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Between men and women, one person's loneliness is the fault of two people!
It's just that some people would rather be lonely together than let go of each other's hands, while some people are tormented by the "continuation" of the relationship all the time!
In a healthy relationship between men and women, it is not that there are no contradictions and differences, but in the face of all problems, only two people can solve problems at a common distance, rather than continuing together with loneliness and suffering!
There is a word called "the end of fate", which must be familiar to everyone. When this word appears in the relationship between men and women, the most obvious individual experience is loneliness and suffering, even pain and helplessness!
As it turns out, none of them came out of nowhere!
Whether it is a lover or a husband and wife, once these 3 signs appear, fate is over!
1: Grasp the shortcomings of the other party infinitely magnified and negated
When two people are together, as long as the relationship is still there and the relationship has not deteriorated, then both parties will ignore each other's shortcomings to a certain extent and get along with each other in a way that observes each other's strengths!
When one party is holding on to the other party or both parties are holding on to each other's shortcomings, they still don't know how to guide correctly, but use harsh and mean words to deny each other......
Don't doubt, don't hold on, fate is really over!
When you can't tolerate the shortcomings of the other party now because of the shortcomings of the other party, and stab the other party with words, it is enough to explain:
This person is nothing more than anything to you!
And vice versa!
If the two of them are obviously not pleasing to each other when they are together, they have to be tied up because of their gains and losses, and sooner or later they will be hostile to the point of exposing the ugliest viciousness of human nature.
At that time, it will not be as simple as quarreling and denying each other, and it is likely to harm each other's lives!
2: For a long time, I have been entangled in the question of whether to separate or not
Whether it is a lover or a husband and wife, once there is a phenomenon between each other for a period or a long time when someone mentions separation or expresses separation, but there is no separation for the time being, it already means that the fate between each other is nearing the end!
Any kind of relationship must follow the principle of two-way running.
When one party wants to end, the other party struggles to keep it, or both sides have the psychology of ending, but on the issue of who is active and passive, they don't want to be a person who loses face, so they have been holding on......
Actually, it really doesn't make any sense at all!
There is only one reason to be together, but there can be countless excuses to be separated!
Adults who are truly responsible for themselves will only establish a relationship a little slower and slower, and then establish a relationship when they see it! However, when it comes to ending a relationship, they will not procrastinate at all!
Because of this, deliberately reluctant to be together is a consumption of each other, and it is really unnecessary!
3: In the relationship, because of the loss of loyalty, there is no place for trust
Many people who have experienced betrayal, in the face of the return of the betrayer, do this thing for themselves:
Repeatedly ask the betrayer whether you love me or not, and whether I am the only one in your heart......
How ridiculous?
How can someone who loves you betray you?
When loyalty breaks the original tranquility of a relationship, there is no place for trust!
Of course, not all relationships that have experienced betrayal must end!
However, for all the relationships that are still together after experiencing betrayal, only those who "value personal practical interests" can be relatively better off in the relationship that has ended!
Otherwise, expecting the emotional component to exist in the relationship is undoubtedly a kind of self-contempt!
In short, when the relationship between men and women, once the above 3 manifestations appear, it is enough to show that fate is exhausted and there is no power to return to heaven!
In the face of such a situation, don't care about sadness and blind redemption, love yourself correctly, and end the wrong relationship as soon as possible, so that your life can reopen the light and illuminate your way forward!
Negative emotions are common to all, and when you are willing to put them aside, you can not be bound by them. Ultimately, it's up to you to do that!
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Topic discussion: Have you met the person who is worthy of staying with you for the rest of your life?