Many people around me are focused on making money. It seems that making money can become the biggest reliance in life. Not quite.
Some middle-aged people have houses and money, but their lives are scattered and not happy.
Even, it is painful.
In fact, the economic foundation is one thing, but life has never been so simple.
When people reach middle age, the biggest hole card is not money and housing, but these three things.
01 Have a good intimate relationship
In reality, when people reach middle age, if they have an intimate relationship that they can rely on, the bad things in life can be reduced by more than half.
This intimacy can be a friend, a lover and family.
Some people live very hard, but most of the bad things come from home, which is very disturbing.
For example, some people have reached middle age, although their marriage is not smooth, but they have best friends, which is good.
At least the emotions, there is an outlet. The distance in my heart is not too far. Won't be too lonely.
On the contrary, there are people who are very pitiful. There is no one in the circle of friends, and my lover and family are also very unreliable.
There are even many indescribable contradictions, consuming themselves and torturing themselves every day.
It's like some people, when they open their mouths when they meet, they are annoying husbands and children.
This is a manifestation of an uncomfortable and annoying life.
When people reach middle age, the circle of making friends is already narrow. Most people hang around their families and children, which is boring.
If the quality of intimacy is still worrying at this time, it really can't be overcome.
will become oneself, very big consumption.
02 A more leisurely time
Middle-aged people need to take it easy to regain their energy and strength.
Because people at this stage are tired. If you are a little tired, you will need more time to recover.
Moreover, middle-aged people have a lot of worries, and they need a leisurely time to relax themselves.
If a middle-aged person always has a good amount of free time, he is already very happy.
Otherwise, it's bad.
For example, some middle-aged people have laid a good economic foundation early. Then, there are few worries in life, and there are not even children to worry about.
Then they will be able to live a leisurely life and even enjoy life.
They can travel everywhere or retire early, and they are all comfortable.
On the contrary, if a middle-aged person lacks time freedom, he will live a very depressed life.
He can't maintain any hobbies and hobbies, and he lacks freedom.
It's going to be painful.
At any stage, people need enough free time to rest and have fun.
Without these things, our psychological pressure will be enormous, and our happiness will be reduced.
The biggest pain of middle-aged people, sometimes, is this, not satisfied.
03 Transparent outlook on life
When people reach middle age, they see things transparently, and those who are not transparent, live two completely different lives.
The former, who has seen through life, will not bother casually. And the latter, who can't see through it, leads to mediocrity disturbing themselves.
For example, people who can't see through it tend to get caught up in a lot of details and get infinitely angry with others.
Even have unrealistic fantasies, hoping that they will become rich overnight, or whatever.
And those who have seen through it a long time ago do not have these things.
When people reach middle age, a good economy comes first. Then there's extra time, high-quality intimacy, and a transparent outlook on life.
I can't do it.