Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Two people in a marriage are like they are at opposite ends of the scale.
If there is a mismatch in the value of each other, the state of the relationship will be out of balance.
A woman is overly dependent on her husband to live, wantonly consuming her husband's patience and love, which is tantamount to accelerating the deterioration of the relationship.
The husband will begin to dislike the woman, unwilling to give her respect and attention, and ignore her contribution in marriage.
If you are hated and disliked by your husband, do one thing.
02. To chase your dreams and find your own possibilities
Cousin Li Le became a housewife after getting married, and she was convinced of her husband's words, "I am responsible for making money to support the family, and you are responsible for being beautiful like a flower".
Gradually, there were fewer and fewer common topics between her and her husband.
No matter what she said, her husband would interrupt her impatiently, and even turn away, showing his disgust and disgust with his back.
After Li Le reflected on himself, he felt that he couldn't go on like this.
She began to submit resumes online and was actively preparing to find a new job.
Subsequently, she used her free time to pick up her major and try to fill the vacant part of herself.
Although she had to start from the most basic part of her first job out of marriage, it did not dampen her confidence in the slightest.
Now that she has a job, she has more time and focus, and she doesn't suffer from her husband's attitude. When I think about problems, I also become more rational and sober.
When your husband starts to dislike you, it means that you have no value in his eyes.
You have devoted all your energy and time to marriage, but in the hearts of men, you only feel that you have no ego and no pursuit.
Disliked by her husband, a woman should try to get out of marriage and strive to realize her own value.
Get out of marriage, find your own possibilities, don't treat marriage as the whole of life, and chase your dreams.
When you live an independent and dazzling life, men will naturally appreciate and respect you from the bottom of their hearts.
03. Change the mode of getting along and make the relationship between husband and wife more vivid
Many women will have a wrong perception: they think that if they obey men in everything and accommodate men, their feelings will become better.
In fact, the more angular-edged the stone, the easier it is to be handled.
A large part of the reason why a woman is disliked by her husband is that she is too weak and has no temper. Always put yourself in a very humble position.
If you want to change this state, women can try to adjust their relationship mode.
Show your own personality and make getting along with each other no longer so boring and lifeless.
For example, occasionally, you can make some innocuous jokes with your husband to liven up the atmosphere with each other.
Or appropriately refuse the demands made by the husband, occasionally show a less step-by-step manner, so that the husband's mood has some ups and downs, some fluctuations.
Managing feelings, the most feared thing is that there is no confrontation, like a pool of stagnant water.
Women should try to change the way they get along, disturb their husbands' moods, and make their feelings active.
04. Enhance your own value and live a more colorful life
In "Happy Events in the Family", the eldest brother is often full of successful careers, and his wife is dedicated to serving the elderly at home.
Cooking, laundry, cleaning, basically no rest at the end of the day.
However, Chang Man always dislikes his wife, saying that she doesn't know how to clean up and dress herself, and taking it out will make him lose face.
When his wife learned that Chang Man was having an affair with other women outside, she ran away from home in anger.
She completely changed her image, practiced her singing skills hard, and became a hot celebrity in the singing room.
After his wife left home, Chang Man realized how much she had paid for the family. Without her, the home becomes a mess, and every day is a bunch of worries.
In the singing room, he saw his radiant wife, regretted it in his heart, and wanted to ask for his wife's forgiveness.
A good marriage is when the husband and wife go hand in hand and fight the ups and downs of life together.
Being disliked by her husband may be that a woman lags behind her husband too much, drags him back, and becomes a burden on his shoulders.
Women should make changes in time, enhance their own value, close the gap between them and their husbands, and live a more colorful life.
Zhang Ailing said: "All women always have a place to live, not others, only themselves." ”
If a woman finds that she has no status in marriage and is disliked by her husband, she must learn to enhance her own value.
Waiting for others to illuminate, it is better to let yourself be a light and live your own wonderful life.
05. Summary
Women should also learn to manage themselves in marriage.
No one will be their eternal dependence, and clinging to others will only make them extremely passive.
At any time, women should not neglect their own management and strive to realize their own value.
Don't treat marriage as the whole of life, love yourself more, make yourself stronger, and have more confidence to grasp your future.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.