Regarding the surname, basically many men say this, the surname can be given to the woman, but the property cannot be given to the woman.
In fact, I personally hate this kind of marriage, when the woman asks for a bride price, a house, and a car. And after getting married, he wants a child with the woman's surname, which is a scoundrel. If you have a child and want to have a woman's surname, then give a gift, a house, and recruit a son-in-law!
Why are they willing to give your property to the son of your nephew, it is because the property is still in the sect and has not been lost, and the so-called grandson is not even your family's surname, then it is an outsider.
It's too unlucky to meet such a daughter-in-law and in-laws, and it doesn't care about the man's feelings, which is equivalent to raising a son for someone else, in fact, I support the man's parents in this case, and all the property is recovered, and it must not be given to the woman.
Although it is said that the right to decide whose surname is in the parents, it cannot be ruled out that there are many problems with the mother's surname, one is that classmates do not get along with each other, some say that you have no father, and some say that you have no mother.
The second is that grandparents love to have their surnames, and grandparents love to have their surnames.
The third is that the property of grandparents and grandparents should be left to those with their own surnames, if the strength of the two sides is about the same, it is fine, if the gap is large, it will be troublesome, and there will be endless tendons.
My friend told me: My daughter-in-law doesn't even consider the second baby taking her mother's surname, because I have a brother-in-law, and my father-in-law doesn't agree with my second baby taking her mother's surname, for fear that my son and his grandson will fight for family property in the future.
This is the reality, many things can be discussed, the second child will inherit the property of the grandparents with the mother's surname! The first child will inherit the man's property! This kind of let the man use the condition of marrying a daughter-in-law to go into the house and leave directly.
If you look at Western countries, which child does not have the father's surname? Moreover, after marriage, the woman has to take her husband's surname before her own name, which is also superstition?
And China has had a mother's surname since ancient times, but it is only the son-in-law who recruits the door to follow the mother's surname, why should the normal traditional marriage follow the mother's surname?
Therefore, the women of our country are simply introducing foreign cultures that are beneficial to them. Everything else is just ignored, and the culture that is not beneficial to them in China is feudal superstition, and if you can abandon it, you can abandon it as much as possible.
Male chromosomes XY and Y can only come from their father! Female chromosomes XX, and it is impossible to tell which one comes from the father! Therefore, only boys can trace the origin of family genes! Females cannot!
In the area at the junction of Yunnan, Guizhou and Sichuan provinces, there is a particularly heavy and poisonous sentence that scolds people: "private baby". This "private baby" was a girl before she got married, and she "stole the child she born".
In the past, no one wanted such a woman except for extreme poverty, such a woman could not hold her head up all her life, and this child could not hold her head up all her life, and she was inferior.
That's why people curse in a roundabout way when they quarrel: Are you your mother's last name? Therefore, it is best for the child to follow his father's surname to be upright.
The question of following the father's surname is a question of belonging, if you follow the mother's surname, don't feel strange to look at you, just like now saying that tattoos are nothing, tattooed smoking is still a good girl, theoretically.
But if you insist on doing it, you have to be mentally prepared, don't expect others to look at you normally, you choose by yourself, and don't force others to agree with what you choose.
My friend told me: my son inherited his father's business, with his mother's surname, there are many inconveniences in business, my business card only has my name, no surname, as soon as I say that I follow my mother's surname, I always feel that I am embarrassing my father. My cousins also treat me like an outsider!
The parties said that they should not follow their mother's surname!
And from the day you get married, you are a guest of your mother's family, and you want to go to your mother's family tree, and the next generation will say, if you have the ability, you can try, unless you are rich, follow your mother's surname.
Otherwise, you think it's so easy, meet and ask a man what is the name of your child, take the mother's surname, and let others think that the man is a cuckold, otherwise he will follow the mother's surname.
Traditionally, there are also those with female surnames to recruit sons-in-law. What is odious is to repeatedly jump between tradition and the present world, and only talk about the self-interested part, as long as the rights do not talk about obligations.
With the mother's surname, it rejects marrying a chicken, marrying a chicken, marrying a dog, and following a dog. The mother's surname ignores the husband's ability, and is directly unwilling to take responsibility for the family, the wife, and the children.
It directly reduces the cost of living for women (wives) and even children. If you don't get divorced, you can go away from home (men who don't have a sense of old belonging are forced to go their own way).
Children with their mother's surname will come to adulthood in the future: they will be charged with the mother's strength! There will be a sense of loss instead of pride in grandparents and uncles, and unfortunately it will bring a lot of negative attitudes.
And now there is a family tree of the ancestors, how can the family name continue in the family tree? Neither side is it, you are at ease, but your son complains that you have made it impossible for him to return to his roots, and you have become the most vicious person and have been cursed by generations of children and grandchildren.
In many parts of the world, women marry their husbands with their husbands' surnames, and children are even more unquestionable (mothers give birth to children and raise children, and the belonging of children does not need to follow their mother's surname, and the essence of following the father is to protect and care for the mother and child).
Now, the power to give men a little bit is also taken up by powerful women. Since that's what happens to you, I don't want to fight with you, I'll go along with your strength. Since there is such a potential, there will be forces to return my rights and interests, and attach my due conditions.
There are also those two children, one with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname, which is basically worse. This situation should be discussed by both families, and there is no problem if both families agree.
But only the little couple discussed it like this, and there will definitely be problems in the future. For example, when the child grows up, after your parents are a hundred years old, they will make a will and inheritance to only one child, and this is also the case on the grandfather's side, so won't family conflicts come?
Even if the two children can see it, there will be some changes in the relationship between the last two children. The two brothers have different surnames, and there will be psychological differences in the education process, which requires parents to spend more effort to guide the education.
The guidance is not good, when the two brothers quarreled, they called you from my grandfather's family, not our family, and the lethality of this sentence can be imagined.
The male Y chromosome is inherited from the paternal line, and the male child follows the mother's nature, but the Y dye is still the man's family, and the surname is self-deception, and in the end, the man's family does not recognize it, the woman's family is not close, and you yourself don't follow the mother's surname, why let the child follow the mother's surname.
Two children, one with the father's surname and the other with the mother's surname, this is purely to insert contradictions for their children in advance, and outsiders will think that the two children are born from a second marriage.
If you are not a brother or sister, this will also make children subconsciously think that they are not close, especially when they encounter outsiders or their own relatives and occasionally say: What is your surname?
It is cool for normal Ming media to marry a child with the mother's surname, and a series of problems brought about later will ruin the family if it is not solved well for the child and the family.
The mainstream values of society are that children follow their father's surname, and some people have to act in opposition, and one day society will make such people regret it. Wu Zetian was such a powerful figure in history, but he still regretted it before he died, and went to the emperor to return to Li Tang!
Many people propose to follow the trend with their mother's surname, to put it bluntly, they are just happy in their hearts, where will she take care of the feelings of children, just say that Qingming worships the mountain against the tombstone of the ancestors.
Your child worships or doesn't worship with a foreign surname, go back to his parents' house and take the child to worship the mountain, other relatives also don't recognize your son, and the two ends are not pleased.
For thousands of years, the Chinese tradition is that children take their father's surname, and now some mothers call their children to take their mother's surname, or they are selfish and do not really think about their children.
In addition to the enrichment, the woman asks the child to follow the mother's surname, but it is not clear, and truly excellent and independent women will never be entangled in the issue of surname.