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I'm Zhang Xiaoyun, a retired ordinary worker and a headline writer. After I retired, I put my stories into words, so that more people can understand the lives of ordinary people and feel those subtle and sincere emotions. Today, I'm going to share with you a true story that happened in my home.
Recently, something happened at home that made me annoyed and helpless. Yesterday my husband and I were at the dinner table talking about my pension. As a retired employee, this issue is naturally a big deal for me, because it is related to the financial security of my retirement. Little did I expect my husband to tell our brother-in-law, who is my husband's brother's wife, about the content of this discussion. The leak of this news did not cause any major problems, and today, my mother called and said: "Xiaoyun, I heard that you have a lot of pension, give me 2,000 a month." ”
When I heard this, I panicked. My mother is old, lives in her hometown, and barely survives on a meager pension. Her plea put me in a dilemma. I had planned to save my pension for our own daily expenses and medical expenses, but now my mother's request seemed so natural. After all, she is my mother, who has worked hard to raise me for many years, and now that she is old and frail, how can I ignore it?
So, I could only smile bitterly and agree: "Mom, I do have some savings here, and I will try my best to help you." ”
"Okay, okay, Xiaoyun, you can send me 2,000 yuan, and Mom can have a comfortable life here." There was a hint of anticipation in her mother's tone.
"Okay, Mom, I got it. I replied with some reluctance.
After hanging up the phone, my mind was in a mess. Two thousand pieces is not a large amount to me, but it is not a small amount either. My husband and I are not rich in retirement, and having that extra money to support our mother will definitely have an impact on our daily lives. However, my mother's request made it difficult for me to shirk, this is the responsibility of being a child, and it is also the traditional Chinese concept of "raising children to prevent old age".
At this point, I realized that I needed to think hard about how to deal with this conflict. I have some entanglements in my heart, maybe through the expression of words, I can find more answers and solutions.
I promised my mother on the other end of the phone, but my heart was in chaos. My husband and I don't have a lot of pensions, and we are very tight every month, plus medical expenses and daily expenses, 2,000 yuan is a lot of money for us. But thinking that my mother was not living comfortably in her hometown alone, I couldn't really refuse this request.
"Xiaoyun, what's wrong? Seeing that my expression was wrong, my husband asked with concern.
I shook my head and told my husband what my mother's call was. He was silent for a moment, then said, "This is indeed a bit difficult to do. It's true that we are not rich, and we are not well off enough to live now, so it will be a bit difficult to bear this additional expense. ”
"But my mother is alone in my hometown, and it is not easy to live on a meager pension. I sighed.
My husband patted my hand gently and comforted, "I understand, but we can't risk our pension either." It's a question to think about. ”
I nodded and looked at my husband gratefully. Indeed, this is a question that needs to be well considered. My mother is my loved one, and her quality of life should be guaranteed, but we also need to ensure the quality of life ourselves. I wondered how to deal with this contradiction.
After a while, the husband said, "Maybe we can do this, give my mother a sum of money first, tell her that this is the maximum amount we can help, and then talk about it depending on the situation." ”
I listened to this advice and felt that there was some truth. It is true that we cannot easily give a fixed amount per month, but we can help the mother to a limited extent and try to meet her needs as much as possible. In this way, it can also relieve our stress and avoid embarrassing situations in the future.
So, I decided to call my mother and talk to her. On the other end of the phone, my mother heard this proposal from my mouth and said with some dissatisfaction: "It's better not to have such a little money." ”
I patiently explained, "Mom, we also have our own living expenses now, and it is impossible for us to give you so much money every month. But we will try to help you, and we will definitely give you full support when you encounter something important or need it. ”
My mother was silent for a while, but finally agreed to my proposal. I breathed a sigh of relief that at least there was a temporary solution to this contradiction. But I know that this is just the beginning, and there will be many more similar problems to face and solve in the future.
As time went on, my husband and I still had a good time. Although we occasionally feel troubled by family conflicts, we all try to adjust our mindset and try to resolve the problem as much as possible. In life, there will always be some inevitable friction and running-in, and the important thing is how to face and solve it.
I also learned a lot in the process. I began to look at family relationships and human interactions in a whole new light. In my opinion, the harmony of a family requires the understanding and tolerance of each member, and it requires everyone to work together to maintain it.
Soon after, I received another letter from my mother. In the letter, she told her about her life in her hometown and asked me about my current situation. I looked at the letter with mixed emotions in my heart. My mother is one of the most important people in my life, and her care and anticipation make me feel a great responsibility, but at the same time, I feel an invisible pressure.
However, I know that this responsibility cannot be shirked. As a daughter, it is my responsibility to take care of my mother as well as possible so that she can receive the care and respect she deserves in her old age.
In my opinion, the family is a subtle and magical existence. It is a harbor of love and a home for the soul. Although there will be friction and conflict, as long as everyone is grateful and understanding, we can create a warm world.
In the future, I hope to continue to record these authentic and touching stories through words. Family is the most precious wealth of each of us, and it is also the most important support in our life.
A few months later, life at home is still at a steady pace. My husband and I try to keep our expenses under control and try to maintain our retirement. Although our mother's financial pleas caused us some trouble, we tried to adjust our mindset and try to resolve the problem as much as possible and find a solution.
However, the accident happened at a family gathering. The party was held to celebrate my husband's birthday, and we invited some friends and relatives to our home for dinner and gathering. I prepared the dishes carefully in the hope of making the party lively and enjoyable.
Everyone got together, talked and laughed, and the atmosphere was very harmonious. In the midst of laughter, the husband's younger brother brought up the topic of pensions. He jokingly said to me, "Xiaoyun, I heard that your pension is quite large, I am really envious." ”
My heart tightened, but I still tried to keep my composure, and replied with a smile: "Where, where, that's actually it." ”
Unexpectedly, at this time, her husband took over the conversation and said calmly: "Yes, Xiaoyun's pension is indeed considerable, and we can be regarded as living a decent retirement life." ”
My heart suddenly became heavy. I blamed myself for not mentioning personal finances on such occasions, especially on such a sensitive topic as my pension. But the words that had been uttered were like arrows that could not be taken back, and I felt a little helpless.
After the meeting, my husband's brother-in-law said to me, "Sister Xiaoyun, I heard that your monthly pension is quite large, I don't know if you can help us." ”
My heart tightened, and I understood what she meant. I was embarrassed and overwhelmed by the fact that this kind of personal financial problem was brought up on such an occasion. I forced a smile and tried to find a tactful way to respond: "Oops, this...... In fact, we have a lot of living expenses ourselves, and we will do our best to help a little. ”
My husband's brother-in-law listened to my answer with a look of disappointment on her face, but she didn't continue to ask. I was secretly glad that I had not continued to be in an embarrassing situation on this occasion.
After the party, my husband and I sat in the living room, he looked at my somewhat uneasy expression and asked softly, "Xiaoyun, what's wrong with you?"
I smiled wryly and shook my head: "It's nothing, maybe these things always make me feel a little embarrassed." ”
My husband looked at me deeply, patted my hand gently, and comforted, "Don't worry too much, they are also unintentional." Let's be careful in the future to avoid talking about these private topics in public. ”
I nodded, grateful to my husband for his understanding and support. After all, these private economic issues are really not suitable for public discussion. I am determined to be more careful in the future to avoid allowing this awkward situation to happen again.
However, this episode of the party made me even more aware of how delicate and complex relationships are in the family. Everyone has their own privacy and troubles, and we should respect each other's feelings and not easily touch the bottom line of others' privacy.
Looking back, I realize that I still have a lot to learn and improve when dealing with family relationships and personal issues. In this process, I hope to continue to record these real and touching stories through words. Family is the most precious wealth of each of us, and it is also the most important support in our life.
After the awkward episode of a family gathering, I began to pay more attention to how communication and interaction were in the family. I realized that harmony in family relationships is not only about material support, but more importantly about mutual understanding and respect.
A few days later, I received a letter from my mother. In the letter, she brought up the topic again and asked if I could give her some financial support on a regular monthly basis. Looking at this letter, I felt a little embarrassed in my heart. Mother's expectations are real and candid, but our own financial situation cannot bear too much additional burden.
I decided to discuss this with my husband. At dinner, I told my husband about my mother's letter, and he pondered for a while, then said, "Maybe we can give my mother another amount of money, but not a fixed amount every month, but according to our own actual situation and needs." ”
I nodded, thinking it was a good suggestion. It's not that we don't want to help our mothers, but we need to consider our own abilities and the actual situation of the family. We decided to write back to our mother, being honest about our thoughts and realities, and promising to do our best to support them if we were able.
A few days later, I received a reply from my mother. She understood our situation and thanked us for our honesty and efforts. She said, "Xiaoyun, I know it's not easy for you, and I don't want to cause trouble for you. As long as you have me in your hearts, I will be satisfied. ”
Looking at my mother's reply, I felt an inexplicable warmth in my heart. Mother did not force it, but understood and tolerated our predicament. Her tolerance and understanding made me feel the power of family affection and made me more determined to take care of her as best I could.
Later in life, my husband and I gradually found a more balanced and rational way to deal with the family finances. We have learned to face the problems in the family more calmly and rationally, and try to achieve balance and harmony.
Time has passed quietly, and my husband and I are still living simple and fulfilling. Through our own efforts and understanding, we gradually found a balance in our family relationships. Each family member has their own responsibilities and roles, and only by understanding and supporting each other can we go through every stage of life together.
Looking back on these experiences, I am deeply aware of the importance of family relationships. Family is the warmest harbor in our lives and a strong backing on our way forward. We should cherish and care for the family, manage and maintain the family relationship with our hearts, so that every member can feel love and warmth.
In the future, I hope to continue to record these authentic and touching stories in words. Family is the most precious wealth of each of us, and it is also the most important support in our life.
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