nanny to take care of our daughter.
When I talk about my daughter's babysitter when she was a child, I can't stop crying.
At that time, my wife and I did not have much salary, and the cost of nannies increased every month, and finally it rose to the salary of one of us.
My father-in-law couldn't see it anymore and took the initiative to take out the money to help us get through those difficult years.
But the mother-in-law always put the phrase "relying on the girl to support the elderly in the future" on her lips, and said that all daughters-in-law in the world are the same, and they can't be counted on when they are old.
It's false to say that I'm not angry, but my wife's words back then are still fresh in my memory.
My wife said that he was going to live with me for the rest of his life, and hoped that I could understand him, and then turned to my mother-in-law and said that he was just my mother-in-law's son, and that I was the one who was together in the end.
My mother-in-law was so angry with my wife that I always told others that I had "cast magic" on my wife, or other people's sons would listen to their mothers, but only her sons would listen to their daughter-in-law, and they would think about their daughter-in-law first in everything.
Now that I think about it, my wife is still amazing, and in a word, I am relieved of everything about my mother-in-law.
After all, I have to live with my wife for the rest of my life, no matter how bad my mother-in-law is, no matter how bad what she says, she is also the mother of my wife, and I need to give a certain amount of respect and understanding.
With the happy growth of my daughter, in the long river of years, I was pampered by my wife, and with my daughter's little padded jacket, I didn't care about what my mother-in-law did.
During the New Year's holidays, I will give face to my mother-in-law and let her have "majesty".
After so many years, my mother-in-law's words are really the key to happiness, unraveling the contradictions that have been pressed in my heart for many years.
When my mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, my wife was on a business trip, and I drove alone, so I took my mother-in-law home directly.
After all, he is an 80-year-old man who lives alone, and if something happens, it will be too late to regret it.
In this way, I went directly to work after retirement, taking care of my 80-year-old mother-in-law.
My mother-in-law has been living in my house for several months, and she no longer says that "the old age depends on the daughter", but that "no matter how good the son is, it is not as good as a good daughter-in-law".
Everyone will be old, and everyone has said "too much", and they all take it seriously, and they lack the family affection they deserve.
When my mother-in-law reaches this age, she can still take care of herself, which is still a blessing for us as children, so why not forget the past and happily accompany her through the last journey of life.
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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