Having female friends around you, whether single or married, can feel anxious. They are all looking for a happy lifestyle. So, how exactly should women live in order to be happy? This is a question that each of us is exploring.
"Gone with the Wind" is a classic work by American writer Margaret Mitchell, which tells the life story of Scarlett, the eldest daughter of a farmer at Tara Manor in the South. This novel embodies the author's wisdom and hard work, and has become a permanent literary masterpiece.
In the face of great changes in life, our hearts may be crushed and difficult to revive. This is a common situation that deserves our deep consideration.
Scarlett was not defeated by reality, but became a woman who dared to be independent. Of course, in the process of growing up and self-discovery, she also had her hesitations and losses.
Through her experience, we can understand four life philosophies. But to truly understand these philosophies, one needs keen insight and deep life experience.
01 Don't love someone wishfully, so that you don't miss the right person
Plato once said, "If you feel unhappy or unhappy, be brave enough to let go." This is a succinct and inspiring sentence that reminds us to pay attention to our hearts and adjust our state in time.
No matter how passionate the love is, if there is no result, we should not hesitate to let go. Although it can make people's hearts twist when they are separated, as long as they persevere, their future life will no longer be bound by wrong love. At some point, you will find new happiness waiting for you. So, let the past become a memory and move forward to a better future.
In life, many people have the experience of having difficulty letting go of the people they love deeply. Wishful thinking that doesn't recognize you in time can end up hurting yourself. We should learn to grow and let go of those past feelings when the time is right.
Hao Scarlett, the heroine of the novel "Gone with the Wind", made the wrong choice when she was emotionally immature.
She and Ashley are childhood sweethearts who grew up together, and because they have been together for a long time, she has always thought that she loves him deeply, and she also thinks that he must love her. But soon after, Ashley proposed to someone else. In Scarlett's heart, it is inevitable that there will be some loss and sadness, but she also understands that this is Ashley's personal decision, and she should respect and bless him.
She found it difficult to admit the reality, and she always admired Ashley, and in the end it had become an inseparable obsession in her heart.
Ever since he met Scarlett, Red has fallen in love with her, and even though he knows she already has a crush on her, Ashley, he doesn't mind. This love story is both touching and challenging.
But Scarlett has never been able to forget the past. Red had gone to great lengths to preserve their deep relationship, hoping that she would discover her beauty and forget about Ashley altogether. However, no matter how hard he tried, he couldn't get into the depths of Hao Scarlett's heart.
Eventually, he lost all faith.
Scarlett has experienced many difficulties in her life, and these trials have allowed her to gradually mature. In the process, she also has a deeper understanding of love. Eventually, she saw how stupid her obsession was, and she wasn't really in love with Ashley, she just didn't want to give up. Unfortunately, her stubbornness caused her to lose her happiness.
We can learn from her emotional experience that loving someone unilaterally is not the right choice, because it may miss out on someone who is truly compatible with you.
Some people are just out of habit to be with you, and when they suddenly get with another woman, you will feel depressed and miserable, but this emotion is not necessarily love.
Smart women don't get caught up in fantasies, and when they realize that they don't have anything to do with each other, they're relieved. Only by stopping unrealistic imagination can life have fewer regrets.
02 Life is difficult, but being a selfish and unsociable person is happier
Once the war broke out, Scarlett took on the task of taking care of the family and no longer enjoyed the privileged life of a young lady. She has to be busy with household chores and farm work every day, and at the same time learn about business. This role reversal must make her face life more courageously, strongly, and seriously.
Scarlett even sacrificed her marriage in order to take care of her family, but it may be difficult for those around her to understand her decision. However, Scarlett doesn't care about other people's opinions, as long as she can ensure the happiness and tranquility of her family, she feels that it is worth it.
There are a lot of difficulties in everyday life, so it's not wrong to be selfish once in a while. For Scarlett, she never thought she was anything different, just an ordinary person. As long as she can live well, she is willing to pay any price. Whether it is sacrifice, forbearance or tolerance, as long as these good qualities can bring happiness, she is willing to do it.
In life, many people sacrifice everything they have, but they may only get disgust instead of gratitude and love. This helpless situation is distressing.
Sometimes we need to be a little selfish, not to pay too much attention to other people's opinions, but to live our own lives, which will lead to happier.
Scarlett is a woman who has the courage to be herself, and this is worth learning from. You don't have to always try to be satisfied so that you can live more easily.
03 Dare to pursue everything you want and don't set limits in life
In a bygone era, the status of women was extremely low. After a woman gets married, most of them are husbands and children at home, and it is impossible to pursue their ideals. But Scarlett's mindset is broad enough that she doesn't think she's worth as much as men. She took on the sawmill business by herself and worked hard to realize her own value.
Scarlett has always pursued everything she wants, and has never been limited to life. Through her own hard work and perseverance, she finally lived a better life.
Women with few self-limits are usually unhesitant to act and have a better ability to take action. They are clear about their career and emotional goals, and they are also calm when communicating with men, and they always maintain spiritual equality.
They are independent and self-confident, and they have autonomy. Whether in life or emotionally, they are not overly dependent on others and are able to hold on to their own destiny. This attitude allows them to be at ease in the face of anyone or anything, and to move forward firmly with their inner strength.
04Don't be afraid to be confused, never give up to see hope
In the novel "Gone with the Wind", there is such a sentence: "When a woman encounters the worst, it is already very bad." But when she went through the worst, no difficulties could really scare her anymore. This quote is both simple and profound, describing the impact of the ordeal on people. It also shows the resilience and courage of a woman who has been able to cope with any difficulties.
Each of us has a low point in our lives. At that time, you will feel confused, afraid, and even lose confidence. But when you've experienced the worst and are able to face it bravely, you won't be scared anymore, no matter what challenges the future throws at you. Your heart will be incredibly strong. If you can get this kind of workout, no matter what feat you face, you will be able to face it with determination and overcome it.
In the novel Gone with the Wind, Scarlett is an indomitable woman who is determined and brave and never gives up in the face of adversity. Through her story, we can gain more strength and be able to move forward with more confidence in the face of the challenges we face today.
Don't be afraid to be confused and never give up to discover the existence of hope.
Seeing this text, I can't help but think of Jiang Nansun in the TV series "The Golden Years". Her father, who owed a huge amount of debt because of stock speculation, could not bear the huge pressure, and finally chose to commit suicide. The occurrence of this tragedy, in addition to making Jiang Nansun lose her father, also made her bid farewell to her past life as a princess and was burdened with heavy debts. This makes us deeply aware of the risks of stock trading, and we must be cautious about investment and financial management.
She looks weak on the outside, but she is not defeated by reality. Although she felt scared and lost, she never gave up. In the end, Jiang Nansun not only paid off his debts, but also bought the house with his own efforts and persistence, so that his family could live a better life.
The road of life is full of unknowns, and only by persevering can we see the distance of success.
If you are in a difficult situation and feel like you are about to collapse, you might as well read the book "Gone with the Wind", and from the experience and choices of the protagonist Hao Scarlett, you may be able to find your own shadow and find the direction to move forward.
Giving up is the easiest way to take a difficult attitude, but if you want to live your life to the fullest, you need to know how to store strength.
Gone with the Wind is a world-famous book that conveys to us four important life philosophies, each of which can make our lives more beneficial. The girls who can read this book are not easy because they have the courage to face difficulties. Every perseverance and dedication will make you a better person.
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