In a Zen poem, it is written: In spring, there are flowers in full bloom, in autumn there is a bright moon in the sky, in summer there is a breeze blowing on the face, and in winter there is silver snow drifting. As long as you don't get bothered by trivial things, the world is the most wonderful season.
In the past, I always felt that only good conditions could lead a happy life. But as I've gotten older, I've come to realize that the secret to true fulfillment and happiness is having a good mindset.
The years pass quietly, and we cannot avoid being coerced by this world. In life, we are often subjected to heavy stress and unbearable suffering, and sometimes we are caught off guard. People with a bad mentality will also feel angry about small gains and losses, and keep complaining. We need to maintain a positive mindset and face all kinds of challenges and difficulties. In this way, you can face life and work more easily and become a better version of yourself.
People with a good mindset will not let themselves get into trouble, but will adopt a variety of ideas to deal with life.
Generally speaking, they have the following three habits, and even if there is only one of them, it is very commendable.
01 Don't envy others, know how to be content
We often ignore what we have and only look at the lives of others and envy their little bits. However, we should learn to appreciate our gains and achievements and enjoy life.
We always think that others are better off than ourselves, but even those who seem to be very happy may have hidden pain deep down in their hearts. Only the person concerned himself truly understands these sufferings. We should not easily compare our own lives with those of others, because everyone has their own story, their own difficulties and challenges. To be truly happy, we should focus on our lives and work hard to overcome the problems we face.
Just like Gu Jia in the TV series "Thirty Only", she lives in one of the most luxurious communities, her husband runs his own company, and she has a lovely son.
Gu Jia's life is yearning in the eyes of her best friends.
Who can really understand the difficulties and pressures that Gu Jia is facing? She feels uneasy every day because her husband's company has a special nature, and any accident caused by carelessness can destroy their happy life in an instant. It was a tremendous pressure that made her feel like she couldn't escape.
Gu Jia's marriage looks extremely happy in the eyes of others, however, the estrangement between their husband and wife has long existed, and it eventually led to the betrayal of her husband.
No one's life is perfect, so there is no need for jealousy and envy. People with a good mentality, the reason why they can live a better life is because they always maintain a good habit: they will not envy others.
They know how to cherish what they have in front of them and be content with it.
Li Yinhe once said: Be grateful for what you have, and don't be jealous of what you haven't won, so that you can maintain a happy mood.
People believe that the most precious thing is not something someone else has, but a life that you earn through hard work.
You will have more happiness when you have peace of mind and are no longer jealous of others but truly enjoy the current view.
Those who really live their lives like poetry are not very good, but have the wisest attitude: not to envy and envy other people's lives, and to know how to cherish the present, so as not to live up to the best time in life.
02 Open-minded, nothing can not be let go
There is a verse in the Diamond Sutra that all existence is as ephemeral as a dream, as fleeting as a bubble, and as fleeting as a drop of dew, and should be viewed as such.
The world is changing rapidly, but people with a good attitude can face the changes in life freely. They are able to deal with problems with a calm mind, and will not be overly pursued or concerned about gains and losses. No matter what difficulties you encounter, you can deal with them with an open-minded attitude.
In our lives, we often encounter disappointments and frustrations. We give genuinely to our friends and treat our partners with affection, but the response we receive in the end may not be the same, and it may even hurt our feelings. This is a phenomenon worth pondering, and we should learn to deal with and accept these situations, and face setbacks and difficulties with a more mature and rational attitude.
For those who are not open-minded enough, they may be immersed in darkness and disappointed in everyone around them. Due to the lack of a good attitude, they will think that the world is cold and unforgiving, and life is getting worse and worse. Unfortunately, this negative attitude prevents them from truly savoring the joy of life. We should learn to be open-minded and look at the people and things around us rationally, so that we can truly enjoy the beauty of life.
People with a good mindset always maintain a good habit: they are big-hearted, they can let go of everything, and they do not feel too much sadness even if they are hurt by those closest to them, or if they lose everything. This mindset can keep people calm, reduce negative emotions, and better cope with life's challenges.
I like this sentence in "Zhuangzi" very much: "Gain but not happy, lose but not worry". It deeply teaches us to remain calm and calm, and not to be affected by gains and losses.
Life is full of gains and losses, and we will gain many precious things, but we will also lose a lot.
Some people don't lose control when faced with hurt and loss, but are able to see life from a new perspective. The good thing about this mindset is that they don't see their current experience as the end of the world, but understand that loss is just a part of life. They know how to cherish the possibilities of the future and grasp what they have now, so as to make life more fulfilling and meaningful. If we want to make life hot, we must have a rational and calm mind, and bravely face the ups and downs of life. In this way, we can better enjoy every moment of our lives, appreciate every experience, and become stronger and more confident people.
Those who are narrow-minded will put too much emphasis on losing and gaining and will not be able to achieve inner peace. They experience anxiety and restlessness when they are unable to get what they are after.
People with a good mentality know how to look down on gains and losses, and are open-minded, and there is nothing that cannot be let go. Such people live freely and easily, and they are easily satisfied.
03 Perseverance and don't give up easily
There is a question on Zhihu: What is the most unmotivated person you have ever seen? A highly praised answer is: Anxious about the status quo, but do not have the perseverance to practice the determination to change themselves.
Most people aspire to be great, but life is often challenging, and everyone faces trials.
Those who have a negative mindset are always complaining and complaining, are not self-motivated, and never actively seek solutions to problems. There are only three minutes of passion, and when I encounter some difficulties, I give up easily. Such a mindset is doomed to failure.
When someone around them is accomplished, people with a good mindset don't feel anxious or think they're incompetent. On the contrary, they are able to turn pressure into motivation and therefore generally show great perseverance and do not give up easily. Such a person is able to view accomplishments with a relaxed, formal attitude and is therefore able to tackle life's challenges more calmly.
Wang Xiaobo once said: "In life, you will encounter some good things, and you will encounter some bad things, you can afford the good things, and the bad things can also be endured, so it is not bad to be an ordinary person like this." ”
In the process of human growth, there will inevitably be setbacks and injuries. Psychologically fragile people are easily defeated in the face of difficulties, and the enthusiasm and motivation they once had disappeared in an instant, and they just want to escape. However, we need to learn to face adversity, maintain a positive mindset, and strengthen our resilience to frustration. With a lot of effort, we can also overcome difficulties and achieve success.
People with a positive mindset are able to withstand all the stress and work hard to overcome setbacks and difficulties in life.
Perseverance and not giving up is a valuable quality, no matter how difficult it is, we must move forward bravely. People with this kind of courage can eventually achieve their dreams.
Those who have a good mindset tend to have the three habits mentioned above, and as long as they can have one of them, it is enough to be admired.
In life, it is inevitable to encounter unsatisfactory things, but most people who know how to be content will not envy the lives of others, but will try to live their own lives. Only when we have a good mentality can we not be entangled, jealous or impetuous, and can we go wider and wider on the road ahead. We should learn to cherish the opportunities and happiness in front of us more, grasp the present moment, and live a more relaxed and formal life.
A person who has no obstacles in his heart will not be constrained, and his heart is extremely open-minded, and even in the face of difficulties, he can easily overcome them.
Our mindset can shape our fate. In order to make our steps lighter, we might as well develop good habits and get rid of psychological baggage. Don't let the weight hold us down, let our mind be relaxed.
Life is long and full of accidents, and failure is only a temporary setback. A person with a good attitude will not give up easily, and the more difficult and dangerous it is, the more it can stimulate its inner potential. Such a person can turn bad into good, have a positive attitude towards life, and will definitely be able to live a very wonderful life. We should all be like such people, forge ahead, and never lose faith and courage, no matter how many challenges we encounter.
It takes time to develop a good mindset and habits, and only those who know how to be content, open-minded and do not give up easily can live each day with a positive attitude.
Life is full of challenges, and only by taking the helm of your own destiny can you navigate the wind and waves, reach the ideal destination, and enjoy a better scenery of life.