Extramarital affair analysis: What is the difference between the successful original partner and the failed original partner from the primary three?
Why do many extramarital affairs have similar circumstances but different outcomes?
Some of the original partners can successfully separate the juniors, while some of the original partners can only watch the success of the juniors.
In an extramarital affair, what determines the success and failure of the original partner?
Su Yue used two similar cases of extramarital affairs to tell you where the difference is.
The first is a failed case, when the original partner came to Su Yue, she had already been divorced.
And the cheating man still has to marry the mistress, she is a little unwilling, so she will come to Su Yue.
The original partner and the cheating man have been married for ten years, but they can't compare to the junior who has been cheating on the man for a few months.
The original partner thought that the junior had no other advantages except that he was younger.
Su Yue chatted with this original partner for a few hours and learned about the situation in detail.
found that this original partner had a lot of cheating women, and it was easy to make mistakes,
I just like to despise the junior, I can't see the advantages of the junior, and I blindly grasp the weaknesses of the junior.
The junior is indeed not as good as the original partner, and the family is not as good as the original match.
But this mistress is very powerful, so he can coax a cheating man,
Don't think it's an advantage, this is a kind of self-reliance that allows a man to give up his interests and choose a junior.
This original partner felt that Xiao San was not very good, and he underestimated the enemy from the beginning, and his attitude towards Xiao San and the cheating man was problematic.
treats the junior with disdain, and feels that the junior can't pose any threat.
Treating cheating men is coercion and temptation, telling cheating men that if they divorce, it is the cheating man who suffers and the like.
Su Yue wants to remind me that this kind of thing is not a means of solving extramarital affairs at all.
To solve an extramarital affair, it is necessary to understand the real situation, and the original partner has a firm attitude.
Then, according to the internal problems of the cheating man and the mistress, the relationship between the two people is divided.
This original partner is not firm enough, and he thinks that he can be separated by doing a little thing.
The enemy is light on the junior, and there is no plan for the cheating man, and the final result can be imagined.
Xiao San has been giving in, but in fact, he is coaxing the cheating man, making the cheating man contradict the original partner,
The cheating man felt that there was no need to continue to send it to his original partner, so he chose to divorce directly.
At this time, the original partner still felt that it was the cheating man who regretted the divorce, and the junior was not very good.
After the divorce, it is this original partner that regrets it.
Because she was unprepared and didn't want a divorce, the sudden divorce property division was divided equally,
The cheating man has a good ability to make money, and he has also shared a lot of money, and he has a good time with the mistress in the back.
So the original partner regretted it and wanted to save the marriage, but the marriage has become a thing of the past.
The second is a successful case, the original partner didn't find out about the extramarital affair for a long time, so he came to Su Yue to solve it.
This original partner has also been married for many years, but when he found out that he was cheating, the affair didn't last long.
The original partner is very determined to solve the extramarital affair, and the cheating man is more hesitant.
is that the original partner said that he wanted to solve the extramarital affair, otherwise he would have to divorce or something,
The cheating man will break up with the little one temporarily, but he won't break it off.
When the original partner's attitude is not so resolute, the cheating man will be with the mistress again,
After repeating it a few times, the original partner felt that this was not good,
But she wasn't a problem-solver herself, so she came for help.
To solve the problem of marriage, I have no idea of my own, but I attach great importance to this problem.
Choosing to find someone to help solve it is not a wrong idea.
After all, what is your purpose, is to save your marriage, and the method is most needed.
The cheating man will temporarily break up with the mistress in order to have the original match.
It proves that cheating men are afraid of divorce, and the wives are firm in their attitude to divorce.
After the cheating man chose to abandon the mistress, the original partner found the mistress to stimulate the mistress,
let the mistress entangle the cheating man, and the mistress became a stumbling block to the return of the cheating man,
When the cheating man and the mistress disagree, there are many contradictions, and the relationship will naturally break down.
Of course, the settlement of extramarital affairs is definitely not a matter of one sentence or two sentences.
The process is very long, and the junior is not stupid, and the junior will also be tempted.
The marriage and extramarital affair that the cheating man wants go hand in hand, and they have to be separated.
He will also repeatedly test his wife's attitude, and if she firmly maintains her attitude, she will eventually be able to resolve the extramarital affair.
Of course, Su Yue is not saying that my suggestion is the key to the success or failure of the original partner to solve the extramarital affair.
It's the attitude of the original partners, and some of the original partners will do whatever it takes to solve the extramarital affair.
Some of the original partners did not have any planning, and they didn't even decide whether to settle or divorce.
Just follow the rhythm of the cheating man and the mistress, he has no choice, and it is naturally difficult to control the dominance.
In fact, the attitude of the original match determines a lot of problems.
The original partner firmly wants to solve the extramarital affair, and with this ruthlessness, the cheating man and the mistress will be afraid from the beginning,
The cheating man and the mistress are afraid, and the original partner solves it, which is naturally twice the result with half the effort.
If the original partner was submissive from the beginning, he would lose most of the time if he didn't solve the extramarital affair.
Therefore, attitude determines success or failure, and there are no conditions to create conditions to achieve your goals!
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