Parents often ask similar questions:

"My child was very smart when he was a child, he could memorize dozens of ancient poems at the age of 3, and he often scored 100 points in the first and second grades, why did he not work later on?"

The child's grades were very good in the lower grades of primary school, but the higher he went, the worse he became, and when he reached junior high school, he became a very ordinary child, which hurt his parents' hearts.

What is even more unacceptable to parents is that some children are still in the top few of the school when they are promoted to junior high school, and after being admitted to a key junior high school, they think that their children are still the best, but later they are not even good, and no matter how hard they work, they are just ordinary students.

What's going on here?

Last week, I participated in a reading club, and one of the teachers, who has been a junior high school homeroom teacher for more than ten years, shared several truths about primary school learning, which is basically an answer to this phenomenon.

Senior class teacher: Parents must know the truth of learning in several primary schools, don't bring your baby into the pit

1. Don't go to cram school, it's more important to maintain interest in learning than grades

Many children who do well in primary school fall behind in junior high school because they learn passively under the control of their parents in the lower grades.

The amount of knowledge in the three subjects of primary school is not much, as long as the child can listen carefully in class, complete homework after class, and keep it before 20 students in the class, of course, it is better before 10 students.

However, some strong parents require their children to be at the top of their ranks, so they enroll their children in several cram schools. In this kind of operation, there is a high probability that the child will have good grades.

But what does it cost to pay for good grades?

It consumes a lot of time that children should be playing, and children are stressed too early, which also destroys their interest in learning.

If the parents' demands exceed the child's motivation, or the child does not have the desire to take the initiative to learn, but is forced by the parents to go to cram school, it is easy to cause the child to become bored with school.

In elementary school, children are young and do not know how to resist, or dare not resist, but when they reach adolescence, the coercive means of parents will inevitably fail, and at this time, children who lose the external motivation to learn will definitely decline their grades.

Therefore, parents should not register their children for classes lightly.

You must know that children's learning motivation has stages, sometimes the enthusiasm is a little higher, sometimes the enthusiasm is a little less, and parents closely observe secretly, rather than going to the class as soon as the grades drop.

Even if the child's grades really drop, it is not to be sent to a cram school to solve it, and most of the child's situations are best understood by the parents, so parents must first figure out the reasons: is it difficult to learn, because they hate the teacher, have mood swings, are bullied, and are tired of school?......

Only by finding out the details can we solve the problem, and the so-called knowing oneself and knowing the other will not be defeated in a hundred battles.

If parents think that their children are not working hard and directly push them to cram schools, it is likely that the time and money invested by parents will not be rewarded as expected, and they will become less and less aware of their children, and their grievances will become heavier and heavier, and their children will lose their interest and self-confidence in learning.

Therefore, we should take a long-term view, do not pay too much attention to grades in primary school, and maintain interest in learning is more important than grades.

2. Primary school is not about learning knowledge, but about cultivating good habits

Some parents will blame their child's poor grades on their child's lack of effort, but they usually don't realize that it is actually their child who has not formed good study habits.

In primary school, especially in the lower grades, don't pay too much attention to how much knowledge you have learned, but develop a good study habit.

Except for a very small number of children who are particularly smart and stupid, most children are actually more or less talented. One of the main reasons for the divergence in the later learning process is the problem of habit.

For example, pay attention to the content of the teacher in class, do homework without delay, review in time after class, and divergent thinking in various aspects.

Children with good study habits will naturally have poor grades!

Mr. Ye Shengtao, a well-known educator, once said: "What is education? In a nutshell, it is to cultivate good study habits. ”

Therefore, in primary school, children must develop good learning habits from an early age, such as getting up early and reading in the morning, doing homework as soon as possible after school, improving the speed of homework, and completing things on the same day.

When "habits become nature", excellent habits naturally help children become excellent talents.

3. The foundation of learning in primary school is a lot of reading and good logical thinking skills

Everyone knows the importance of reading.

If you want to learn Chinese well, it comes down to being able to read other people's compositions and write good ones.

In addition to the basic foundation of learning words, it is to enhance the sense of language.

How to cultivate a sense of language? It's nothing more than a lot of reading. Language learning is the same as English learning, a large amount of input can be output.

As the old saying goes, "Read a book a hundred times, and you will see its righteousness" is this truth.

The foundation of science learning is the ability to think logically.

Although logical thinking ability is not specific knowledge, logical thinking ability is the underlying ability of children's learning, as long as children build good thinking skills, even if the grades are not outstanding in primary school, and in the higher and more difficult learning stage, it will reflect the advantage.

Therefore, in the child's childhood, it is the stage of rapid brain development, and refining these basic underlying abilities is the king.

4. Exercise a good body

It is much wiser to use your spare time to develop a hobby than just studying.

Wang Enge, the president of Peking University, once gave 10 words to the freshmen, the first sentence was: make "two friends": one is the sports field and the other is the library. Go to the sports field to exercise and strengthen your physique, and go to the library to read a lot of books, and constantly "recharge", "store" and "discharge".

When we reach a certain age, we will find that life is a long-distance race, and what do people who run well at the end need most?

Children who love sports have good physical fitness, which is to lay a good foundation and accumulate strength for the high-pressure learning state in middle school. Children who love sports are also more cheerful and optimistic, full of energy, and have a good attitude.

Exercise is not just about fitness and building muscles, people who can continue to exercise are more resilient and more resilient, and resilience is one of the most important non-intellectual factors in success.

If you want to cultivate your child's concentration and anti-frustration ability, instead of sitting at home playing games and participating in various interest classes, it is better to take your child to outdoor sports: hiking and climbing, so that children can feel the secrets of nature and absorb the essence of nature.

Therefore, it is best to find a way to cultivate a sport that children can enjoy and stick to in elementary school.

The truth is the truth, and the truth is the truth, but the difference between the big environment and the small environment makes there all kinds of differences between children and parents and parents.

Everyone's comprehension ability is different, and parents' cognition is different, and parents' executive ability is different, which leads to the different advantages of family education, and finally leads to the great difference in the level of children.

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Wanqiu talks about parenting, the mother of the two babies who loves to learn and think, welcome to pay attention, complain about the chickens and dogs that raise babies together, share the happiness of raising babies, and summarize the lessons of raising babies.

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