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There are three types of relationships between men and women:
1: Healthy relationships
2: Unhealthy relationships
3: A relationship that had to be improvised
Except for the first relationship, unhealthy relationships and improvising relationships should be ended in a sense!
Especially, in an unhealthy and improvising relationship, once the experience brought to you by the other party is endless negative suffering, then timely stop loss is the only way to save yourself!
When faced with feelings, those who express misery while clinging to the wrong relationship are typical "poor people must have something to hate"!
Really, I hope you don't!
Exchanges between the opposite sex, if the other party brings you these 3 experiences: the person is wrong, stop the loss in time!
1: It always makes you feel self-denying
In a healthy relationship, two people will be each other's guides, leading each other to face the sun, which is mutual energy nourishment!
When you are in a relationship, you can't feel that you are getting better, but in the moment of self-denial, when you fall into your own emotions, it is probably the person you are looking for "wrong".
Because, nine times out of ten, this person often suppresses you, ignores your strengths, infinitely magnifies your flaws, and ignores your positive contributions......
So, you gradually become a self-questioning person!
So, you're anxious, you're restless, you're always feeling like you don't have all the good things to deserve!
In your bones, you always want your shining point to be seen, but in the end, you gradually become inferior in the days of self-shading, and even think that such a bad self is not worthy of walking in the world......
I tell you, if you are experiencing such a bad experience at this time, please end the relationship as soon as possible!
It's good to always know that you are motivated, but never forget: you are you, you don't need to deny yourself, you are unique, and never question yourself!
2: You are always present as a contender, by the side of the person in front of you
A healthy relationship must be based on loyalty!
If you can't be loyal and single-minded, you won't be able to rely on a future at all!
Some people will find reasons for the person in front of them to say that it is other people of the opposite sex who take the initiative to approach...... In fact, how can there be a ghost without a house thief?
In a healthy relationship, there is no one who is the contender for the relationship, only the two enjoyers in the relationship!
People who can't give you loyalty and a sense of single-mindedness are never your good match!
In the face of the gains and losses you care about, the other party not only does not know how to converge, but is intoxicated with the self-charm of being "contested...... Such a person is inferior and distorted in his bones.
Such a person is destined not to give you complete love and care for the devil! With such a person, you will never be truly empathetic, cared for and distressed!
In fact, a truly healthy relationship must give you a sense of existence and security, if you can't experience such a down-to-earth feeling, it is God telling you to stop losses in time!
Because, you really deserve better!
3: Always doing the so-called right thing according to your own wishes, but it keeps dragging you down
In real life, there is such a kind of person who is always self-centered, and all behaviors are defined as right and wrong based on their own willingness!
In the face of such a person, no matter whether you strictly set up constraints or use all means to guide them, you cannot make them make subjective changes in consciousness, but ignore your feelings and needs!
There is no doubt that such a person is the wrong person!
The right person will not always be in your position and centered on you, but will consider your feelings in some details, and take into account your thoughts and opinions in major decisions!
Because, in the hearts of the right people, you are "grasshoppers tied to a rope", and you are a community with a shared destiny for the rest of your life!
If a person can't provide you with the experience of being respected, empathized, and the right needs being met, then you are basically being consumed and dragged down......
Obviously, this is the wrong person who is trying to make you lose yourself in a toxic way!
In a relationship, don't overestimate your position in the relationship, and don't overestimate your endurance!
A person loves you and gives you all the experiences that are positive experiences, otherwise they are negative emotions and self-repression, and even anxiety and irritability......
So, whether it's the right person or not, in fact, your perception is the answer!
Love is the purgatory of people in the world. Whether it's love or friendship, the right time and the right person can achieve positive results!
I am an author in the field of high-quality emotion, a professional counselor, and have provided valuable and meaningful help to many counselors. I have rich experience in marriage, relationships, interpersonal relationships, etc., if you have any emotional confusion, please feel free to consult me.
Topic discussion: Are you a person who knows how to love yourself correctly and stop losses in time? Let's talk about it in the comment area.