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(倪萍)
Ni Ping's parents divorced when she was 7 years old, and she and her brother lived with their mother. After the divorce, Ni Ping's father formed a new family, while her mother has been divorced and single.
The lack of father's love and her mother's resentment made Ni Ping and her father have a deep estrangement.
In the long 39 years, Ni Ping resisted and rejected her father, and the family relationship between father and daughter was tearful and painful.
In 2005, Ni's father passed away due to geriatric diseases. When she was dying, Ni Ping guarded her biological father's hospital bed and called "Dad" with tears in her eyes.
After experiencing the changes in marriage and the ups and downs of life, what kind of perception does Ni Ping have about family affection?
01
(Ni Ping and her brother)
Ni Ping was born on February 16, 1959 in Weihai, Shandong, and has crossed the threshold of 65 years old this year. Ni Ping, who is over the age of six, still remembers many heart-wrenching memories of her childhood, especially the marital entanglements between her father and mother, and her tearful growth years.
Ni Ping's childhood and girlhood were gray and heavy, with little laughter and happiness.
Ni Ping's biological father is named Liu Shijie, and her mother is named Ni Daoxiang, and both husband and wife work in a government agency in Qingdao. Ni Ping has an older brother named Ni Zhitao, and the brother and sister are two years apart.
Ni Ping's father was loose by nature, and he had no big goals and pursuits in life. And Ni Ping's mother has a strong personality and hopes that her husband will make a difference in his career.
The huge contrast in personality made the Ni family's parents stumble. At the beginning, the parents were still arguing with their children behind their backs, and the quarrel was red-eyed, so they no longer cared about their children.
(Ni Ping's mother)
As soon as his parents quarreled, his brother Ni Zhitao couldn't eat, and he often woke up in the middle of the night. But Ni Ping hid in the corner and cried, feeling that she was different from other children, and she had low self-esteem in her heart.
Liu Shijie knew that the quarrel between husband and wife had brought great harm to his children, and in order to minimize this damage, he hid out when the husband and wife quarreled again. This made Ni's mother even more annoyed, and she quarreled even more after her husband came home.
In order to dilute the conflict between husband and wife, Liu Shijie often lives at his parents' house. In this way, the couple seems to have fewer quarrels, but the rift in their relationship is getting bigger and bigger.
Ni's mother felt that her husband was tired of running away from home because he was tired of herself, and indirectly publicized the ugly things in the family to the outside world, embarrassing her.
(Ni Ping when she was a child)
In 1966, when Ni Ping was 7 years old, her parents didn't want to make do anymore and sat down to discuss the divorce.
Ni's mother proposed a pair of children with her, and Ni's father paid monthly child support, and the couple reached an agreement.
Soon, Ni's parents went through divorce procedures, and Ni Ping and her brother lived with their mother.
When her parents divorced, Ni Ping not only did not feel sad, but there was a relief in her bones: she no longer had to listen to her parents' quarrels, and she would no longer live in a war-torn environment.
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(Ni Ping and Grandma)
Two years after the divorce, Ni's father restarted the family. Although remarriage is Ni's father's freedom, it invisibly stabbed Ni's mother, and the resentment in her heart is even heavier, and she often complains in front of a pair of children, accusing Ni's father of not being the same.
Under the coercion of negative emotions, Ni's mother couldn't help but exaggerate and put all the responsibility for the divorce on Ni's father. After hearing a lot of such words, Ni Ping had a strong resistance to her father, thinking that her father had broken up the family.
And after Ni's father has a new family, he has no energy, and it is inconvenient to have too much contact with a pair of children. Except for coming over once a month to deliver living expenses, he rarely meets with Ni Ping's brothers and sisters.
Day by day, year after year, the family relationship between Ni Ping and her father froze unconsciously.
(倪萍)
At school, Ni Ping never mentioned her father, and sometimes when her classmates talked about her father together, Ni Ping walked away.
Ni's mother pulled a pair of daughters alone and experienced a lot of hardships in life. At that time, she was only in her 30s, which was the most lush age for a woman, but because she had a pair of children by her side, she did not dare to remarry, and few men were willing to marry her with an oil bottle.
Watching her mother struggle and exhaustion to support a family, Ni Ping often shed tears, and her resentment towards her father became even heavier in her tears.
In 1979, Ni Ping was admitted to Shandong Art College (the predecessor of Shandong Art College). Before going through the enrollment procedures, she went to the police station alone to change her name, and changed her mother's surname to Ni, and changed Liu Ping to Ni Ping.
In 1983, Ni Ping graduated from university and was assigned to work at the Shandong Drama Theater.
Due to the lack of father's love, Ni Ping got married in 1986, and her husband Li Yan was a reporter for a media outlet in Qingdao. Ni Ping likes mature and stable men, but her husband does not bring her spiritual nourishment.
On the contrary, Ni Ping often goes out to film, and her husband still has a lot of complaints. Ni Ping, who witnessed the discord between her parents since she was a child, has prejudices against men in her heart.
(Ni Ping and Shi Liang)
Growing up, Ni Ping experienced a lot of hardships, and she didn't want the next generation to repeat the mistakes of the past. Therefore, no matter how Li Yan urged after marriage, Ni Ping was reluctant to have a baby.
Now there is news on the Internet that Ni Ping and Li Yan gave birth to a daughter, which is completely a rumor.
In 1988, Ni Ping won the 6th China TV Golden Eagle Best Supporting Actress Award for her role as "Yao Yuhui" in the TV series "Snow City". Li Yan felt that the gap between himself and Ni Ping was getting bigger and bigger, and he couldn't feel safe in his marriage.
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At the beginning of 1989, Ni Ping and Li Yan went through divorce procedures.
(早年倪萍)
Marriage is a major event in a woman's life, but Ni Ping has never talked about marriage and divorce with her father. The father learned from others that Ni Ping was going to divorce, and took the initiative to call her and wanted to talk to his daughter.
Ni Ping behaved very coldly: You don't have to worry about my affairs, I can handle it myself. After saying that, he hung up the phone.
Ni's father's hand holding up the microphone froze in the air, and he felt a different taste in his heart.
In 1990, Ni Ping was transferred to CCTV and served as the host of "Variety Show". In 1991, Ni Ping began to host the CCTV Spring Festival Gala, and has hosted the CCTV Spring Festival Gala 13 times, becoming a well-known host.
(倪萍)
Ni's father is proud of his daughter, but this daughter was born to him, but it seems to have nothing to do with him. Because they haven't seen each other once in a few years, and they don't usually have phone contact.
In 1996, Liu Shijie played chess and chatted with several old people in the park, and everyone talked about Ni Ping and said that she was the pride of Shandong. Liu Shijie couldn't suppress the joy in his heart and said: Ni Ping is my daughter.
Everyone didn't believe it, saying that he was bragging, and pulled Ni Ping to put gold on his face. Someone else asked him: Your surname is Liu, her surname is Ni, how can you be father and daughter?
Liu Shijie was reluctant to reveal the scars of the divorce, sighed deeply and stopped squeaking.
(Ni Ping hosts CCTV Spring Festival Gala)
A health care product company in Qingdao learned from an insider that Liu Shijie was Ni Ping's father, and decided to find Ni Ping as an endorsement through Liu Shijie.
Soon, Liu Shijie was walking in the park and was invited to the hotel by the staff of the health care product factory. Before he could figure out what was going on, the staff warmly called him "Uncle" and ordered him a lot of good food.
Liu Shijie fell into the clouds, and refused to move his chopsticks until he understood the truth, and the other party said his intention.
Ni's father told the truth: Ni Ping's mother and I have been separated for a long time, and I have rarely contacted my daughter over the years, and it doesn't work for me to speak.
(Ni Ping and Zhao Zhongxiang)
The other party said: No matter how famous Ni Ping is, she was born to you and your daughter, shouldn't she give you face?
The other party toasted Ni's father again, and gave him cloth vegetables, and held him to the sky. Ni's father was put on top and couldn't get down, so he agreed to try.
04
A week later, Ni's father took a train from Qingdao to Beijing. After she got in touch with her daughter, Ni Ping did not invite her father to her home, but sat with him in the hotel lobby for a while.
Ni's father was embarrassed to speak, Ni Ping didn't know what to say, the father and daughter were silent for a long time, and the atmosphere was quite embarrassing.
(Ni Ping and Grandma)
It wasn't until Ni Ping was about to leave that Ni's father explained his intentions. Ni Ping categorically refused: The unit has rules that you can't make endorsements casually, don't let these things bother me in the future.
Ni Ping wanted to arrange for his father to live in a hotel, but Ni's father felt uncomfortable, so he used the excuse of staying at a relative's house and lived in a small hotel by himself. Ni's father didn't fall asleep in the middle of the night, lying on the bed and crying.
After experiencing this incident, he realized with a heartache how deep the estrangement between his daughter and himself was!
Ni's father returned home and never took the initiative to mention this matter to the outside world, but gradually, the bad relationship between him and Ni Ping still spread.
(倪萍)
Some people sighed: I gave birth to such a famous daughter, but I can't enjoy a little filial piety from my daughter, it's really sad!
After returning from Beijing, Liu Shijie had a deep knot in his heart. But Ni Ping is his daughter after all, and Ni's father can't help but miss, worry, and worry about her.
In November 1999, Ni Ping and Wang Wenlan's son Huzi was born. As soon as the child was born, she was unfortunate and suffered from a congenital eye disease, and Ni Ping and her husband spent all their family savings and borrowed a sum of money from relatives and friends in order to treat their son.
Ni's father's sister has always kept in touch with Ni Ping, and Ni Ping has a relatively harmonious relationship with her aunt. Ni's father asked his sister to bring some money to treat Huzi's eye disease, but Ni Ping resolutely refused to accept it and asked her aunt to return the money.
This incident pierced Liu Shijie's heart like a needle. He was very aggrieved: both husband and wife are responsible for the divorce, why did the daughter put all the responsibility on him?
In the quiet night, Liu Shijie shed tears when he thought of it.
At this time, Ni Ping's elder brother Ni Zhitao served as the deputy head of Qingdao Shinan District, and he had little contact with his father. Since her mother and brother settled in Qingdao, Ni Ping sometimes took her son back to Qingdao to visit relatives.
Ni Ping lives at her mother's house, visits her brother and sister-in-law, and sometimes her aunt's house, but never gets in touch with her father. Ni's father asked his sister to bring a message to Ni Ping several times, and wanted to invite her and her brother to come out for a get-together, but Ni Ping flatly refused.
05
(Ni Ping and her mother)
In 2003, Ni's father suffered from severe heart disease and diabetes and was admitted to the hospital. When Ni Ping went to Qingdao on a business trip, her aunt said to her with tears: Your father is very sick and doesn't know how long he can live, you go and see him.
In an instant, tears welled up in Ni Ping's eyes, and there was an indescribable pain in her heart. She bought some gifts and fruits and went with her aunt to visit her father in the hospital.
The arrival of his daughter made Ni's father excited, and he cried like a child. Ni Ping sat on the edge of her father's hospital bed, shedding tears while peeling apples for her father.
Since her parents divorced, Ni Ping has never called her father again. The word "Dad" was so foreign to her that she couldn't pronounce it.
And Liu Shijie longed for his daughter to call him "Dad", he looked at Ni Ping's eyes, his eyes were full of expectation. Ni Ping said, "You can recuperate with peace of mind" and left.
Walking out of the hospital, Ni Ping's eyes were full of tears, and she didn't know who these tears were for.
In July 2005, Liu Shijie's geriatric illness worsened, and the hospital issued a critical illness notice. The aunt called Ni Ping and said that her father wanted to see him for the last time, and Ni Ping returned to Qingdao with mixed feelings and met her dying father.
Under the torture of his illness, Ni's father became skinny and skinny, and the whole person was old and haggard.
When his daughter arrived, Ni's father was very happy and had a smile on his face. He asked his daughter anxiously: Can you call me Daddy?
Ni Ping hesitated for a moment, called "Dad" with tears in her eyes, and then cried uncontrollably. After a long time, Liu Shijie closed his eyes and passed away peacefully.
When he died, there were still two tears in the corners of his eyes. Ni Ping wiped her father's tears with a tissue, but her own tears hit her father's face again.
After her father left, Ni Ping was entangled for a long time, and when she recalled the past with her father, she would cry.
(Ni Ping and her son)
As she grew older, coupled with her two failed marriages with Li Yan and Wang Wenlan, and her happy and harmonious ending marriage with Yang Yaya, Ni Ping realized a lot of the true meaning of life.
She finally understood: when her parents divorced, she should not put all the responsibility on her father. Although her parents divorced, her father still loved her.
Ni Ping remembered what her grandmother said: Your father is a good person, your mother has a strong personality, you can't blame your father entirely. Ni Ping felt that she was ashamed of her father, and if there was an afterlife, she was willing to make amends.
(Ni Ping's recent photo)
Ni Ping also realized that when a husband and wife are divorced, one party cannot speak ill of the other party in front of the child, which will affect the child's character development and exacerbate the conflict between adults.
Therefore, Ni Ping never said bad things about Wang Wenlan in front of her son, Huzi had a good relationship with his father, and his mentality was also very sunny, which made Ni Ping feel very pleased.
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